chamotex:

There is scarcity of MEN in the world . . . . some ladies will get left out

Aloy+Emeka:

Imagine a 40 year old Adam like Eldee talking about choice when it comes to women. Erectile dysfunction is a general threat to men that age and above and it's not as if women are not aware of that.

eldee:

Can we be realistic here . . . this delusion is what makes women disappointed with reality.
And I always tell you to stop insulting me because I don't agree with your views, I'm better at the name-calling game . . .ask anyone.

Inequalities in life . . . 40 year old unmarried man: he's waiting/picky . . . 40 year old unmarried woman: running out of time.
Man sleeps with 40 women: Player . . . . woman does the same: slag.
Divorced man: Experienced . . . Divorced woman: couldn't hold a family together.

I didn't make these rules, they don't in anyway represent how I see people . . . I'm just saying the truth you're too scared to admit.

Aloy+Emeka:

Nobody made the rules either. It's only in your head because they are unfounded in todays world. J-Lo, Halle Berry, Liz Taylor, Liza Manelli,  etc married how many times?. Didn't men remember they can hold families together when they were marrying them for the 3rd and 4th time?

Aloy+Emeka:

Not in China baby; there are more men there relying on self-service to feel funky. Being a woman in China is a treasure and the most powerful men have girlfriends in China and the weak ones manage their lives without wives/gf's.  Natural selection at play if you ask me.

michelin89:

You mean good men.

michelin89:

Even good women are hard to find these days. And some, like me, are not ripe enough for marriage.

FL Gators:

Ehrrrm negative.

An unmarried man is seen as lonely as an unmarried woman. Why is he married at 40? Is he poor? No  woman finds him attractive? He's divorced? He has babymamas somewhere? Does he suck in bed? Why can't he keep a woman? That's what someone would prolly think if you tell them you're unmarried at 40.

BTW, who wants a man whose spermatozoa is already weakening?

Not saying he's not gonna get a young chick at that age, just saying he better be VERY good in bed and better be rich.

eldee:

You don't get the difference . . . those chics are rich, hott and successful.
They are not your everyday person . . . it's like saying Flava Flav would get so many chics without money.

As I said before . . . get back to reality, Halle Berry doesn't live in Agege . . . Liz Taylor is not like Ms Coker that goes on match.com to find a 'God-fearing' man.

eldee:

I respect your opinion . . . which will find it easier to get a spouse at the age of 40?? Man or woman??

chamotex:

I was talking about the world in general . . . .Isn't the ratio like 5:1 or something?

Carolece:

Who's to be blamed there? Most of the men are either in prison, g ays or just plain not worth being with. Talking about left out, puhleeze!. We just dont want most of yall worthless or unavailable azzes.

FL Gators:

A woman of course. But what's the probability that the woman doesnt want  the 40 yrs old man for what he has lived to earn?

chamotex:

ALL MEN!
Wome do not only marry good men.

But good men like me are just too scarce nowadays.

Are you saying you are a good woman?
Maybe you need fertilizer

chamotex:



The ratios is like 5:1 to women.
Sticking with Monogamy, for every man that gets married, there will be 4 SINGLE LADIES . . . . . it's just the reality I'm afraid.

Aloy+Emeka:

Who gave you that erroneous stat?. In Nigeria alone, men are 2x the population of women and the same is applicable in Ghana. Two populous nations viz: China and Ghana have more men than women, replicate the ratios with the available stat I gave you and you will realize that men outnumber women.

chamotex:

It is just the reality that has to be dealt with.
Women are also in prison, lesbians and not worth being with . . . it's same with both sexes.

The ratios is like 5:1 to women.
Sticking with Monogamy, for every man that gets married, there will be 4 SINGLE LADIES . . . . . it's just the reality I'm afraid.

chamotex:

Do you understand the word 'world'?
I don't believe your stats anyway unless you bring proof.

There are more women in the world than men . . . . fact!

eldee:

You meant to say 'a man' finds it easier.

Different people marry for different reasons, the reason why it's easier for the man is irrelevant to this topic.

FL Gators:

lol yea, I meant the man. I was typing faster than thinking.

Anywaz, as true as the lack of relevancy of my question to this topic is, discussing social inequality is also in question. So we might as well go further.

Now answer my question jor.

Aloy+Emeka:

Where is your own proof, playa?

You know what, forget the world lets deal with Nigeria since we are from the same country and the probability of about 20% of the population leaving the country is very small. So, with the population of men doubling that of women in Nigeria, what happens to the broke azz brothers in naija when there are not enough chics to manage their broke azz?

eldee:

Social inequality favours men . . . at least for the next few decades.

A woman might be marrying the man for the money, but then at the end of the day, the man is still in a better position because he has a bargaining power that women his age and social status don't have.
A rich 40 year old woman is not any more attractive than a poor one. Infact, research shows that men are often intimidated by successful women.

Diva 2.0:

I find it crazy when people assume that a married/dating woman is happier than a single woman.

@Chamotex, Aloy+Emeka is right. The world ratio is 1.014 men :1 woman

https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/geos/xx.html

Aloy+Emeka:

Don't mind him; he is absolved in his own illusion due to continuous brain washing from chauvinists yet he refuse to ask himself why he can't find a girl friend. The law of demand and supply controls marriage nowadays, with the surplus supply of men in the world, their demand is going down because women don't have to break a leg in order to find one.

Diva 2.0:

I find it crazy when people assume that a married/dating woman is happier than a single woman.

@Chamotex, Aloy+Emeka is right. The world ratio is 1.014 men :1 woman

https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/geos/xx.html

Aloy+Emeka:

Don't mind him; he is absolved in his own illusion due to continuous brain washing from chauvinists y[b]et he refuse to ask himself why he can't find a girl friend[/b]. The law of demand and supply controls marriage nowadays, with the surplus supply of men in the world, their demand is going down because women don't have to break a leg in order to find one.

Diva 2.0:

I find it crazy when people assume that a married/dating woman is happier than a single woman.

@Chamotex, Aloy+Emeka is right. The world ratio is 1.014 men :1 woman

https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/geos/xx.html

FL Gators:

You're right tho.


But I'd rather be a single 40yrs old woman than a rich 40yrs old man dating a woman who loffs sucking my pockets.

In the end, she divorces you and gets half of what she didnt work for.

eldee:

Doesn't seem to be right with the rates of polygamy and women in churches 'sowing seeds' to find their 'life-partner'

Diva 2.0:

Because like the author said, women are a lot more pressured to get married and "complete" themselves lol. So they settle for the next guy who claims to have seen her in his dreams =|

Aloy+Emeka:

Women don't believe that trash anymore especially when they know they can hook up with a man 20 years younger than them. It's now an honor to become a cougar.

Diva 2.0:


Who are you telling? When I'm 40, I'll be a college professor. Sexy dudes who can lay good pipe will get an A+ lol jk . . . ?

Diva 2.0:

Because like the author said, women are a lot more pressured to get married and "complete" themselves lol. So they settle for the next guy who claims to have seen her in his dreams =|

eldee:

Exactly what I was pointing out . . .

The big issue is y'all are torn between admitting there's a problem and fighting to end it.