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age is only a figure. if you love each other go for it.

No, It doesn't matter

@Pooster let me see if I hear you correst. What you are trying to say is that 9 years age difference is ok for a relationship but not ok for marriage?

soonest:

my boyfriend is 9 yrs older than me and he wants to marry me. i feel 9 yrs is rather much but does it really matter? pls i need your opinion

Age doesn't matter. If both of you understand yourselves i believe you wil learnt to tolerate each other.

@ sa lady, i mean both for relationshp n marriage. but u know marriage is more serious. wots ur advice anyway?

1st off u say ur BF dat means u've spent some time wit dis guy n u should have known a bit of his character by now so how does he fare? Is he the kind of man u want to get married too?
2ndly is he really serious? Does he want to meet ur parents n family? Or is he merely promising marriage to keep u from leaving him?
There are other issues I think u could answer b4 d age tin really comes into play however we are all different if his age keeps him from emerging as the man for u den let him know.

IMHO I think age doesn't really play a big role in relationships but the maturity exhibited by the parties involved will determine if it becomes an issue or not.

SA Lady:

@Poster let me see if I heard you correctly. What you are trying to say is that 9 years age difference is ok for a relationship but not ok for marriage?

yeah the poster doesn't seem smart to me either! Except of course she is a gold digger or aristo babe, then it makes sense

I married a woman 9 years younger. Biggest pain in the Arse! Never again. There is to much age difference and there will lots of conflict waiting for you to grow up. I divorced and married a woman older than me. While single and after my initial divorce lots of young women, but a pain in the Arse!