I still don't get why a woman should change her surname after marriage.

Men who insist their wife adopts their surname, are too self-important to accept the individuality and agency of their wives

We are our own people too, so instead of seeing your wife as a mere extension or appendage of themselves, see them as partners and share everything including surnames.


I will chat with one of you interested in a counter argument Here is my number:

I am removing it after 1,try and convince me.

Where the devil can't go, he sends a woman.

Go to bed

Oluwasaeon:
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Don't allow feminism drag you into madness.

Amakavula:
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Don't drag others into this, when u get married, don't adopt your husband's name. Simple

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Why not discuss that with your fiancee, you can be legally cohabitating without any need for name change although many government agency and country embassy might want to make some document difficult for you, but then it's your choice and you have a right to it, So long your partner consents

Amakavula:
I still don't get why a woman should change her surname after marriage.

Men who insist their wife adopts their surname, are too self-important to accept the individuality and agency of their wives

We are our own people too, so instead of seeing your wife as a mere extension or appendage of themselves, see them as partners and share everything including surnames.


I will chat with one of you interested in a counter argument Here is my number:

I am removing it after 1,try and convince me.

You don't need to be convinced, you need just one resetting slap so that you can see your bundle of contradictions. If I want to marry you now, the next thing would be go and see my parents whose name you bear to give you out in marriage and give me list that is as long as the book of life and you are here barking individuality as though you are not a product to be auctioned. See, better take your time

A man can also take the womans name i have seen cases like this.

As for me personally i don't have any problem with a woman keeping her name but what i can't stand is combining both names together e.g Kim kardashian west i hate this shit

The act of marriage entails that a woman leaves her fathers house and now becomes one with the man who is marrying her. The woman assumes the man's identity. You make it look like assuming a man's surname takes away your individuality. Is your individuality embedded in your last name? Taking up your husbands name signifies change of status and not change of individuality. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but these days, pseudo-feminists and their teachings makes it look like marriage is a kind of enslavement.

Amakavula:
I still don't get why a woman should change her surname after marriage.

Men who insist their wife adopts their surname, are too self-important to accept the individuality and agency of their wives

We are our own people too, so instead of seeing your wife as a mere extension or appendage of themselves, see them as partners and share everything including surnames.


I will chat with one of you interested in a counter argument Here is my number:

I am removing it after 1,try and convince me.

dingbang:
Where the devil can't go, he sends a woman.

I just died.

Who had time to convince a woman on the internet? Pshhh

This little girl and her waywardness. No stress I've seen where she's coming from and going. Changing of surname to the man's is just a traditional social norm of conferment of married status. It doesn't call aim at triggering irrational insecurities from any normal being. Same thing as wedding rings norms


But she's just a wild growing girl so no stress

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So other men will know she's already taken
That's the reason

I would repeat what i said before, that dix gal must be from Nnewi or Awka etiti,why don't u start d argument within yuh family,to know y yuh mum took yuh dad's surname, that could v gone a long way to help u...

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Historically, a person’s surname was not considered all that important. In early medieval England, most
people were known only by one name, their
“Christian name,” such as
Amakavula, Thomas ,Duke etc, which was conferred at baptism. But as the population
grew, it got tiresome trying to distinguish among the
many Thomases and Amakas, so surnames arose, often based on lineage (such Williamson), occupation
(such as Smith), or locale (such as York). Still, the matter of a wife taking a husband’s surname didn’t surface in English common law until the ninth century, when lawmakers began to consider the legalities surrounding personhood, families, and marriage.
Thusly the doctrine of coverture emerged – and women were thereafter considered “one” with their husbands and therefore required to assume the husband’s surname as their own. Under the concept of coverture, which literally means “covered by,” women had no independent legal identity
apart from their spouse.
But coverture… rests
on the old common-law
fiction that the husband
and wife are one, and the
one is the husband.”
Op do not let feminism eat deep into u. Changing surname is ideal and already has international consciousness.

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Eph 5:22-23

The Bible did not categorically state anything about the names wives are to take, but it specifically said that wives to submit to their husbands in everything. So, in my opinion, if your husband is fine with you having your own name separate from his, all well and good. But if he says you have to take his name, then you must, else it would amount to rebellion and unsubmissiveness...and that is outrightly against the will of God.

The reason for so many failed marriages these days may not be unconnected to need for two much individualism in couples. You're supposed to LEAVE and CLEAVE. Can you cleave and yet be separate? Having a different surname from your partner is you saying you want an identity separate from him

Bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh! How do you become bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh when you have a separate identity? How does two become one when you have a separate identity?

Jare, these are non-issues.

Thank you. I like the way you broke it down.

PrimadonnaO:
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Eph 5:22-23

The Bible did not categorically state anything about the names wives are to take, but it specifically said that wives to submit to their husbands in everything. So, in my opinion, if your husband is fine with you having your own name separate from his, all well and good. But if he says you have to take his name, then you must, else it would amount to rebellion and unsubmissiveness...and that is outrightly against the will of God.

The reason for so many failed marriages these days may not be unconnected to need for two much individualism in couples. You're supposed to LEAVE and CLEAVE. Can you cleave and yet be separate? Having a different surname from your partner is you saying you want an identity separate from him

Bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh! How do you become bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh when you have a separate identity? How does two become one when you have a separate identity?

Jare, these are non-issues.

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Ablemax:
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Course and where do u reside

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Amakavula:
I still don't get why a woman should change her surname after marriage.

Men who insist their wife adopts their surname, are too self-important to accept the individuality and agency of their wives

We are our own people too, so instead of seeing your wife as a mere extension or appendage of themselves, see them as partners and share everything including surnames.


I will chat with one of you interested in a counter argument Here is my number:

I am removing it after 1,try and convince me.

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there is absolutely no reason why a woman shd attach a surname of another person to herself, everyone knows his/her father. Neither is it right for a person to adopt a child and attach his surname to d child- they are all wrong and deceptive

mozel247:


Course and where do u reside

urban and regional planning live in port harcourt

Headlesschicken:
I would repeat what i said before, that dix gal must be from Nnewi or Awka etiti,why don't u start d argument within yuh family,to know y yuh mum took yuh dad's surname, that could v gone a long way to help u...

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