One of the best things you can do for your relationship is to throw away your smartphone. Do it right now. Chuck it off a pier into the ocean. If you’re not quite that brave, just shut it off and stick it away somewhere in a drawer. You don’t need it, and it can actually harm your relationship if you aren’t careful.

Why? Because social media, which is the main thing people use their phones to access, is a distraction from reality.

Everyone’s heard the jokes about a couple dining at a restaurant while they both update their social media profiles and take pictures of themselves and their food, paying absolutely no attention to each other.

That’s a funny story when it’s somebody else. But when it’s you ignoring your partner and your relationship, it’s not funny. It’s tragic. And it’s quite true – people do it in restaurants and I’ve seen couples walking down the street looking at their phones rather than talking to each other. Studies show that ignoring your partner is a big factor leading to breakups.

Do you know why it’s illegal to drive and text? Let me tell you – because if you aren’t paying attention to your driving, you can crash and die, and/or kill other people in the process. If you aren’t paying attention to your relationship, you can also lose control and kill it pretty quickly.

Connecting With a Human Being in the Present

Love and relationships are about connecting with another human being in the present moment. The way you connect with your partner is to pay attention to them, to look directly into their eyes, to hold hands, to touch each other, to make each other laugh.

If you would rather be checking your phone to see who’s texted you, or what your online friends are doing, then what’s the point? How are you connecting more deeply with your partner by checking your phone all the time?

Love is a chemical thing, as any scientist will tell you. Why are we attracted to another human being? Partly because of their physical features, which we find attractive. Partly because of their personality, the way they talk or laugh. And partly because of a chemical connection – how they smell.

Though we aren’t consciously aware of it, much of our attraction to and bonding with another person is based on subtle scents. That connection can’t happen very easily via the Internet.

What Has Social Media Done for You?

Sit down and ask yourself – on paper – What has social media ever done for me? Write down your answer. Make a list of all the improvements in your life and in your relationship that using social media has improved.

There are some legitimate advantages social media can confer, particularly to grandparents, who wish to share photos of their beautiful, handsome, adorable, talented grandchildren with friends near and far. That’s not a problem.

Online dating can also be a legitimate and helpful use of social media. If you live in an isolated area and have trouble meeting many people, the Internet and social media can help you find someone to date. Of course, there are many better ways to meet quality people, and the best of them are the tried and true old ways – getting out and having fun and living your life while interacting with fun people.

That means joining a club or taking a class that throws you together with other people in a fun environment.

Social media can also help you network and connect with others when you need to find a job. I have no problem with that at all. But do it during work hours, and be clear when defining those hours.

Certainly, if you’re spending the season at an Antarctic research base, where your social group is similar to that of a mission to Mars, social media can be a real lifesaver, reminding you that the dozen scientists you work with and see day after day after day after day and who bathe just once a week aren’t the only human beings in the universe.

Then I say, fire up that social media app! But if you live in a community of other people, like most of us do, get out and actually see and meet and talk to some of those other human beings.

Life After Love: No Social Media, Please!

But however you find love, once you’re in a relationship, it’s time to shut down social media. Spend time with your partner, looking in their eyes, holding their hand, resting with your head in their lap on the couch, spooning with them in bed.

Cook your dinner together. Take a walk around the neighbourhood. Go for a drive or a bike ride. Swim together at the local pool.

Make a commitment to shut off your phone whenever you don’t really need it – and that means in the evening and at night when you should be paying attention to the person right in front of you rather than jumping every time a “status update” alert pings from your phone.

Otherwise, the message you are sending your partner is a powerful one – Other people matter more to me than you do.

You may not think that’s the message you’re sending. You may think you’re giving off the impression of being a happy, friendly person who is well connected. You may think you’re showing that you’ve got lots and lots of friends, that other people are really interested in your life, and that you are interested in theirs.

But the truth is, you’re ignoring your partner much of the time, and that’s not attractive, that’s not kind.

Time to stop bragging or complaining about your life via social media. Time to start living your life– with your partner – instead.

Nice piece

lovely piece

Great

Little things that matter

Made men don't stress to build a relationship, only broke losers out of their condition try to build their relationship.

Just make your money and watch women worship you and make everything possible to build the relationship.

It's their work as women to struggle real hard to build the relationship, not you.

Yours is just to see if she's worthy to reap where she did not sow by making her your wife.

I didn't read, too long. But whoever is it the write up is talking about, I'm not dropping my social media for any relationship... never.

It's computer age, either she adapt or exit.

Offpoint:
I didn't read, too long. But whoever is it the write up is talking about, I'm not dropping my social media for any relationship... never.

It's computer age, either she adapt or exit.

Your comment is out of point becauss you are lazy to read the content.

IamD18:
Made men don't stress to build a relationship, only broke losers try to build their relationship.

Just make your money and watch women worship you and make everything possible to build the relationship.

It's their work as women to struggle real hard to build the relationship, not you.

Yours is just to see if she's worthy to reap where she did not sow by making her your wife.

Laughing at your reasoning. If you like, dont work on your relationship, trust your money to do that for you. Good luck

Pope22:

Your comment is out of point becauss you are lazy to read the content.

I'm not too lazy to read, the year is too early for me to waste my time reading what is not talking about money.

Offpoint:

I'm not too lazy to read, the year is too early for me to waste my time reading what is not talking about money.

All right

All this for one relationship

Ok


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Word!!!

Look those that give a fùck are u there

hmm

You some people just come online i drop anything like anytime

Personally i don't one who have used social media very well will want to drop 100% of it


5 Clear Indications that you are a Social Media Junkie

A whole lot of contents on social media are fake and made-believe. Using social media as influence for real life issues will be a great mistake and destroyer for many.

Well I know how it can help my business, that one is enough for me for now.

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Exactly. Social media full of lies!! Meanwhile whatsapp let's trade!

Apt

Good one

Social media has made many people uninteresting in nature,

A girl came to my house, i tried to keep conversation(Mostly about her future) going but no she preferred chatting with others, i guess she's more comfortable behind her smart phone, i got really pissed and i didn't take her seriously since that day. too dull for my liking.

Even this morning, a girl initiated a chat and then relaxed with one word reply, after two attempt so salvage the situation i just ignored her, someone cannot be stressing my brain while i was actually thinking of the activities i intended to do in the office.

Sometimes just drop your phone and observe.

The worst are all those girls that snap and update on whatsapp status.


Every moment of their life. Some people are just terrible.


Learn to be prudent.

Stop hating my world, Social media remains my home.

I just dey wonder if nairaland is not a social media

Poster pls why haven't u thrown your own phone inside lagoon


Is it that you aint in any relationship or its firewood that u used in typing this

SonsOfLiverpool:
Social media has made many people uninteresting in nature,

A girl came to my house, i tried to keep conversation(Mostly about her future) going but no she preferred chatting with others, i guess she's more comfortable behind her smart phone, i got really pissed and i didn't take her seriously since that day. too dull for my liking.

Even this morning, a girl initiated a chat and then relaxed with one word reply, after two attempt so salvage the situation i just ignored her, someone cannot be stressing my brain while i was actually thinking of the activities i intended to do in the office.

Sometimes just drop your phone and observe.

Good thing I don't have to deal with that nonsense anymore

Makes no sense...

THIS IS A VERY CRAPPY POST. SO SOMEONE CANNOT DO ALL THESE STUFFS ON SOCIAL MEDIA AND STILL MAINTAIN RELATIONSHIPS. STOP BLAMING SOCIAL MEDIA FOR YOUR MISTAKES. YOU FÛCKED UP SIMPLE, SOCIAL MEDIA IS NOT GOING TO COME AND RUIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. IT IS YOU. THIS WRITE UP IS DAFT.

This post doesn't make sense. It appears to be sensible but completely offpoint. That relationship is doomed. You have to be on the cutting edge socially. Else you will wake up one day to see yourself overtaken and prehistoric, unable to adapt to even common conversations. A lot happen online. That you should not text and drive doesn't mean you shouldn't text at all. You can when you are off wheel. The analogy with relationships is not germane. The right advice is to limit social media and don't let it ruin your relationship.