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Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by Xisnin(m): 6:30pm On Mar 11, 2019

It is obvious he is no longer interested. You are the one forcing yourself on him.
Dump him immediately and find someone who cares.

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by lilianofentse(f): 6:31pm On Mar 11, 2019

queenitee:

Introduction won't solve the problem, marriage won't either, this is one of the reasons there are so many broken marriages. So it's a wrong advice.

He simply does not love you or he does but he's not marure(maturity isn't only about age) and you want a mature guy, it's better you breakup and suffer the heartbreak once than getting heartbroken daily.

since I posted this, I haven't called him. I also plan on ignoring his msgs till he changes.

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by grad2012(f): 6:31pm On Mar 11, 2019

lilianofentse:
Thanks for the good vibes grad

you welcome suga

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by Nobody: 6:32pm On Mar 11, 2019

I see someone who is going to end up with the lowest self esteem ever by the time she is 25.

Continue o..I am sure the 1diot displays his boxers and walks like a baboon on the street.

Mcheww!

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Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by limdude: 6:32pm On Mar 11, 2019

My dear; speaking from experience, sometimes letting go might just be the best option...sometimes we find it hard. my case for instance i dated a girl for 3 years gave her all she wanted but still wasnt good enough for her. I caught her several times hanging out with other guys but only end up telling me they are either friends or related. I summund courage and was able to move on. Right now im happily married wit a son, last time i spoke to her she felt bad that she was still single and is ageing but im doing well with a lovely family.

Just give it some serious thought.

lilianofentse:
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and I love him more than anything in the world but I'm so fed up with giving chance after chance several times now I've caught him messaging other girls inappropriate stuff and I've forgiven him and then a couple of months later when I've built my trust up with him he will do it again, he also deletes all his messages so that i can't see them all which just makes me go even crazier not knowing what has been said.

2 weeks ago I found out he physically cheated on me which he said he was never planning on telling me. Since I've said we can work on our relationship, spicing up our sex life making more of an effort but it's only me that's making the effort. He isn't trying even tho he says he loves me and wants to be with me and not anyone else.

Tonight he went out with his friends and I waited for 5 hours for him so he could meet with me, instead he wants to stay at his friends because he hadn't finished playing a game. I'm so done with getting my heart broken all the time and making all the effort it makes me feel like it's all my fault the problem I have is I still love him so much but I don't know if i can keep putting my self through this all the time.

He knows how to s.ex me and I also knows he loves me but what I can't understand is why he keeps cheating on me.

Modified: Ps I am trying my best to forget about him. Pls any advice on how to forget him would be appreciated. tnx

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Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by Meritocracy: 6:32pm On Mar 11, 2019

Kindly try me I know how to s.ex better

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Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by idsamoo(m): 6:34pm On Mar 11, 2019

LuciferRedeemed:
A dwarf is wondering why she is unloved.

*spits

O boy,, you are wicked o!! grin

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by mmadu5(m): 6:34pm On Mar 11, 2019

instead he wants to stay at his friends because he hadn't finished playing a game. my dear your boyfriend dont value you much any longer so i will advice you to move on, if that is your pic on the DP then you wont have a problem finding a man who would love you in return as long as you have good characteristics i will give same advice to my sister. goodluck

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by kapelvej: 6:34pm On Mar 11, 2019

lilianofentse:
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and I love him more than anything in the world but I'm so fed up with giving chance after chance several times now I've caught him messaging other girls inappropriate stuff and I've forgiven him and then a couple of months later when I've built my trust up with him he will do it again, he also deletes all his messages so that i can't see them all which just makes me go even crazier not knowing what has been said.

2 weeks ago I found out he physically cheated on me which he said he was never planning on telling me. Since I've said we can work on our relationship, spicing up our sex life making more of an effort but it's only me that's making the effort. He isn't trying even tho he says he loves me and wants to be with me and not anyone else.

Tonight he went out with his friends and I waited for 5 hours for him so he could meet with me, instead he wants to stay at his friends because he hadn't finished playing a game. I'm so done with getting my heart broken all the time and making all the effort it makes me feel like it's all my fault the problem I have is I still love him so much but I don't know if i can keep putting my self through this all the time.

He knows how to s.ex me and I also knows he loves me but what I can't understand is why he keeps cheating on me.

Modified: Ps I am trying my best to forget about him. Pls any advice on how to forget him would be appreciated. tnx

Leave him before it is too late. It might be painful, but compare this short period of pain to a life time of pain. The truth about people that cheat is that if you keep fogiving, the more than take you for granted.

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Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by encryptjay(m): 6:34pm On Mar 11, 2019

After checking out your profile and seeing that your account was created on 4th March 2019, I lost interest in the thread.

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by bencruz802000(m): 6:35pm On Mar 11, 2019

U just have to call and sit him down like a true friend. Ask him if u r not doing well enough for him or he should help identify your flaws. But if u say the guy is good at it, well it means u don't have choice cos many are out there that does it better.

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by BIEBER45: 6:35pm On Mar 11, 2019

SIS GET UR EYES WIDE OPEN N STOP LEAVING IN DISNEY

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by frank41(m): 6:35pm On Mar 11, 2019

luckygeee:
i guess the good sex is driving u crazily in LOVE

Seconded .That is exactly what is still kipping her in that relationship.

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by HeWrites(m): 6:35pm On Mar 11, 2019

lilianofentse:

As a lady it is very hard to let go of someone you really loved and never cheated on. btw I plan to marry at 23. 19 going to 20 on May so its not bad if I want a serious relationship

You want to marry at what

Are you the one that's going to decide or your boyfriend.

If you're read and your boyfriend is ready yet, weytin you go do.. Break up with him, and if you do who would want to marry someone he/she as never dated before

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by Doktajay5: 6:36pm On Mar 11, 2019

lilianofentse:
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and I love him more than anything in the world but I'm so fed up with giving chance after chance several times now I've caught him messaging other girls inappropriate stuff and I've forgiven him and then a couple of months later when I've built my trust up with him he will do it again, he also deletes all his messages so that i can't see them all which just makes me go even crazier not knowing what has been said.

2 weeks ago I found out he physically cheated on me which he said he was never planning on telling me. Since I've said we can work on our relationship, spicing up our sex life making more of an effort but it's only me that's making the effort. He isn't trying even tho he says he loves me and wants to be with me and not anyone else.

Tonight he went out with his friends and I waited for 5 hours for him so he could meet with me, instead he wants to stay at his friends because he hadn't finished playing a game. I'm so done with getting my heart broken all the time and making all the effort it makes me feel like it's all my fault the problem I have is I still love him so much but I don't know if i can keep putting my self through this all the time.

He knows how to s.ex me and I also knows he loves me but what I can't understand is why he keeps cheating on me.

Modified: Ps I am trying my best to forget about him. Pls any advice on how to forget him would be appreciated. tnx

POST UR PIX LET ME SEE. IT MAY HELP ME ADVISE U BETTER. U CAN'T BE WACK LOOKING AND BE TYING HIM DOWN WITH UR LOVE SO TO SAY.
R U FINE ENOUGH FOR HIM AND HE IS CHEATING, JUST KNOW THAT DUDE IS A Bleep BOY AND IS KEEPING U FOR Bleep BY DEFAULT. FREE HIM AND WALK AWAY, OCCUPY UR MIND WITH MAKING UR DREAM COME TRUE IF U EVER HAVE A DREAM COS U SOUND AS IF GETTING HIM AND GETTING A Bleep IS ALL UR DREAM IN LIFE.
U ALL SHOULD STOP FOOLING UR SELVES WITH THIS SILLY WASTE OF TIME AND RESOURCES CALLED DATING. JUST MY SINCERE ADVISE NO INSULT MEANT OR INTENDED

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by Xfactor22: 6:37pm On Mar 11, 2019

You'll eventually commit murder if you're not careful.

Useless girl... At 19, na d*ck you dey Bleep upandan.

I pity the innocent mother that birthed you. angry

What has this world turned into? Someone that's suppose to face her studies is narrating how someone knows how to sex her well... At 19? shocked

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Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by hoodedjaystrim(m): 6:38pm On Mar 11, 2019

Xfactor22:
You'll eventually commit murder if you're not careful.

Useless girl... At 19, na d*ck you dey Bleep upandan.

I pity the innocent mother that birthed you.

What has this world turned into? Someone that's suppose to face her studies is narrating how someone knows how to sex her well... At 19?

Welcome to the 21st century

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Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by Xfactor22: 6:38pm On Mar 11, 2019

lilianofentse:

I wanted advice not judgement

You're a very foolish teenager... angry

Useless hoe

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Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by Xfactor22: 6:39pm On Mar 11, 2019

hoodedjaystrim:

Welcome to the 21st century

Very shocking

At 19? Smh

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Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by emmy2244: 6:39pm On Mar 11, 2019

Ur choice

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by orijinalasu(m): 6:39pm On Mar 11, 2019

lilianofentse:
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and I love him more than anything in the world but I'm so fed up with giving chance after chance several times now I've caught him messaging other girls inappropriate stuff and I've forgiven him and then a couple of months later when I've built my trust up with him he will do it again, he also deletes all his messages so that i can't see them all which just makes me go even crazier not knowing what has been said.

2 weeks ago I found out he physically cheated on me which he said he was never planning on telling me. Since I've said we can work on our relationship, spicing up our sex life making more of an effort but it's only me that's making the effort. He isn't trying even tho he says he loves me and wants to be with me and not anyone else.

Tonight he went out with his friends and I waited for 5 hours for him so he could meet with me, instead he wants to stay at his friends because he hadn't finished playing a game. I'm so done with getting my heart broken all the time and making all the effort it makes me feel like it's all my fault the problem I have is I still love him so much but I don't know if i can keep putting my self through this all the time.

He knows how to s.ex me and I also knows he loves me but what I can't understand is why he keeps cheating on me.

Modified: Ps I am trying my best to forget about him. Pls any advice on how to forget him would be appreciated. tnx

Give him a chance?

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Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by queenitee(f): 6:39pm On Mar 11, 2019

lilianofentse:
since I posted this, I haven't called him. I also plan on ignoring his msgs till he changes.

He might call or message you, but that doesn't mean he's changed but it might mean he loves you but isn't mature.
So it's up to you whether you want to date/marry an immature guy that would keep annoying or hurting you(but I doubt he's immature if he keeps cheating on you)

And again, he might not love you but called or message just do he would have an excuse if anything eventually happens or because he enjoys sex with you(this is most likely to be it, but ask yourself, so you want your relationship or marriage to be about sex alone? what will happen when it gets to the time you ain't that sexually attractive anymore? when you have a lot to do and sex isn't just priority for you anymore? You need to remember even at 70 a man is still sexually actively and when women are nearing menopause, sex isn't just really it for them again)
So decide if you want to continue also, if you can cope with having to explain to your children why their dad simply don't care or if you can endure more heartbreaks.

And the last one, he might simply not call(he doesn't even really enjoy the sex with you and so it's good you are gone)
Decide also if you want to call him and continue

But you are still young sis, your education or job should be your top priority rn, guys should come second(I'm not saying you shouldn't date, but do not be so into it to the extent that it affects your academics, you need to be able to balance your academic and relationship life such that none is affecting the other). Trust me, success comes with a different kind of love, then guys would be all over you and you would be able to decide who is best for you. Even guys want a successful woman, be a woman of substance

Also, determine your self worth, build your worth, only then would you be able to decide who to go for and who not to, what to accept and what not to, it will be like a guide.

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Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by NewCaliYork: 6:40pm On Mar 11, 2019

He does not love you,if he did,wouldn’t cheat on you,be wise and get a good guy who’ll cherish you wholeheartedly.If you go on to marry him,I’m Rey sure you’ll come back to Nairaland to complain bitterly about your marriage.Clear the specks from your eyes,so that you can see the imminent and lifelong trauma you wanna get into.

lilianofentse:
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and I love him more than anything in the world but I'm so fed up with giving chance after chance several times now I've caught him messaging other girls inappropriate stuff and I've forgiven him and then a couple of months later when I've built my trust up with him he will do it again, he also deletes all his messages so that i can't see them all which just makes me go even crazier not knowing what has been said.

2 weeks ago I found out he physically cheated on me which he said he was never planning on telling me. Since I've said we can work on our relationship, spicing up our sex life making more of an effort but it's only me that's making the effort. He isn't trying even tho he says he loves me and wants to be with me and not anyone else.

Tonight he went out with his friends and I waited for 5 hours for him so he could meet with me, instead he wants to stay at his friends because he hadn't finished playing a game. I'm so done with getting my heart broken all the time and making all the effort it makes me feel like it's all my fault the problem I have is I still love him so much but I don't know if i can keep putting my self through this all the time.

He knows how to s.ex me and I also knows he loves me but what I can't understand is why he keeps cheating on me.

Modified: Ps I am trying my best to forget about him. Pls any advice on how to forget him would be appreciated. tnx

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by Qokie: 6:40pm On Mar 11, 2019

lilianofentse:
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and I love him more than anything in the world but I'm so fed up with giving chance after chance several times now I've caught him messaging other girls inappropriate stuff and I've forgiven him and then a couple of months later when I've built my trust up with him he will do it again, he also deletes all his messages so that i can't see them all which just makes me go even crazier not knowing what has been said.

2 weeks ago I found out he physically cheated on me which he said he was never planning on telling me. Since I've said we can work on our relationship, spicing up our sex life making more of an effort but it's only me that's making the effort. He isn't trying even tho he says he loves me and wants to be with me and not anyone else.

Tonight he went out with his friends and I waited for 5 hours for him so he could meet with me, instead he wants to stay at his friends because he hadn't finished playing a game. I'm so done with getting my heart broken all the time and making all the effort it makes me feel like it's all my fault the problem I have is I still love him so much but I don't know if i can keep putting my self through this all the time.

He knows how to s.ex me and I also knows he loves me but what I can't understand is why he keeps cheating on me.

Modified: Ps I am trying my best to forget about him. Pls any advice on how to forget him would be appreciated. tnx

This is exactly what I used to do to an ex when I got tired of her. I learnt from another ex who did it to me. grin

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by Nobody: 6:42pm On Mar 11, 2019

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by Xfactor22: 6:42pm On Mar 11, 2019

lilianofentse:

As a lady it is very hard to let go of someone you really loved and never cheated on. btw I plan to marry at 23. 19 going to 20 on May so its not bad if I want a serious relationship

BY... You can't type a simple sentence without error and all you think of is a guy's dick? I feel like giving you brain resetting slap.

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Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by extremelygolden: 6:43pm On Mar 11, 2019

drmikeadams:
you re way too fine to be a side chick I will give u my phone password,I will giv u good knackings we wil play video games together we voteA atiku together in 2023

Op is a South African, unless you're ready to bring her over to Nigeria before 2023, so together you could vote Atiku.

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by ehinorlive: 6:43pm On Mar 11, 2019

@19 i think you are too young for this.

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Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by lilianofentse(f): 6:43pm On Mar 11, 2019

mmadu5:
instead he wants to stay at his friends because he hadn't finished playing a game. my dear your boyfriend dont value you much any longer so i will advice you to move on, if that is your pic on the DP then you wont have a problem finding a man who would love you in return as long as you have good characteristics i will give same advice to my sister. goodluck

I have stopped picking his calls. Am trying to move on rn

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by NewCaliYork: 6:44pm On Mar 11, 2019

And how do you know you’re not his side chick?It is very obvious that you’re in love,you deserve a better guy.

lilianofentse:

Am not his side chick.

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by Nobody: 6:44pm On Mar 11, 2019

queenitee:

What you people forget is that according to her, it didn't happen just once, it kept repeating itself and he doesn't show any sign of changing. If he loves her, he would also make effort to make the relationship work. My own advice is don't he foolish because you love him, Relationship isn't about love alone

love matter tire me. Since buhari entered, love has gone to d dogs sad

Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by pacesetting: 6:44pm On Mar 11, 2019

The problem is, he definitely doesn't value you as much as you value him. In as much as it will be difficult to leave him, that's the best decision for you right now.

You are still young and you don't have to be in a situation that affects your focus in life.

Some of the hardest decisions to take are usually the best decisions. And this is exactly one of such. Just give yourself time. Trust me, the emotional pain of leaving him will heal with time.

One word of advice again; do not rush into another r/ship because you want to forget this one. Try associating more often with your family and female friends. Try and do other things you find interesting that will take your mind off and help you heal.

Yes, it's difficult especially when you love the person. But remember, TIME HEALS ALL THINGS.

lilianofentse:
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and I love him more than anything in the world but I'm so fed up with giving chance after chance several times now I've caught him messaging other girls inappropriate stuff and I've forgiven him and then a couple of months later when I've built my trust up with him he will do it again, he also deletes all his messages so that i can't see them all which just makes me go even crazier not knowing what has been said.

2 weeks ago I found out he physically cheated on me which he said he was never planning on telling me. Since I've said we can work on our relationship, spicing up our sex life making more of an effort but it's only me that's making the effort. He isn't trying even tho he says he loves me and wants to be with me and not anyone else.

Tonight he went out with his friends and I waited for 5 hours for him so he could meet with me, instead he wants to stay at his friends because he hadn't finished playing a game. I'm so done with getting my heart broken all the time and making all the effort it makes me feel like it's all my fault the problem I have is I still love him so much but I don't know if i can keep putting my self through this all the time.

He knows how to s.ex me and I also knows he loves me but what I can't understand is why he keeps cheating on me.

Modified: Ps I am trying my best to forget about him. Pls any advice on how to forget him would be appreciated. tnx

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