Hello friends,
I just started working with a marine company this month, I have not even collected my first salary yet and my gf of 1 year and 6 Months who used to support me sometimes when I was broke, says I must marry her this year that she can't wait. and I have just 700k which was my share of a family property that was sold.only her marriage list according to her sister's marriage is almost about 500k ,I have told her I need some time to save up so that i can comfortably foot the bills but she isn't accepting that. please what should I do?

This shouldnt be an issue

Tell her you will marry tomorrow if her Bride Price fall like our currency

I don’t know why y’all are killing yourself over marriage. Now a days you don’t have to be fully loaded to get married. First thing first Na to give her belle if she too disturb you. I mean if your sure she’s the one for you and your sure you want a future with her. Give her belle make she born pikin. From there she fit move in with you or rent an apartment for her and the baby and play the role of a husband and father, marriage shouldn’t come immediately. Months or years later when money Dey, you can marry her.

If my opinion contradicts yours, please don’t insult. Just oppose it and say your mind.

Get the list and start buying those items gradually. Before you realise you've bought them all. Wetin go remain na canopy, drinks and food money with some few items after purchasing every item in the list. What matters most in marriage is the dowry and items in the list given to you by her family.

Sit her down once more & ask her these 3 questions.

1.Is she willing to pay half the marriage expenses?
2.Does she really not care if you fall into bankruptcy?
3.Can she survive on crayfish and garri for a year?

Make your decision from her replies.

What if she doesn't want to give birth out of wedlock? Beside there are negative implications in harbouring a girl without the permission from her family.

A friend of mine got a girl pregnant and she moved in with him. Her family was never happy with it from the start. She died while giving birth and the guy went through hell before she was buried. He was forced to pay the dowry before the family of the girl accepted the corpse for burial. Just imagine person getting married to a dead body.

stupidity:
I don’t know why y’all are killing yourself over marriage. Now a days you don’t have to be fully loaded to get married. First thing first Na to give her belle if she too disturb you. I mean if your sure she’s the one for you and your sure you want a future with her. Give her belle make she born pikin. From there she fit move in with you or rent an apartment for her and the baby and play the role of a husband and father, marriage shouldn’t come immediately. Months or years later when money Dey, you can marry her.

If my opinion contradicts yours, please don’t insult. Just oppose it and say your mind.

I don't knw y some ladies run into marriage, they usually think it easy smh. Pls how much does she have to support?, if she doesn't have anything she can do to support I can tell u is nt a wise decision to wed now at least she need to give u time for u to be more okay financially and if she too is working u guys can plan tins together and get on ur two feet before planning marriage.
I wish u best of luck.

AmiciLord:
What if she doesn't want to give birth out of wedlock? Beside there are negative implications in harbouring a girl without the permission from her family.

A friend of mine got a girl pregnant and she moved in with him. Her family was never happy with it from the start. She died while giving birth and the guy went through hell before she was buried. He was forced to pay the dowry before the family of the girl accepted the corpse for burial. Just imagine person getting married to a dead body.

you are right though. But that’s because the girls family don’t really like the guy. How about the trending baby mama of nowadays? The likes of Davido, Wizkid and other guys with the cash, believe me the lady’s parent will not be bothered if you paid the bride price first or not. How about David’s girlfriend? He’s flaunting her and they always together. She’ll be happy to carry a baby for Davido and even move in with him. The parents will not complain. Why? Because they know he has the money to marry her anytime.

So that’s what I’m trying to say. When you have the money, living fine and meeting up to responsibilities, you can start a family and make it official at the time you think you have saved enough for it. This is my opinion though. It’s not practiced in a specific region.

AmiciLord:
Get the list and start buying those items gradually. Before you realise you've bought them all. Wetin go remain na canopy, drinks and food money with some few items after purchasing every item in the list. What matters most in marriage is the dowry and items in the list given to you by her family.

she said it must be this year ,will I finish buying the things b4 November so they can fix date for the marriage this year.?