I met this Love of my life early this year, she's everything to me I can't begin to mince words. the same month we met, my job started dwindling and the next month that followed I was out of job, this was a job I got middle of last year.. Well, she's been supportive and I've been trying to get a new Job but all to no avail but I can see that she's becoming very worried about it, even though I'm trying to calm her down that very soon things will turn out right but she seems to be thinking otherwise. I loved her with the whole of my heart, I have never had any gf like her and I planned to seal my relationship with her on the altar as I'm not getting younger and I'm in my early 30s, but the situation that befell me unknowingly is ruining the whole thing.

A1129:
I met this Love of my life early this year, she's everything to me I can't begin to mince words. the same month we met, my job started dwindling and the next month that followed I was out of job, this was a job I got middle of last year.. Well, she's been supportive and I've been trying to get a new Job but all to no avail but I can see that she's becoming very worried about it, even though I'm trying to calm her down that very soon things will turn out right but she seems to be thinking otherwise. I loved her with the whole of my heart, I have never had any gf like her and I planned to seal my relationship with her on the altar as I'm not getting younger and I'm in my early 30s, but the situation that befell me unknowingly is ruining the whole thing.

At your age you still de do "she's everything to me"...mtcheew. Or are you still in secondary school ?

AroOkigbo:


At your age you still de do "she's everything to me"...mtcheew. Or are you still in secondary school ?

dear bro, let go of her, if she truly loves, she will stay no matter the conditions,its better to let go of her than to later regret in your life

AroOkigbo:


At your age you still de do "she's everything to me"...mtcheew. Or are you still in secondary school ?

You dey mind am? OP no worry the tin go soon hit u like thunderbolt. No advise for you.

What's causing the fracas now?

Do you mean she's bad-luck or what?
You should know this, no one's luck is tied to another person. Get this over with. It's just a mere coincidence. Channel this energy into other sources, mbok!
Don't blackmail the poor girl.
Since jobs aren't coming, learn a skill. There are other money-making ventures. Until you've been laid off, one can't ascertain the ephemerality of a current status. It goes and comes.
Arggh! Cut the girl some slack!

A1129:
I met this Love of my life early this year, she's everything to me I can't begin to mince words. the same month we met, my job started dwindling and the next month that followed I was out of job, this was a job I got middle of last year.. Well, she's been supportive and I've been trying to get a new Job but all to no avail but I can see that she's becoming very worried about it, even though I'm trying to calm her down that very soon things will turn out right but she seems to be thinking otherwise. I loved her with the whole of my heart, I have never had any gf like her and I planned to seal my relationship with her on the altar as I'm not getting younger and I'm in my early 30s, but the situation that befell me unknowingly is ruining the whole thing.

God should be everything to you.

once you say someone is "everything to you" just know you have moved from love to obsession and stupidity. no one is everything to you but yourself. love yourself and you'll be able to live without anyone.
this is not love you're in. its obsession and infatuation.

mgtow:


You dey mind am? OP no worry the tin go soon hit u like thunderbolt. No advise for you.

Leave him alone na.

I honestly think at this stage of your life, you don't need to worry if anyone stays or choose to leave your life (sign of great decision makers). You are in your 30s and that's why I am a bit worried.

Bro, age 40 is close by and a fool at forty they say is a fool forever....so you need to make a good life worth a references before you get to that age!

Is she is yours, she is gonna stay. Stop using your productive time to worry, start thinking outside the box in order to have a good life!

HOW NOT TO GET YOUR HEART BROKEN

1. Make peace with the fact that change is the only constant thing in life, and you are only here to enjoy the lady while IT lasts. Because it won't. It's a contract and it will expire.

2. Never spend more than you are comfortable with throwing away. As you see me so, I am the King of Transport Fare. Mr N500 or N1000 is my middle name. Am I cheap? Probably!

3. Tell her you love her and play the part of Romeo convincingly, keeping in mind that's all she wants to hear and that's how you can get her to fûck you like a porn star. Even hoes want to feel like you love them and can't do without them.

4. Lie about anything and everything. Exaggerate. Make calls with imaginary business associates talking million-million. Her eye go sharp and her ear go raise like antenna. At this point you can even start billing her off which she will gladly pay after all she is expecting something in return.

5. Flirt with other girls, preferably have other girlfriends. Never allow yourself get invested in one woman, no matter how hot she is. If you catching yourself slipping, slap yourself to revert to factory settings. Complain about one or two women that are disturbing you in her presence and even ask for advice.

6. Take everything she tells you with a pinch of salt. No matter how much of a liar you are, she is waaay better trust me. I can't stress this enough. If she says she's going for night vigil, tell her to pray for you, and of course, don't believe her.

Lastly and most importantly;

7. Have a life! When you are busy with more important things, you will always consider women as nothing but sport. Something you engage yourself with for its entertainment value and nothing more.

Deuces!

MISEDUCATIONS:
once you say someone is "everything to you" just know you have moved from love to obsession and stupidity. no one is everything to you but yourself. love yourself and you'll be able to live without anyone.
this is not love you're in. its obsession and infatuation.

He loves her. Leave him alone.

Mummy said i shd tell you dis.
Is either you leave her now or she leave you. They are always loyal to someone pocket.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Leave him alone na.

Because you want Op to become a sissy chasing woman instead of a better life?

Nuff said!

mgtow:
HOW NOT TO GET YOUR HEART BROKEN

1. Make peace with the fact that change is the only constant thing in life, and you are only here to enjoy the lady while IT lasts. Because it won't. It's a contract and it will expire.

2. Never spend more than you are comfortable with throwing away. As you see me so, I am the King of Transport Fare. Mr N500 or N1000 is my middle name. Am I cheap? Probably!

3. Tell her you love her and play the part of Romeo convincingly, keeping in mind that's all she wants to hear and that's how you can get her to fûck you like a porn star. Even hoes want to feel like you love them and can't do without them.

4. Lie about anything and everything. Exaggerate. Make calls with imaginary business associates talking million-million. Her eye go sharp and her ear go raise like antenna. At this point you can even start billing her off which she will gladly pay after all she is expecting something in return.

5. Flirt with other girls, preferably have other girlfriends. Never allow yourself get invested in one woman, no matter how hot she is. If you catching yourself slipping, slap yourself to revert to factory settings. Complain about one or two women that are disturbing you in her presence and even ask for advice.

6. Take everything she tells you with a pinch of salt. No matter how much of a liar you are, she is waaay better trust me. I can't stress this enough. If she says she's going for night vigil, tell her to pray for you, and of course, don't believe her.

Lastly and most importantly;

7. Have a life! When you are busy with more important things, you will always consider women as nothing but sport. Something you engage yourself with for its entertainment value and nothing more.

Deuces!

UyaiIncomparabl:


He loves her. Leave him alone.

shut up your mouth. you're a woman and your insecurity can only subside when a guy is obsessed with you because you never loved yourself.
when your obsessed BF stabs you after cheating on him you call men jealous! be careful what you wish for. encouraging men to obsess on you has its price.

decatalyst:


Because you want Op to become a sissy chasing woman instead of a better life?

Who said he shouldn't chase a better life?

Let him. He hasn't just told us what the girl is worried about. Is she worried that he might've been perceiving she brought him ill-luck or that things are getting out of hand and she can't be patient any longer? This, I'm yet to understand.

MISEDUCATIONS:
shut up your mouth. you're a woman and your insecurity can only subside when a guy is obsessed with you because you never loved yourself.
when your obsessed BF stabs you after cheating on him you call men jealous! be careful what you wish for. encouraging men to obsess on you has its price.

Nuff said!

UyaiIncomparabl:


Who said he shouldn't chase a better life?

Let him. He hasn't just told us what the girl is worried about. Is she worried that he might've been perceiving she brought him ill-luck or that things are getting out of hand and she can't be patient any longer? This, I'm yet to understand.

you're just a low esteem creature who never loved herself. if you did you would be able to seperate infatuation from love.

The weak and silly OP has deactivated.

MISEDUCATIONS:
you're just a low esteem creature who never loved herself. if you did you would be able to seperate infatuation from love.

Ubunja, you ain't making sense.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Nuff said!

damn right. now go work on your esteem issues and love yourself first. no one can love you more than you love yourself

UyaiIncomparabl:


Who said he shouldn't chase a better life?

Let him. He hasn't just told us what the girl is worried about. Is she worried that he might've been perceiving she brought him ill-luck or that things are getting out of hand and she can't be patient any longer? This, I'm yet to understand.

How will you understand? You're a woman na. We the men understand perfectly.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Ubunja, you ain't making sense.

when love is not enough for you just know the problem is within you. when you need a guy to OBSESS over you so you can feel LOVED then something is not right in you.
someone who is self-confident and loves herself will not accept obsession and infatuation as love. but will be content in pure love that is free from craziness.
a girl who knows her worth will drop a guy who says stalkerish things like "if you leave me i'll kill myself" or "you are everything to me" etc. coz thats not healthy and that wont end well.

UyaiIncomparabl:
The weak and silly OP has deactivated.

I know you were really prepared to balance on this thread lol. I guess we were too harsh but what he really needs is tough love, especially at his age. A man should use his 20s to date and understand women. 30s are for consolidation, not 'she's everything to me'.

That's embarrassing.

My brother. U met her and some months later u lost your job ?? Oh dear!!!!
U said she is supportive??
What I fail to understand is why she's bworried;,for the fact that your r broke and outa job or it's her fault you r out of the job?

MISEDUCATIONS:
when love is not enough for you just know the problem is within you. when you need a guy to OBSESS over you so you can feel LOVED then something is not right in you.
someone who is self-confident and loves herself will not accept obsession and infatuation as love. but will be content in pure love that is free from craziness.
a girl who knows her worth will drop a guy who says stalkerish things like "if you leave me i'll kill myself" or "you are everything to me" etc. coz thats not healthy and that wont end well.

I must say, you're quite ambiguous, but not to worry, I was able to deduce a point from your comment.

Just stop wasting your strength typing, because the silly OP has deactivated.

UyaiIncomparabl:
The weak and silly OP has deactivated.

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You Calling Him Weak And Silly But Look At Your advice To Him...



You Didnt Say Anything About The Desperate Girl In His life, who Is In A Hurry To Enjoy Good Things Of life...

mgtow:


I know you were really prepared to balance on this thread lol. I guess we were too harsh but what he really needs is tough love, especially at his age. A man should use his 20s to date and understand women. 30s are for consolidation, not 'she's everything to me'.

That's embarrassing.

Spot on. At his age, he's still frail and all fugazy. If ever that girl dumps his ass, with his weak attitude, he's bound to commit suicide. What would he live for? His job gone. His girl gone. I always advise my friends (Male and Female) to develop a thick skin. Disaster looms, we know not when.

IamPlato:
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You Calling Him Weak And Silly But Look At Your advice To Him...



You Didnt Say Anything About The Desperate Girl In His life, who Is In A Hurry To Enjoy Good Things Of life...

He didn't state where the girl said she's desperate to leave him for the finer things of life. He only stated she is worried. Why? We don't know. Until he tells us, we can't pass a judgement. And errr, yes, he is weak. If he isn't, he wouldn't have deactivated. He doesn't have a thick skin.

UyaiIncomparabl:


I must say, you're quite ambiguous, but not to worry, I was able to deduce a point from your comment.

Just stop wasting your strength typing, because the silly OP has deactivated.

it was never meant for him. these Original Posters never take advice.

UyaiIncomparabl:


He didn't state where the girl said she's desperate to leave him for the finer things of life. He only stated she is worried. Why? We don't know. Until he tells us, we can't pass a judgement. And errr, yes, he is weak. If he isn't, he wouldn't have deactivated. He doesn't have a thick skin.

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So You Didnt Understand What He Meant By "She Being worried"...


Well,he Was Tryin To Tell You That, the Lady Was Gettin Worried That His Joblessness was Taking Too Long and She Wouldnt Be Able To Stick Around Too Long with A Guy Who Cant Take Care Of Her, which Is The Mentality Of Many Ladies