Many women in Nigeria give up their dreams in their desperation to hook and marry.

A Nigerian suitor told a Nigerian girl to give up publishing her magazine if she wants to be his wife.

Nigerian girls and ladies should pursue and fulfill their life dreams no matter the demands of the men who want to make the rules in their relationships.

Can he give up his own dream for you?
So why should you give up yours for him.

Do not settle for less.

Be the best you can be in your relationship.

Emulate the positive role models like Mrs. Peju Adebajo, the young Managing Director/CEO of Mouka Limited.

Dear OP, what ure saying makes sense but its not practical. 1) women must be married at all cost. In Nigeria, this is a life or death situation, one that identifies the lines between respect and lack of respect, a good woman and bad. Its cultural if ure not then there's something wrong with you.

2. What dream ? With all the virgin threads on NL, who wants a used product, to stay a virgin, most mothers/ families advice the women to marry at a very young age sooo -- no time to realize your goals. After marriage, then kids, and life just happens and you become a hustler working to make ends meet.

Taken these two ideas into consideration, there's no space for most women to realize their purpose. The journey of finding your purpose in life, takes sometime, time many Nigerian women can't afford when marriage bells are ringing at 20, 21,,

yes no woman should give up her dreams for any man.U can still get married and achieve all you want to achieve.Everybody will get married.It is not the first to get married dat gets d best marriage.It is only a selfish man that will want a woman to give up her dreams .

very truthful post!!

@op
if being married is the highest dream/aspiration of these ladies then no wonder that they will drop anything  below that.
unfortunately, many lost souls out there automatically view a married person as a happy one. . . . . . . . . . not knowing that many of these "married" brothas and sistas are MISERABLE!!!!!!!

Why isn't there some sort of online dating site in Nigeria? It really shouldn't be that hard for people to find others. . .

^^^419 scammers and goldigging greedy biatches makes it almost impossible to have such website in 9ja!

IMO, women nid not give up their dreams rather they should discuss it early enough with their partners so that ot doesn't generate into issues in the future. Whoever partner that cannot cope can always leave so that she can wait for someone else to search her up.

@Orikinla.
I must confess this is my first time of hearing encouraging remark as regards feminine career.If all men could reason same way like this,this world would have been a better place to be.But unfortunately,the game is either u give up ur dream and marry earlier or hold on 2 ur career and marry late.

Its so sad that these days women in Nigeria consider marriage as the highest achievement. Then if anything happens to d mans job or the man.Then the children will suffer. Nigerian women need to be ambitious and learn how to stand on their feet in case of hard times or even support their husbands financially in taking care of their home and children.

The question is how many men are willing to allow their woman achieve their dreams and aspirations? For instance if a lady feels Acting is her dream how many men will allow their woman go ahead in such field? If a man says NO, would i then break the relationship and start looking for a man who wouldnt burge?
Life is all about sacrifaice, and fulfilled marriage is every womans dream. Infact its one of our major purpose in life to be fulfilled as a woman.

A man that does not support ur dreams is not worth being with.There are womwn with phd degrees and still married with children.There are actresses still married. There are female Engineers that go to the rig still married with children. If he does not support you now ,he will never support you. Wen u get married u will end with nothing ,probably with children he might not tke care of properly. There is nothing like an encouraging husband.

Sistas out there please listen and harken to the advice given by the o.p.Those days of relying 100% on a man have come and gone.Every man respects a woman he knows can succeed in whatever she puts her hand in.State it down from the begining that u must be doing something,and if he isn't cool with it,let go of him.Never and i repeat, never stay laid back in a relationship,making him feel he's the lord and master of your life.To a certain extent,maintain a little sense of independence,never make him feel he must provide everything for you,cos a certain stage might reach when he'd begin to look at you as a liability.Engage yourself in a trade,or get into a buisness,so u can at least take care of your immediate needs.

A woman should not chase a dream because she wants a man to respect her she should chase her dream because she is passionate about it and it makes her happy.