For A While Now I Have Known A Lady, she Matches My Heart So Much, the Love I Have For Her Feels So Real And She Gives Me Peace, we Share Alot In Common Most Especially Mentally. But Then I Met Another Girl Some Weeks Ago, we Flow So Well Just Like The Previous, i Love Her And Find Peace... There Are About 14 different Ladies I Can Date But The Feeling I Have for These Particular Two Is Just So Special, the Attraction Is Special, the Way Our Minds Connect Is Just Amazing..


Presently, i Have Not Asked Any One Of Them Out and I Dont Want A Regular Girlfriend But I Want Something With a Future for Both Of Us. How Do I Chose? I Want To Pick One And Leave The Other... How Do I Make The Right Choice?

I Have Not Told Any One Of Them about It, so I Am Not Entirely Sure If They Return The feeling Completely... I Surely Dont Want To Get A No and I Do Not Know Who To Open Up To

What if there was no nairaland?
What will you do?

So we're the one to choose for you en? Some people here can't make a decision in life without asking nairalanders. Whereas, they will never consult the elders when knacking. They only brings the problems here. Mtchewww.

SweetBuns:


What if there was no nairaland?
What will you do?

He would have not seen a comment from a jealous feminist with no marriage suitors.

OP I can only advise you if it is marriage you seek.Our fore-fathers got married to five,two should not be a problem for you.Look at me for example,I am about to make Sweetbuns and Poco-ant-ass(pocohantas) my second and third wife respectively After my first UyiIncomparabl

Bro your situation is highly complicated but i'll advise you buy little gifts like a land, phone, house or even a car for the both of them.
The one who accepts the gift is the right one for you and you should choose her.
The one who refuses the gift should be dumped cos her refusal shows she doesnt love you enough to accept gifts from you.

OP, na you create thread, na you still run go comment first.

Back to the topic.

The two most abused words in the English dictionary by Nigerians are "Love" and "Luck".

I won't say more than that.

SweetBuns:


What if there was no nairaland?
What will you do?

could See A Counsellor. but since there is nairaland what do you advice

Jcole1985:

He would have not seen a comment from a jealous feminist with no marriage suitors.

OP I can only advise you if it is marriage you seek.Our fore-fathers got married to five,two should not be a problem for you.Look at me for example,I am about to make Sweetbuns and Poco-ant-ass(pocohantas) my second and third wife respectively After my first UyiIncomparabl

Lol. Let Me Take That As A Joke. Marry Two Wives Is Dangerous

badadvice:
Bro your situation is highly complicated but i'll advise you buy little gifts like a land, phone, house or even a car for the both of them.
The one who accepts the gift is the right one for you and you should choose her.
The one who refuses the gift should be dumped cos her refusal shows she doesnt love you enough to accept gifts from you.

ladies Can Collect Gifts From Even Their Enemies

ladiesreject:
OP, na you create thread, na you still run go comment first.

Back to the topic.

The two most abused words in the English dictionary by Nigerians are "Love" and "Luck".

I won't say more than that.

explain better

IamPlato:
Lol. Let Me Take That As A Joke. Marry Two Wives Is Dangerous

Becuase our girls are not raised properly and our men are trying too hard to be like the Europeans

Life can never make meaning to you/you can never understand what you need in life (literally) - you may know but not understand - until you heed to this admonition "man know thyself." Work towards self-realization first and enjoy dating/playing around while doing so, but forget about courtship, until you achieve it. Truth is that when you achieve self-realization you won't seek advice on a matter of this nature.

You can only unravel the word love - the bigger love, not the smaller love fancy/lust/sweetness of the opposite sex - after achieving self-realization, its ambiguity notwithstanding. One can only be able to identify his/her ethical leanings after achieving self-realization and by extension have the ability to decipher others ethical leanings without hassle - a soulmate is s/he one shares same ethical leanings with.

badadvice:
Bro your situation is highly complicated but i'll advise you buy little gifts like a land, phone, house or even a car for the both of them.
The one who accepts the gift is the right one for you and you should choose her.
The one who refuses the gift should be dumped cos her refusal shows she doesnt love you enough to accept gifts from you.

this is seriously serious

If you love the first, you wouldn't fall in love with the other.

MariaLavina:
If you love the first, you wouldn't fall in love with the other.

I Did Not Say I Have Started Dating Anyone... The Feeling Has Not Been Laid Down Yet

Start friendship with both them after a month you will know the right one

pandv:


this is seriously serious

That guy is living up to his name.

There is always a way out of every problem
I just want to refer a book for you "LOVE ALLEY" by onos Divine, this book will Clear all your doubts and answer your questions
Just click here to download

https://www.evaloaded.com/2019/03/onos-divinelove-alley.html?m=1#more

There is always a way out of every problem
I just want to refer a book for you "LOVE ALLEY" by onos Divine, this book will Clear all your doubts and answer your questions
Just click here to download

www.evaloaded.com

IamPlato:
I Did Not Say I Have Started Dating Anyone... The Feeling Has Not Been Laid Down Yet

Never typed you have...

Just giving you a riddle to sort out your feelings.

MariaLavina:
If you love the first, you wouldn't fall in love with the other.

Don't try to act like you're intelligent. Always repeating punch lines for us.

You should start with being friends first.

I know that feeling.. strong attraction in a special way, like a perfect match that understands your psyches and all.

Well.. it's left for you to decide, put them through a simple test or something and see the one who really cares about you (doesn't mean she is best for you anyway).

It's always better to go for the one that is into you and not the one you're into.

Finally, don't ever hurt them. I have one I'm regretting till date. I hope she forgives me someday.

Jcole1985:

Look at me for example,I am about to make Sweetbuns and Poco-ant-ass(pocohantas) my second and third wife respectively After my first UyiIncomparabl

That's my crush you are tagging your first wife. You can't be serious.

badadvice:
Bro your situation is highly complicated but i'll advise you buy little gifts like a land, phone, house or even a car for the both of them.
The one who accepts the gift is the right one for you and you should choose her.
The one who refuses the gift should be dumped cos her refusal shows she doesnt love you enough to accept gifts from you.

i wanted to say something but when i saw your moniker.

flokii:
I know that feeling.. strong attraction in a special way, like a perfect match that understands your psyches and all.

Well.. it's left for you to decide, put them through a simple test or something and see the one who really cares about you (doesn't mean she is best for you anyway).

It's always better to go for the one that is into you and not the one you're into.


Finally, don't ever hurt them. I have one I'm regretting till date. I hope she forgives me someday.

I like this but the emboldened though, that's a disaster waiting to happen.

Aside that being a selfish act, it is very dangerous to be with someone you aren't into. Firstly, a real relationship is based on love, commitment and loyalty from the two parties involved.When this exist, then can the relationship stand the test of time.

Secondly, you can never cheat nature. It is humane to fall in love or at least get attracted to someone or something.This may happen before you get involved with your partner, or after you've been involved or with another person entirely.The later is the major cause of failed relationships these days.

I believe both partners should be into each other to avoid stories that touch.

I used to think that this boy was matured...

MariaLavina:
I like this but the emboldened though, that's a disaster waiting to happen.

Aside that being a selfish act, it is very dangerous to be with someone you aren't into. Firstly, a real relationship is based on love, commitment and loyalty from the two parties involved.When this exist, then can the relationship stand the test of time.

Secondly, you can never cheat nature. It is humane to fall in love or at least get attracted to someone or something.This may happen before you get involved with your partner, or after you've been involved or with another person entirely.The later is the major cause of failed relationships these days.

I believe both partners should be into each other to avoid stories that touch.

I agree with you..

Ideally, your point would be valid but in reality, you'd hardly find two parties (male and female) having same level of love and affection for one other.
One has to love the other more, of which the other might even love another more.

It's a complex cycle tho.. But still, I like your point.

flokii:


I agree with you..

Ideally, your point would be valid but in reality, you'd hardly fine two parties (male and female) have same level of love and affection for each other.
One has to love the other more, of which the other might even love another more.

It's a complex cycle tho.. But still, I like your point.

Lol, are we quantifying love now flokii? Humans are dynamic in nature, so we love differently, show it differently and feel it differently.
To someone 'love is telling me you love me, telling me how beautiful and special I am'. To another ' it is buying me roses , gifts and all' . You can't really expect people to see love the way you do, you can only learn to express it the way they see it.

People love differently, some can't die for their loved ones, some can. Are we saying the later don't love? No! They love but not enough to lose their lives.

Who loves more shouldn't matter in a relationship, the thought of that is the beginning of the end of such relationship. The most important thing is: Love exist and it is appreciated by the two partners.

DMerciful:
Start friendship with both them after a month you will know the right one

Thats Reasonable.

LordKO:
Life can never make meaning to you/you can never understand what you need in life (literally) - you may know but not understand - until you heed to this admonition "man know thyself." Work towards self-realization first and enjoy dating/playing around while doing so, but forget about courtship, until you achieve it. Truth is that when you achieve self-realization you won't seek advice on a matter of this nature.

You can only unravel the word love - the bigger love, not the smaller love fancy/lust/sweetness of the opposite sex - after achieving self-realization, its ambiguity notwithstanding. One can only be able to identify his/her ethical leanings after achieving self-realization and by extension have the ability to decipher others ethical leanings without hassle - a soulmate is s/he one shares same ethical leanings with.

As i was reading through your comment I was curious to see if "ethical leanings" would be there and voila it's there, you are very predictable lol.