In a world filled with mistrust, betrayals and diabolical manipulations, some marriages are just surviving because of the safety and well-being of the children which must be considered first above marital squabbles.

A woman took to Twitter to express how devastated she was when she found out that her husband took their children for a DNA test secretly without her knowledge.

Do you think the lady would have discouraged the man if he had made mention of his intentions and ask for a DNA test on the kids? Would it have created doubts about the wife fidelity to her husband? Is the man's action justified? Ladies what will be your reaction if you discover such in your home.

Should the lady confront the husband on his alleged betrayals and lack of trust?

I will do it for so many reasons, I'm currently battling with it right now, my girlfriend is pregnant and I'm not sure whether I'm fully responsible for it or not.... But DNA will reveal it when it's time...

adebayo10977:
I will do it for so many reasons, I'm currently battling with it right now, my girlfriend is pregnant and I'm not sure whether I'm fully responsible for it or not.... But DNA will reveal it when it's time...

if you have started having doubts about the child's parternity, then be prepared for the worst.

Dozzywest:
if you have started having doubts about the child's parternity, then be prepared for the worst.

I don't really get your point...

since it is done in secrecy, then its already that there is a mistrust, if you want to do it both of should discuss it

You should be happy the results have cleared his doubts so he can now be free with you.

adebayo10977:

I don't really get your point...

since you have complained about not being sure if you are truly responsible for the pregnancy, I am only saying that you brace up for any disappointments that will come when the test results proved that you are not the one responsible.

Personally, I believe that the worst form of abuse a spouse can mete out to another is to unjustifiably question their integrity, towards them especially.

In this particular case, the man acted like a typical weakling/small-minded person. Since he made up his mind to carry out a DNA test on the offspring, justifiably or not, he should have been bold and open in doing it with full knowledge of the wife, rather than going through the secret route, like he did.

I dont believe the story one bit. The man will not keep the result since the children are his, he would destroy it and move on.

LordKO:
Personally, I believe that the worst form of abuse a spouse can mete out to another is to unjustifiably question their integrity, towards them especially.

In this particular case, the man acted like a typical weakling. Since he made up his mind to carry out a DNA test on the offspring, justifiably or not, he should had been bold and open in doing it with full knowledge of the wife rather than going through the secret route, like he did.

maybe he has some cogent reasons for going about it without the wife's knowledge, but still he would have told her about the results than locking it away in his closet.

ifyalways:
I dont believe the story one bit. The man will not keep the result since the children are his, he would destroy it and move on.

we are not here to dispute over what you choose to believe or not.

Dozzywest:

Like I said above, whether or not he has a justifiable/cogent reason, he should have been bold and open in doing so with full knowledge of his wife, with or without her consent - like an aristocratic man would do. The secret route he took defile courage, diplomacy and rationality, and it amounts to pretence and disingenuousness - he's a typical weakling/small-minded man.

Nothing wrong with wanting DNA tests, I think any man who feels unsure ought to have it done, but it must always be with the knowledge of his wife.

That said, assuming the wife was initially being emotional about having a DNA test done on the kids, then it definitely makes sense for her husband to do it secretly.
He only messed up by not keeping/disposing it properly.

Doubts are seeds that grow to become terrible trees later. It's better to clear the doubts and move on happy with life than entertain misgivings that may or may not be true.

ifyalways:
I dont believe the story one bit. The man will not keep the result since the children are his, he would destroy it and move on.

You have sense, imagine he even kept it loosely where the wife can find it.

It's for the woman's best interest,
No level of trust should suppress a man from getting paternity test unless he doesn't have the money

It's a deceitful world, forget all this grammar

adebayo10977:
I will do it for so many reasons, I'm currently battling with it right now, my girlfriend is pregnant and I'm not sure whether I'm fully responsible for it or not.... But DNA will reveal it when it's time...

Fully responsible?


I find this funny!

Can there be a half father?

He doesn't trust you

ifyalways:
I dont believe the story one bit. The man will not keep the result since the children are his, he would destroy it and move on.

criminal minded!!!

DNA test is advisable for every man that can afford it. It doesn’t mean the man doesn’t love or trust his wife. It is just to clear all doubt in a world where everything seems to have gone upside down.

If a man is carrying out the test on his child/children from a legitimate marriage, it’s better to do it without the knowledge of the wife. If it is on a child whose paternity was already a bone of contention from pregnancy, both partners should be involved.

I still don’t get why ladies see DNA test as something bad when they should even be the ones encouraging it.

Blakjewelry:
since it is done in secrecy, then its already that there is a mistrust, if you want to do it both of should discuss it

So, how will this discussion go?

Husband: Dear, I would like to have a DNA test to prove that I actually fathered our children.

Wife: Why?

Husband: I don't know. I just want to be sure you haven't been fúcking around and bringing me other men's children to father.

Wife: Okay, honey. You're right. Let's take a trip to the hospital.

Is this how it played out in your head?

Belafonte:


So, how will this discussion go?

Husband: Dear, I would like to have a DNA test to prove that I actually fathered our children.

Wife: Why?

Husband: I don't know. I just want to be sure you haven't been fúcking around and bringing me other men's children to father.

Wife: Okay, honey. You're right. Let's take a trip to the hospital.

Is this how it played out in your head?

you are such a funny chap..the mere mention of a parternity test in some families is capable of creating serious divide between spouses.

Take a DNA test if your wife has any of the following characteristics:

1. A banker.
2. An actress (or aspiring actress).
3. Does any kind of marketing job.
4. Fair in complexion (uses cream).
5. Lives in Lagos, PH or Abuja.
6.Has an Instagram account
7. Is a human being.
8. Has a vaagina.
9. Breathes
10. Wears another human being's hair on her head.

Dozzywest:
you are such a funny chap..the mere mention of a parternity test in some families is capable of creating serious divide between spouses.

But you're recommending both spouses discuss the matter. How do you think the conversation would go?

no nid because d result did not speak wrong, pretend u did not see it at all,

Belafonte:


So, how will this discussion go?

Husband: Dear, I would like to have a DNA test to prove that I actually fathered our children.

Wife: Why?

Husband: I don't know. I just want to be sure you haven't been fúcking around and bringing me other men's children to father.

Wife: Okay, honey. You're right. Let's take a trip to the hospital.

Is this how it played out in your head?

too much nollywood and Bollywood is bad for you, is this how you and your babe communicate?
btw do you know i did my hiv test because of a girl i was asking out? if she sounds just like you, damn!

That man lacks trust in her and even in his own self

Just stupidity.

Blakjewelry:

too much nollywood and Bollywood is bad for you, is this how you and your babe communicate?
btw do you know i did my hiv test because of a girl i was asking out? if she sounds just like you, damn!

How does HIV test question your babe's loyalty? You can get HIV through a thousand means, the only way your babe will give you someone else's child is if she has been getting dìcked on the side.

Critical thinking is obviously not one of your strengths.

frozen70g:
That man lacks trust in her and even in his own self

How does he lack trust in himself by conducting a paternity test? Educate us. We want to know.

Belafonte:


How does HIV test question your babe's loyalty? You can get HIV through a thousand means, the only way your babe will give you someone else's child is if she has been getting dìcked on the side.

Critical thinking is obviously not one of your strengths.

mister critical thinker, what percentage of people get hiv via external source? beside haven't you held of people whose babies have been switch at the hospital? didnt read read on nairaland where a man and his wife dna didnt match their baby's ? the thing you guys always think narrow, you think when it comes to dna test the first thing that comes to mind is infidelity because your mind revolve around sex. dont you it might come handy in the case of medical emergency

ifyalways:
I dont believe the story one bit. The man will not keep the result since the children are his, he would destroy it and move on.

correct he would trash it in the hospital or leave in his car