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Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by jaybee3(m): 5:43pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
@dancewith What a plonker you are So the woman who carried the children for 9 months doesn't have a say Some men are just damn right ridiculous |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by suprted(m): 5:44pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
This is a straight forward issue. The woman should pls shut up and send the kids home to learn their language and custom. If you think this is not important it shows just how uncultured some of us are it is not important. i'm so devastated im uncultured. f**k you and your 'culture' |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by Nobody: 5:46pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
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Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by Nobody: 5:48pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
Would you let your husband and his family force you to send your 5 year old back to your village in Naija to "learn respect and be brought up with a "strong pride" in Nigeria" ? (this is their reasoning for doing this). Never heard of such before. How can your husband's family be telling you how to raise your own children? This things happen? Jesu! To answer your question; No. I hope there's no other REAL reason why grandmama wants to keep them till 10. |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by pslm23(f): 5:49pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
[/quote][quote author=dayokanu link=topic=529710.msg6927581#msg6927581 date=1286900768] Dayokanu, yes i have a husband and NO I do not have a family, yet. My husband is an American and NK and I first met on a forum where we were both seeking answers as to why we are unable to concieve. God blessed her with twins and ever since then we are closer than sisters. Yes, i sugested divorce because she said she was going to leave him and move to another state with the kids by end of November and i figured well, rather than run away, why not just get a divorce and let the courts force him not to leave the country with the children. you can say whatever you want to say. I'm done responding to u. I just hope and pray that someday in the future, no female member in your family will go through something similar like this because they will not be able to count on you for support! |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by hackney(m): 5:54pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
I'm quite divided on this one. I know some people that have successfully raised kids abroad and instilled culture and knowledge of where we come from though .(eg my sis in the U.S). I also know some people who have bundled their kids home to school there so as to learn it all by themselves. My verdict is that if you are at the risk of raising boys in the west and having them not wanting anything to do with home, then bundle them home i say! ! Imagine an only child (a son) having male kids that dont want to know about home. That linage don close be that. |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by dayokanu(m): 5:54pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
suprted: I dont speak Gorilla, can you tell someone to communicate your thoughts clearly? jay bee: The man whose genes run in the children too has a say. And if opinions conflict, they should find a mid point not that the woman would would file for sole custody of the child like the OP and some people wanted |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by dayokanu(m): 5:58pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
pslm23: The evil in some peoples heart is mind boggling. She wants to take the mans seeds away from him? Is she the one that impregnated herself? The wickedness of some women knows no bound. marry a guy to get children through him and later use some means to take the children away? What other mystery lies in this world? I thought I have heard it all. you can say whatever you want to say. I'm done responding to u. I just hope and pray that someday in the future, no female member in your family will go through something similar like this because they will not be able to count on you for support! I pray none of my sisters and female family memebers never encounter a friend who is happily married but would readily suggest divorce for them AMEN!! Support a friend is to tell her to divorce, Next time support might mean to tell her to kill the husband |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by jaybee3(m): 6:00pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
dayokanu:Agreed, but what happens when they can't find a suitable mid point? The woman still stands a greater chance of having sole custody if the case goes to court. |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by Ibomade1: 6:01pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
There is nothing wrong with sending your kids to Nigeria to learn about the culture and the people of our great Nation. But for 5 year olds eh mm , It just does not sound right. I believe dialogue may help the couple. |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by pslm23(f): 6:04pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
In the 10 years i've spent in this country, i've run across die hard traditionalists who say they are only in the US to make money. They've sent all their kids back home to study and stay (not in the village but in their respective towns). Some have even given tribal marks to their kids. My friend's husband so believes in his tradition and is buried deep in it. His mom has always been present in his life and almost all decisions he makes even approving of his wife before he married her. I do not see this saga ending properly and i honestly believe that he might just end up sending his wife and kids back home. Maybe that's his plan all along. He knows she won't let them go and he expects her to say she'll go with them thus giving him chance to do what he really wants! The truth will come out sooner or later. |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by dayokanu(m): 6:08pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
Ibo-made: Nooo Oh. To many people its completely wrong and The solution is to divorce or run away with the child. SMH jay bee: There wont be a solution when you are so quick to play the divorce and child custody card. The children cant live with their parents forever, what happens to a suggestion like below. Let her just tell the husband that the kids would go when they are about to go to middle school. If the woman involves a doctor in this who tells the man that the children would be at a health and psychological risk if they should travel at this age, maybe when they are older but NO the solution is for someone happily married to want her friend to divorce and her twins to be raised with another man or men as the case might turn out |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by Nobody: 6:09pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
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Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by ShyOne(f): 6:14pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
dayokanu: Everyone is entitled to their opinion as am I. Because other people who are posting feel this way - that's irrelevant - I feel differently - I am not voting for that opinion - I beg to differ - kids living out the house doesn't equate a "hidden agenda" Now what? |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by Nobody: 6:14pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
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Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by ShyOne(f): 6:18pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
tensor777: What? Yes! I am on the right page. This isn't about kidnapping a child - this is a dad trying to send a child back to the child's native country because he fears that the crazy culture in America will be the one the child follows. You mentioned boarding schools - 5 year olds don't go to boarding schools - and there are grants and scholarships available for ANYONE TO ATTEND so your equating boarding schools with being well-heeled and expensive and some type of Western Privilege - shows that you know very little "actual facts even in that area." Why are you highlighting my statements? I know you not and want it to REMAIN THAT WAY. |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by Nobody: 6:24pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
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Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by dayokanu(m): 6:40pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
Chaircover, i dey vex for you o. wake the man up at 2:00am in the morning and start crying hysterically and tell him that you want to confess something terrible to him. And you want to have a murder on your hand? seriously, I dont get the age 5 neither do I get the 5 year training period. I personally dont think any of this is in the childs best interest. Much can be acheived kids going on regular holidays & the parents and grandma & other family members teaching those kids whatever values & culture in the comfort of their own home. I have said in my first post that 5yrs is too young an age to take children to a foreign country without their parents being there. It can distort the child psychologically. And whats up with all the hypocrisy. If the west was so bad, what is his lordship doing in the USA anyway. Shouldn't he be on his farm digging yam and drinking palmy & playing ayo with the elders on a wooden bench under the stars? And what is wrong with living in another country and still embracing and appreciating your native culture. The foreigners that live in Nigeria too dont allow their children to roll tyres, and play ten-ten like local kids do. Indians, Chinese and Mexicans that live in the West also keep to their tradition and culture. i dont think its wrong for someone to want to hold tight to his culture. |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by Nobody: 6:42pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
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Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by Nobody: 7:03pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
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Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by dayokanu(m): 7:07pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
Pass me your friends number sharp sharp |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by ShyOne(f): 7:10pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
tensor777: It is obvious to even a "slow person" that there are "many layers" going on here. Yankee? Who uses that word? Do you live in the Southern part of the US? Yankee was used by Southerners to describe those that lived in the Northern part of this country back during the Civil War and "racists Southerners" use it today - as they can't seem to step into this CENTURY. Now you are using that word in a discussion with me? Who are you? I assure you my friend - that choosing me as an opponent on an intellectual level isn't a wise decision for you to make. Can you ONLY do one task at a time? Can you only see ONE IDEA and assume that that "one idea" is SEPARATE FROM OTHERS? Pay attention ok? It is obvious that I was implying more than one idea in my statement that you are making a paltry attempt to tear apart. It's obvious the Dad wants MANY THINGS FOR HIS OFFSPRING. Avoiding the "craziness" with many of the kids in the US and instilling his native cultures in the childrearing process as well as bonding his children with his family in Nigeria and learning about their native land, etc, etc, etc, Try to learn how to grasp more than one concept ok? Are you watching TV and trying to post? It seems as though your full attention isn't being applied to what you are reading and writing here on NL. |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by Nobody: 7:12pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
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Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by ShyOne(f): 7:24pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
@ tensor777 lololololololol hahahahahahaha please leave me alone |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by ShyOne(f): 7:29pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
ok I just read your last 17 posts - you don't have to leave me alone - I am going to ignore you This is just you - this is who you are trying to be intentionally on NL You have disagreed with everyone - 15 of the last 17 posts from you were posted to take the "opposite stance" You have a method to your madness I am not replying to you again - I am officially off of your roller coaster ride |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by LadyT(f): 8:12pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
The guy is a bad parent. Even worse him and his wife have been barren for a while, finally Gid answers you and the next step is to ship the babies off to crazy grandma in the village! If she has other children will he ship them off too one by one? There's no big problem she should not even get on that plane he can't make her and he can't take the kids just tell him if he tries it you will call police end of the matter. I bet this man is holding his wifes passport as well |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by Nobody: 8:20pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
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Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by buzugee(m): 8:28pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
as you lay your bed so shall you lie in it. nobody told her to marry an archaic prehistoric dinosaur of a man. men who have these kind of values dont develop them all of a sudden. he was always this archaic and she knew it when she married him but she was either desperate or was enjoying the sex lol. either way it is time to pay the piper. personally i think she has to leave the man. they obviously are two completely different people with different ideals. buf if she decides to stay with the man, then she has to give up her job and go with the kids to naija for those 5 years if she loves them that much. |
Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by buzugee(m): 8:33pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
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Re: For Nigerian Mothers Who Gave Birth Abroad by tpiah: 8:35pm On Oct 12, 2010 |
the man sef has received some bashing but he deserves it sha. |
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