Hello,
I have known this girl for about 6-7yrs now.I love her so much that i keep away from girls when i was doing my undergraduate courses in school.Am an Igbo guy and she is yoruba.I have known her to be a virgin and i so cherish her.I never slept with her God knows.But one day she told me that she cant marry an igbo man,never in her life.I was so shocked and it really pained me.So i left everything in the hands of GOD.Now,someone else has used her and dumped her,and she is steadily calling me on phone that she really want me back.PLEASE CHILDREN OF AFRICA is this fair? i need advice on what to do
sammie
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If u love her like u said give her another chance

Sweetie am so sorry for your hurt.
Girls always say stupid things and make up stupid excuses when they feel like running buck wild and doing their thing.

God knows i have given a few indecent excuses in the past.

Anyways, the thing is you are the only one that can answer that question.
You seem like a praying guy, pray over it and do what your heart tells you believing that God is guiding you.

Take her bck if you want- take a chance either way cause everybody deserves a second chance but i know it will never be the same between you two.

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Sweetie am so sorry for your hurt.
Girls always say stupid things and make up stupid excuses when they feel like running buck wild and doing their thing.

God knows i have given a few indecent excuses in the past.

Anyways, the thing is you are the only one that can answer that question.
You seem like a praying guy, pray over it and do what your heart tells you believing that God is guiding you.

Take her bck if you want- take a chance either way cause everybody deserves a second chance but i know it will never be the same between you two.

I agree totally with adeboo, tell God 2 guide u. God will definately tell u something, believe me dearie, i feel ur pains and hurts.

She is only using you as cushion an anchor

ump her ^sorry ass

@sammie
Look here bro', leave this girl alone and find a woman that truely loves you for who you are! What will happen when she finds another Yoruba guy that wants her as much as you do ? My yoruba sisters are beautiful but they also discriminate too much. Leave her alone and move on bro' ! there is another yoruba girl out there "more beautiful and willing to even love you more". This girl is a chicken head !

look!!! The true answer lies within you and the so call 'TRUE LOVE', If indeed you loved her so much like you claim. how would you even think of seeking  opinion of the public to make your  personal decision? If I may ask, have you not had any affair with another girl in your life?

I don't really see anything wrong in her trying something else in her life. Afterall, they say experience is the best teacher. She has seen how it went with another person and now has made her decision to be with you. It depends on you.

My little piece of advice:- SEEK A SPECIALIST ' S ASSISTANCE  BEFORE PICKING ANOTHER SO CALL' VIRGIN' IF IT MEANS SO MUCH TO YOU.

i will agree wt the guys now: dis girl is not reliable. she feels pain now cos d guy dumped her, she needs consoling. when she gets it, she will be ok again, and will go for others again.

if a girl loves u really, she wont need to be dumped by another guy to realize she loves u only.

well i think u should take her back i'm not saying when she ax u u should be like yes but if u really love her take her back but this time make sure yall have a really long talk about errthing don't think about the past think about the future and yall need to start over don't even think about the past years but don't let her in easy u know make her suffer a lil bit show her dat if u leave again i ain't gon be here moppin around for ur return

left to me she is history life has gone far on and is now beautiful l can not afford to let lt get ugly again

Sammy,
My candid opinion is dat,u said she once told u she can never marry an igboman
and she dumped you for another relationship isn't it?Do you think that if that new
relationship was successful she will ever think of coming back to you?
Thats the mistakes alot of these girls make and they now assume they can eat their
cake and also have it.
Dont be a victim of use and dumped again cos history will repeat itself by the time this
lady finds a suitable yorubaman again and still gives you same old excuse as before.
Please look before you leap,once beaten twice shy or even tripple shy they say now,
you may end up being jilted again if you take her back.
MEN ARE NOT MEANT TO BE STUPID COS OF LADIES.
HERE I REST MY FILANGA,I HAVE SPOKEN WISELY I BELIEVE.

This is so dificult.

And as people has advised its all about the way you feel about her,if you think you will be able to forgive her totally,you can always give her another chance.Good luck.

the question is, do u still love her?

if u do, it'll be nice to give it a second chance
no one is perfect and above mistakes
we've all had our own shares

the question in this matter u brought is dat do u still love her?


Then if u do u can still give her chance since she is the one calling now.


u can still take her back

My dear friend, I will advise you not to take her back, she's coming back because the guy she dumped you for have dumped her too and now she's at the middle of nowhere.
I have experienced such and my advise for you is to look for a God fearing girl with good background.

My dear friend,

I am a Yoruba boy as you can see from my name. If you take this lady back trully I will swear for you with god of iron, god of thunder and goddess of the river.

This si because if you take her back, then you ae one of those that are encouraging girls to use and dump guys anyhow. it also means that if you find out tha your wife has bastards as children for you, you will still love her while she and her man friend are planning to kill you.

Just pretend to have forgiven her, then make sure you Zap. her at least 50 times, you can do that in 50 days, then tell her that she is a dog and should go to italy and be sleeping with dogs.

God know that i do not do evil, and that i am Godly to an extent, but i will NEVER EVER pray for my enemies. i knwo guys/girls who have died because they were dumped.

DO NOT ENCOURAGE BAD HARBITS BY FORGIVING HER AND MAKING HER AND OTHERS BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN USE AND DUMP PEOPLE ANYHOW.

Please Nwanna,don't take her back.Forget about her.

If you take her back, u be correct m.u.g.u! dont take her back