praxs:

My family isn't the issue.. The won't have choice than to accept my decision after the insults.. She's hellbent on abortion, and I am not comfortable with that.. Too risky for me,..convincing her is the issue here then the best way to bring myself to her family. The pregnancy is 4weeks old

praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

duduade:
A cheap pack of condoms which goes for less than #500 would have saved you all these issues...
Your nemesis just started!!!!

Zoharariel:
Do not allow her abort the pregnancy. Get her mother's phone number without her consent and text her the following:

"Dear Mrs. so so & so,

Blessings of the kingdom to you & your family in Jesus name. In this end times, all have sinned & have come short of the glory of God.

Your beautiful & virtuous daughter (insert her name here e.g Ada) is pregnant and contemplating abortion.

The bible warns us against abortion in Psalm 127: 3 - "Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring - a reward from him"

I am ready to take full responsibility. May Jehovah Selichot - "God of Forgiveness" forgive us our sins - Amen!"

Now, after sending her this sms, switch off your phone for 3days and inform one of your Uncles about this incident.

You can never go to jail because of this. Ari iru eleyi ri, a fi n deru ba oloro nii.

Dynatress700:
They're many factors you'll have to consider when you plan to keep a pregnancy. From your previous thread you seem to have a steady source of income that may cater for the baby. Be sure that your girlfriend on a good day would like you to be the father of her child, that is on a good day are you the kind of Man she would love to father her child? if she agree to that, then it may be that she doesn't want to be seen as a disappointment to her parents that's why she's insisting on abortion. Take the bold step of walking up to your parents and discuss with them, tell them you wish to keep the baby, encourage your girlfriend to keep the baby too, go inform her parents, go along side with your family members. You can decide to start marriage plans immediately, a low key wedding, it must not be large. In the end you both would be happy that you kept this baby. I repeat be sure that you're both in love and ready to live together as husband and wife. Don't let this pregnancy compel you to end up with who you never wanted to. Fear, shame and guilt are top reasons most young women do not prefer to keep pregnancy, education rarely tops the list.

duduade:
A cheap pack of condoms which goes for less than #500 would have saved you all these issues...
Your nemesis just started!!!!

praxs:

My family isn't the issue.. The won't have choice than to accept my decision after the insults.. She's hellbent on abortion, and I am not comfortable with that.. Too risky for me,..convincing her is the issue here then the best way to bring myself to her family. The pregnancy is 4weeks old

praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

oolongtea:


look at all the bolded parts. dude, you're being really childish and impractical. the idea of cute fatherhood u have in your head is FAR from the harsh reality of rushing into parenthood especially for a guy as naive and short-sighted as u are. be a man and make the necessary tough choice. the girl is right, find a hospital and get the abortion pills. she swallows and this madness is over.

from the part in italics, it's obvious you're a story teller, the ones that are drawn to drama. this will overwhelm u eventually, fantasy is a liar, the attention u crave will come and u wont like it. dont fvck up you life and dont fvck up a young girl's life with your weakness of mind. encourage her to get the abortion and for god's sake ALWAYS use a condom!!!

damola1:
God.. smartness..Money .

Happened to me exactly 10years ago at 22years too. Both of us were 22. And had him at 23.

My son is 10 now. Glory to God. The mom wanted same too but na... got her an apartment near school. Driver. Car. Maid.

She came out with 4.2 cpga second best in her dept at Unilag then.

But was very tough cos my business suffered. But eventually came out top.

What you have to realize is .. your child is lifelong.. other stuff like parents talk,,, money issues are temporary... and will fizzle out..

I can’t imagine life without my son. Best decision ever.

oolongtea:


boy, how old are u? u have to learn to stop embarrassing yourself.. he should get her mother's number without her consent and talk your quoted trash. "her mother" "my people". once this child is here, mother becomes the girl in question here who does not want this child and father becomes this 28yr old who is obviously unprepared to be a father but is carried away with the wishful euphoria of the idea of having a cute newborn without factoring in cold hard facts into what it takes to bring a child here and how life will NEVER be the same after this and all the risk and all that could go wrong that one has to accept as far as a newborn is concerned.
this "her mother" you're talking of, maybe your nigerian parents traumatized u so u cant understand the concept of adult independence but everybody lives it. this girl's life will not revolve around her mother's sentiments and the responsibility this dude is foolishly jumping into without properly weighing will not be eased by her mother's moans and sighs in future. and the level of disrespect for this girl to suggest he should contact her mother without her consent. u obviously dont respect women and u are not very bright. if u were, u would weigh in the tremendous responsibility of parenthood and realize that if something this serious is attempted to be done by cutting corners with the number 1 person involved, then it wont end well for anyone and it's a sign to abort mission. it's like russia planning a war that vladmir putin knows nothing about, it will backfire. stop underestimating the importance of what this girl chooses to do about this.

u know what life is like for the average nigerian. imagine that life with a mother who hates u from her whole heart. u ppl have to be careful the advices u give and the spiritual consequences it will have in the long run. bringing innocent souls here that will curse the ones who brought them into such an unfair circumstance and u'll be somewhere saying but your hands are clean while life fvcks u shege. u'd probably pee yourself in joy if given a south african visa just so u can escape nigeria yet here u are suggesting an unstable 28 yr old boy should usher in a baby into a hard life with a 22 yr old girl he's dated for a very short time who absolutely does not want the pregnancy.
i am yet to see one of the keep-the-baby crusaders ask this boy what he does, how much he earns, what his living condition is like, the distance b/w him and the gf, what his realistic plans are for this child, if he plans to marry the mother, if the mother wants to marry him, if he does not plan to marry the mother.. who does he think will, if he loves the child so much why is he ok with the possibility of another man raising him if the mother marries someone else, what are their genotypes, has it ever crossed his mind the child could be born disabled, does he have a child-friendly environment to raise a child in the current nigerian climate(corruption, sexual abuse, kidnaps)

just goat-ish sentimental advices of keep it that wont matter in the long run and will keep everyone miserable and always hoping. the way u think is not what works and the ones who built countries that u would love to go to wouldnt have such great countries if they refuse to apply logic like u. why didnt u suggest he transfer the pregnancy to the girl's mother so he can kuku leave the girl out of the whole thing since u're already suggesting he leave her out of it when she can literally not be left out of it except she gets an abortion. mtchew

Zoharariel:
Do not allow her abort the pregnancy. Get her mother's phone number without her consent and text her the following:

"Dear Mrs. so so & so,

Blessings of the kingdom to you & your family in Jesus name. In this end times, all have sinned & have come short of the glory of God.

Your beautiful & virtuous daughter (insert her name here e.g Ada) is pregnant and contemplating abortion.

The bible warns us against abortion in Psalm 127: 3 - "Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring - a reward from him"

I am ready to take full responsibility. May Jehovah Selichot - "God of Forgiveness" forgive us our sins - Amen!"

Now, after sending her this sms, switch off your phone for 3days and inform one of your Uncles about this incident.

You can never go to jail because of this. Ari iru eleyi ri, a fi n deru ba oloro nii.

praxs:

My family isn't the issue.. The won't have choice than to accept my decision after the insults.. She's hellbent on abortion, and I am not comfortable with that.. Too risky for me,..convincing her is the issue here then the best way to bring myself to her family. The pregnancy is 4weeks old

praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.