Why is he calling ogun to kill nature, order and giving

Lool and lool.

Based on logistics , the man should relocate! When it comes to money and comfort....common sense is the only thing that should prevail!

ohh

XhosaNostra:
IMO, it's also irresponsible to leave your job to join your wife. Two salaries are still better than one. If we got bills to pay, there's no reason for anyone to leave their job to join the other just for cuddles. Sorry but to me that's emotional thinking. Unless you got a job lined up with a better salary, otherwise stay where you are! We'll make time for each other when both our schedules permit it. With less money coming in, you might end up fighting over finances anyway.

True! seconded!

hmmm

I laugh when people who are not married start advising people who are married.gentle men,if you make the mistake of resigning you die well,that 750k your wife would use to finish you,as in intimidate you,insult you, abuse you. Then she would make sure nothing works for you,so she can keep doing it.just quite tell her woman congratulations on your new job,you stay in kd while I stay in Lagos then we figure out a way to make it work.

In reality this is not as easy as it sounds. This is Africa.

Most women still expect the man to pay all the bills. Irrespective of the woman's income.

So one must consider the nature of their relationship and how much involved in their marriage the woman's family are.

What is the man's profession and can he secure at least a 100k job in Kaduna?

Is the woman understanding and won't mind footing the bills respectfully for 6 months to one year while the hubby seeks a new job? Or will her visiting relatives start making snide remarks about "how some lazy men rely on their wives to survive these days".

If you consider all these, what should be easy on paper can suddenly become more complex.

donstan18:
A normal man with working brain will relocate if his wife earns 750k when he's earning 150k.

But a wise man with so much wisdom will ask the following questions before deciding what to do.

>Who is my wife?
>Is she dominant and self-centered?
>Will she rub it to my face?
>How comfortable am I with my financial level?
>Is she disrespectful or understanding?
>What are the possibilities that her attitude will change?

If you can give yourself answers to these questions, you'll be able to decide. Because it'll be a mistake to take such decision with a wrong woman.

But wait ooo..…Where are the wives earning 750k while there husbands earns 150k, Are they Nigerians? Or are they from Croatia? Too much assumptions in this country,

When you get married, I urge you don't dare try it, it takes a man's value away to live solely on a woman's earnings, don't let them deceive you that 150k is lesser than 750k, the moment you take that decision, you will realise 750k isn't more than 150k

woman stay at KD let me stay at LG, pastor mind your business!

The answer is obvious naa

By giving a superficial look at this issue, one will say the man should resign and join his wife where she is because of the huge difference in their salaries. Giving it a deep look, and with the kind of women we have nowadays, the man should make up his mind to be, errand boy, puppet, servant or at best, he assumes the position of the wife and plays the responsibilities of the wife and the wife plays the roles of the husband. This is not going to augur well for the husband and the family as a whole because his natural ego and authority will be challenged. Please, there is nothing like being an understanding or being a mature woman. Virtually all women are the same. It's just slight and insignificant difference that exists among them. In essence, there will be definitely, role switch-over and his ego will be trampled upon. So, the man should make up his mind for that before making the decision of whether to relocate or not. For me, I will not relocate and if they choose to live separately, there is risk of having extramarital affairs from both sides.


My opinion!

DUK3THEUS1:
How does quiting a job make someone useless
Quit a job in lagos go and get a job in kaduna period. Except ur cucumber is not working.

The best thing is for the man to reloccate with her but the man should plan to start a business in case he did not get job on time.

First of all, cost of living in Kaduna is way better. So earning 750k in Kaduna is like almost 1.2m in Lagos (housing, transport, food, Ambode's various taxes, etc).

This is a no-brainer, the guy should relocate. He will lead a less stressful life, though he won't like the night life

pocohantas:
Alpha males won't like this

They are on their way to counter and tell us how women abuse power. See them coming...

I'm sure you wouldn't have been proud to tell your friends that your dad lives solely on your mom's earnings

But wait ooo, what kind of job in Nigeria pays N750k monthly?

Not that I want to apply, Just curious

delugajackson:
Women don't take care of men. A man is supposed to be the most dominant gender, to protect and to provide for his home. It's okay to help, but women should know the difference between helping and a motherfúcker taking advantage. But I'm not in support of this, cause the moment a woman offers you anything, she expects double in return.

And the fact is, women are more accountable than men. A woman will remember every little thing she has ever done for a man, while a man would care less. A little night of misunderstanding will blow the box open, and all the neighbours will hear the numerous tales of her financial support, making the man look weak and helpless!

A man has to be firm and decisive and not to ever depend on a woman at any point, and at any period. You may see it as meaningless pride but it's just the way it should be. You call it ego, I call it dominance.

I wouldn't do that for any woman. Tiwa Savage/TeeBilz comes to mind. Never, I repeat, never do it for a woman. Find a way but never depend on a woman.
We fail to put into consideration that a woman who earns 5times her hubby's salary would move with friends within her clique and, there's no way she'd do it that it won't rub off her hubby at home. My point

The decision on who should resign, goes beyond who earns the highest pay.
There are myraids of factors to also be put into consideration.

For example, if children are involved, can they get the same or better quality of education in one place, better than the other?
What about safety? Will th efamily be safer in Lagos than in Kaduna? God forbid another Maitasine riot breaks out in you-know-where.
Again, who has the highest possibility of easily getting another job? th elevel of commercialisation and industrialisation of two locations are not always the same and thus, the ease at which anyone who relocates there will get a job, are not the same.

In an ideal situation, devoid of ego, unhealthy competion between husband and wife, arrgance and crass peer-influence, if the man is in Lagos and he earns 150K, there is a greater probability of his wife getting another job if she decides tocome live with her husband in Lagos.

What most people dont understand is that where a husband and wife are "in agreement in their spirits", things work out more easily for them.
think aboout it for a minute ....before you respond.

I dont think there is anything wrong in a woman earning more especially if she's a wise woman it shouldn't affect her home. I am not saying there wouldn't be arguments or little disagreement that will likely cause quarrels among them but it should be very minimum and both mustn't exaggerate it. easier said than reality I think if the man wants to relocate he must get a job ready there at kaduna at least they both should be able to set up a business with their 900k before he moves over. if he can't cater for the home there then it's the most stupid decision if he moves over there jobless and idle apart from being a woman even a male friend will rub it to your face when the time comes.And I think if the woman should be the one to move over then the guy should ensure she gets one if the best at least salary close to what she's receiving at kaduna.. lobatan.

For the family, the man should relocate.

Both should resign and japaa to Yankee

Even, Kaduna is the man's village sef

And who says either of them MUST to relocate

Tajbol4splend:




I'm sure you wouldn't have been proud to tell your friends that your dad lives solely on your mom's earnings

Read this post and understand, it is a temporary setup. Yes, I won't be proud to tell my friends my mom or I lives solely on my dad earnings. Godforbid!

Jamb question

delugajackson:
Women don't take care of men. A man is supposed to be the most dominant gender, to protect and to provide for his home. It's okay to help, but women should know the difference between helping and a motherfúcker taking advantage. But I'm not in support of this, cause the moment a woman offers you anything, she expects double in return.

And the fact is, women are more accountable than men. A woman will remember every little thing she has ever done for a man, while a man would care less. A little night of misunderstanding will blow the box open, and all the neighbours will hear the numerous tales of her financial support, making the man look weak and helpless!

A man has to be firm and decisive and not to ever depend on a woman at any point, and at any period. You may see it as meaningless pride but it's just the way it should be. You call it ego, I call it dominance.

Nigerian Alpha male spotted.....I guess this is why female president can't emerge in this country.

Of course the man should relocate. What is he doing in Lagos with 150k. Even if he is earning x3 of 150k he still needs to relocate for economic reasons.

pocohantas:
Alpha males won't like this

They are on their way to counter and tell us how women abuse power. See them coming...

It will be stupid of him if he does not resign, 750k in Kaduna is like earning 5mill in Lagos.

EagleNest:
Of course the man should relocate. What is he doing in Lagos with 150k. Even if he is earning x3 of 150k he still needs to relocate for economic reasons.

You are smart

Truth be told, Nigerian men have a lot to learn.The way of reasoning needs to be rewired.If na outside, the man no go think am twice.This scenario is exactly as my sister working with a multinational company earning close to 600k, and as she marry,the man wan bring the idea "Resign"! Naso my sister Yari say it will never happen. Now the husband dey enjoy the money as the babe buy 3jeeps park for house.The man as an Igbo man reinvest the money and the man that was pushing for "Resign" blow with just an investment.
Even Bible confirmed it if you all read Proverb 31 regarding a virtuous woman.
In fact with what I'm seeing on this thread its obvious Nigerian men need some brain rewiring.

Nigerian men are hypocrites why can't they join their wife earning more but if the wife is a citizen abroad they leave their Nigeria high paying job and go join her abroad it's the same here. The simple truth is marry a woman you love and loves you everything shall follow

The man should not be stupid!
Make he not be unfortunate!
He better run and go and work as his wife's P.A before death will befall him!