Amatarasha:
Blackivy29 my name is Amatarasha nt Amaratasha

Blackivy29:
Hi guys. Been busy with my admission but here it is.

The issue of marriage; my take.
The essence of this post is to tackle the prevailing issue of marriage as there as been a significant number of threads created this address this subject.
Whether I like it or not, my primary purpose as a female is to be a wife and a mother. It is the fixed ideology the a woman's priority should be starting a family; that means finding a man and conceiving. Preferring success in terms of realizing my ambitions is deemed inappropriate.
There's no denying that any married woman can pursue her career, education etc, but the reality of things is that in the society we found nd ourselves, by tying the knot of holy matrimony a woman most often forfeits herself to raise a family.
Ours is a traditionally rich country and in each of our numerous and diverse cultures, it is generally agreed that a woman's duties in the home are domestically based while a man takes care of the finances. But we bear witness to series of developments that gradually sheds away this mentality and while normal change quickly over time, a longer period is needed for people that adjust. Less than two centuries ago, the idea of a woman working as any man was plausible. Even though that initial barrier, that prevented an entire gender from being who she wants to be has been broken down, the concept of women having equal rights as men is globally recent, most especially in Africa. So it's no surprise that majority of men born two-three generations ago prefer full time house wives to a working class lady. And I hat older woman born during that time would generally agree that the ideal wife/mother, is a stay at home woman.
The second reason any woman would devote herself so sacrificially to her family is plain love, majority of which is maternal. And as much as a mother appreciates her responsibilities, it does affect her sense of 'self' as I here is this other individual she now places above her.
For several reasons, marriage alters a woman's life (whether for good or not). The problem though that stems out of this is that it is now so highly regarded as a necessity. True happiness is found within one's self so while marriage is a source of bliss, it should not be, because it is not, the sole reason.
Nowadays, the pressure a woman faces to get married is heart breaking. Love is part of the foundation on which a stable marriage is built, but rather it's now a fustrating affair that's do or die. A woman is her thirties is ostracized by society for not finding a compactible mates with whom to share her life.
Marriage is now forced. Directly, like those prearranged by certain families for social status, monetary gains ect. Indirectly in the sense the women who don't want themselves married at an early age, single mothers, feminist (an advocate of women Empowerment/Rights), are stigmatized by the society.
Single mothers are generally branded as irresponsible and wayward, regardless of story. Whether she was a rape victim, made a poor choice inlove (a runaway Beau) or a separation from an abusive partner to save herself and children.
Feminist, women who believe in being financially self sufficient, are criticised and attacked using the same, old line, "You won't get married, and you'll die unhappy." Personally I find two things wrong with that statement.
First of all, what has being an activist got to do with love? Feminism doesn't do away with romance.
Secondly, marriage doesn't guarantee happiness. The gracefulness behind aging is looking back with satisfaction. Marriage should be regarded as an extension of a woman's life not the reason she lives. And women who find it difficult to settle down shouldn't be labeled and given names but understood and encouraged. The same goes for those who simply feel they ought to be prepared first. And those ladies who don't consider themselves the "marriage type". Who would rather spend their lives travelling round the world, being business tycoons or just a multivational speaker as she feels more content inspiring others than building a home. As abnormal as they may seem to you, they are individuals who have FREE WILL. They shouldn't have it drummed in their ears that they need to we'd to fit in. We are all different and the sooner we each realize this, the better it would be. That's the logic behind civilization.

Omar09:
At least you are not out here calling out people and over using the word 'dear'. Gee makes me think I'm in one horror movie each time I hear the word 'dear' thanks to Sandra8.
Noice work. But still taking my redpills.

Blackivy29:
tanks.

Chi59:

Dude or babe? Cos I'm seeing an 'm' close to your moniker. Great Post though.

Alexaonfleek:
Very nice post
Blackivy I would like to see u in person one day .

Which school re u processing for admission

Blackivy29:
thanks. I would like to meet you too.
Uniabuja. Working out my admission.

Alexaonfleek:
ah it's far from my school

Blackivy29:
where dear. In another state?

AstroG:






So you called my attention because of this "TRASH ??". Whether you marry,dont marry,too young to marry or old enough to marry is "NONE OF MY BUSINESS". The last time ah checked,you were still fighting to gain admission. Please ah will still say this Again "AH DON'T MINGLE WITH KIDS"


STAY OFF MY MONIKER,OR MENTION ME.
Am not a PAEDOPHILE







LAST WARNING

Magnoliaa:



She's a teen and that makes her opinion worthless? That you can't even discuss?