I NEED HELP!
WHEN I WAS IN SKOOL,I HAD A BOYFRIEND (1ST BF) WHOM I WAS IN LOVE WITH.I REALISED HE WASN'T IN LOVE LIKE I LOVED HIM.SO,WHEN I FINISHED I TOLD HIM I WASNT INTERESTED IN THE RELATIONSHIP ANYMORE.COS,I REALISED HE WAS GIVING ME HEART BREAK.
NOW,I REALISED I CANT JUST GO OUT WITH ANOTHER MAN.I CANT COME TO LIVE WITH ANOTHER MAN ANY MORE.UNFORTUNATELY I LEFT 9JA FOR THE USA.
I STARTED TALKING TO MY OLD BOYFRIEND.WE GOT CLOSE BUT I REALISED HE WOULDNT CALL ME BACK.HE DOESNT LIKE ME ANYMORE.BUT HE SAID HE LOVED ME THEN,THAT HE REALISED HE THINKS IT WAS JUVENILE DEL THAT WAS HIS PROB THEN.
IF I GO ON AND ON I CANT FINISH MY STORY.PLS CAN SOMEONE ADVICE ME?AM 29YRS NO BF NOTHING.I CANT GO OUT WITH ANYONE.I LOVE THIS GUY.WHAT CAN I DO?

sweetilomo:

AM 29YRS NO BF NOTHING.I CANT GO OUT WITH ANYONE.I LOVE THIS GUY.WHAT CAN I DO?

You need sincere prayers! No seriously would you rather force yourself on a guy who has made it clear he does not love you? Would you prefer to live through the unhappiness of knowing this guy does not love you as much as you do him?

Dont you think its time to move on? I've been in that shoe before, after i broke up my first real relationship in 2005 (my greatest mistake ever!) its been very difficult to love someone else as much as i loved her. But dear, she's moved on and so i have to.
You will meet other people, stop caging yourself feeling for someone who doesnt regard your feelings.
Take your mind of relationships for a while (that is easier said than done at 29 i know), pour ur effort in something else. Believe me love will come when you least expect it and this time your love will be reciprocated.

If that doesnt work. . . contact me! I'll be your contract boyfriend until you find one!

not that i dont have someone who wants 2 marry me right now.but believe me,i dont like him at all

Na wa o. As you fine reach. Dont worry someone you like is on the way. Just keep praying.

You dont have to marry the one that you dont like. you could always try to find someone else. it wouldnt be good to keep hoping on your ex if he already made it clear that he is not down for a relationship. you are probably still holding unto him because he was your first boyfriend and you had the attachments. its time to breathe in and out and try to let go. it may not be easy, but just try

Easier said than done i know but the heart is a muscle!
- Forget the ex as he obviously doesn't love u or want u
- Don't marry a guy you don't like, you're setting yoself up for a life of misery
- Get out there/go church socialise, there are a lot of people that will be more than compatible for for you

you've gotten wonderful advices girl, and they're all good and true

just for next time, never you settle for someone who doesn't love you but never you break up with someone because you love them more
now that's the thing with love and relationships, one has got  to love more and yes we girls always wish the guy would be the one to love more, but that is not always the case

chapter two: never you settle for someone who doesn't love you either, i know some marriages acquire love on the road, but what about its chances of not doing so?? if you can take the risk then the floor is yours

thirdly, our past is one thing we can't bring back, this guy might have loved you in the past and vice versa, but with time, love can fade. What if his has, do you want to tie yourself down to someone that you might end up hating

but your past can lead your way into a better future, now you just have to forget this your first love (they're always difficult to get over but its not impossible ) and open your heart to new people and new love. Without that, the mission is impossible. You have toi say eneough is enough in wallowing in the past, and know that the future holds more in stock for you and only you(noone else) can uncover your bright future but you

Dear, are you willing to give the future a chance (and please for the time being foget you're 29, because the thought of you going down in age, will only push you into the wrong decisions out of desperation)

go out and find love, let love find you. your dream guy is waiting excitedly, but only you can show him the way

thanks for the advice guys.i appreciate it.my family always advice me to leave him.surprisingly i left him for 2 years.now i dont know what came into my head.but am trying to 4get him.before i call him everyday,it's been a week now.i pray to God i dont call him anymore.thanks a lot guys

U need to get ova the old flame,
don't go into a marriage with someone u feel nuthing for

hang in there, go out more and mingle with pple. . u'll sure find someone meant for u.

gud luck!

thanks.i hope 2 meet pple soon.where i am here in tampa is a dry zone.no 9ja here

hey sweetylomo,i can c ds thread's been ova a yr now,let us know how far,and i guess u shld b happily married by now,tsup! lets know

sweetilomo: I NEED HELP!
WHEN I WAS IN SKOOL,I HAD A BOYFRIEND (1ST BF) WHOM I WAS IN LOVE WITH.I REALISED HE WASN'T IN LOVE LIKE I LOVED HIM.SO,WHEN I FINISHED I TOLD HIM I WASNT INTERESTED IN THE RELATIONSHIP ANYMORE.COS,I REALISED HE WAS GIVING ME HEART BREAK.
NOW,I REALISED I CANT JUST GO OUT WITH ANOTHER MAN.I CANT COME TO LIVE WITH ANOTHER MAN ANY MORE.UNFORTUNATELY I LEFT 9JA FOR THE USA.
I STARTED TALKING TO MY OLD BOYFRIEND.WE GOT CLOSE BUT I REALISED HE WOULDNT CALL ME BACK.HE DOESNT LIKE ME ANYMORE.BUT HE SAID HE LOVED ME THEN,THAT HE REALISED HE THINKS IT WAS JUVENILE DEL THAT WAS HIS PROB THEN.
IF I GO ON AND ON I CANT FINISH MY STORY.PLS CAN SOMEONE ADVICE ME?AM 29YRS NO BF NOTHING.I CANT GO OUT WITH ANYONE.I LOVE THIS GUY.WHAT CAN I DO?

you are 36 this year,are you now married?

davidylan:


You need sincere prayers! No seriously would you rather force yourself on a guy who has made it clear he does not love you? Would you prefer to live through the unhappiness of knowing this guy does not love you as much as you do him?

Dont you think its time to move on? I've been in that shoe before, after i broke up my first real relationship in 2005 (my greatest mistake ever!) its been very difficult to love someone else as much as i loved her. But dear, she's moved on and so i have to.
You will meet other people, stop caging yourself feeling for someone who doesnt regard your feelings.
Take your mind of relationships for a while (that is easier said than done at 29 i know), pour ur effort in something else. Believe me love will come when you least expect it and this time your love will be reciprocated.

If that doesnt work. . . contact me! I'll be your contract boyfriend until you find one!

contract boyfriend?
Funny guy.

sweetilomo: not that i dont have someone who wants 2 marry me right now.but believe me,i dont like him at all

but your ex boyfriend doesnt like you either...