I'm in a long-term relationship (5 years) and everything goes well but there is an issue in our relationship. My bf has some female friends, about 3-4 that I have never met. I only spoke on the phone wth one of them years back when he stopped over to her house for a night (she lives in another city with her boyfriend) and he introduced me over the phone without asking him. In general he is very private when it comes even to his male friends, I've met some of them all these years when it just happened not a case that I want to introduce you to my friends. On the oher hand he introduced me to all his family members and he always encouraged me to spend some time with his mum when she is around (I was trying to keep my distance).I'm alrgiht with him having female friends as I am not the insecure type and I have some male friends too but not very close (he met all of them who are mostly my friends' boyfriends or husbands). It has started to worry me as he doesn't want to introduce me to them and he is accusing me of being jealous and that I don't trust him because I nag aout this. He says that he knows that I will feel jealous if I meet them and he doesn't want to cause a problem in the relationship and he will end up loosing his friends. He swore at his mum's life that nothing is going on with any of them and that nothing happened in the past. They are just girls that he knows for years and he even knows their family, he doesn't seem them often, propably once in many months but he is on regular contact via phone or email. From what I know the two of them are not the 'good' type of girls, they have been around the block and he admitted that they are flirty girls, they always have some issues with boyfriends and have kids with the wrong men without being married and end up raise them on their own. I just can't understand why he doesn't introduce me to them.

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Mr Cork, yes to all but why r u asking ?

Poster i really don't see why you should be this worried,he's introduced you to the most important people in his life and from your post it seems your relationship is going well and you've not had any reason to suspect him,but then again since you want to really meet this girls,he should have no probs wiv that,well u never can tell,him not wanting you to meet them might be for the best.just relax and keep praying for your relationship and your man.

I think you should not look for what you have not lost.

If your guy says it is not yet time for you to meet them, i guess he knows what he is saying and
why he is saying so. It's not as if you have any cause to suspect him with any one of them.

In my books, it means a lot for a guy to have introduced you to his folks (except he introduced
you as his friend ) and also encourage you to spend time with his mum.

Do not complicate issues! My 2 kobo.

yes, but what can be the reason?  it doesn't make sense to me why i will feel jealous if there is nothing to be jealous of


[quote][/quote]I think you should not look for what you have not lost.

If your guy says it is not yet time for you to meet them, i guess he knows what he is saying and
why he is saying so. It's not as if you have any cause to suspect him with any one of them.

In my books, it means a lot for a guy to have introduced you to his folks (except he introduced
you as his friend ) and also encourage you to spend time with his mum.

Do not complicate issues! My 2 kobo.

@ Poster; If u think he's cheating, chances are that he probably is. 'Friends with benefits'
is what they probably are with ur b/f. I hope i'm wrong. For ur sake.

There's a "darker" playful side to every guy and he's pandering to his by keeping those kind of "low" friends. He knows it might be demeaning being linked with them yet a part of him can't let go of them. He knows you'd be judgemental, as you already are, when you get up close to these friends, that there'll be sizing up and that inevitably you'd turn up your nose at them and he wouldnt want that. You might even have misgivings about him afterwards not bein able to get to terms why he shld keep such trashy pals. He knows all these thatz why he elects to keep you as a part of his "secure" world away from questionable but harmless mind trips. Those babes are not a threat to your relationship at all. They are just toys ur man just grew fond of, and is afraid he might lose ur respect if you discover his roses are just wild thorns. Let him be. When I was a kid I had friends my parents will disown me if they knew I had. Even now I have some friends I keep away from "civilized" peeps. I know they r fallen yet I keep them. Sometimes, a man gets in tune with his "real" self keeping such association. Unless your relationship is threatened, let him be

Ifedisky:

There's a "darker" playful side to every guy and he's pandering to his by keeping those kind of "low" friends. He knows it might be demeaning being linked with them yet a part of him can't let go of them. He knows you'd be judgemental, as you already are, when you get up close to these friends, that there'll be sizing up and that inevitably you'd turn up your nose at them and he wouldnt want that. You might even have misgivings about him afterwards not bein able to get to terms why he shld keep such trashy pals. He knows all these thatz why he elects to keep you as a part of his "secure" world away from questionable but harmless mind trips. Those babes are not a threat to your relationship at all. They are just toys your man just grew fond of, and is afraid he might lose your respect if you discover his roses are just wild thorns. Let him be. When I was a kid I had friends my parents will disown me if they knew I had. Even now I have some friends I keep away from "civilized" peeps. I know they r fallen yet I keep them. Sometimes, a man gets in tune with his "real" self keeping such association. Unless your relationship is threatened, let him be

Hmmmm, U hav a point there. I also have such acquaintances. The good, the bad and the very bad

u can never be sure but I don't think he is cheating with any of them (hope not), it would have been a bit strange specially for the one that he knows her boyfriend now as well and they seem to be in a good relationship for some time now. And to be fair the one is quite good-looking the other ones are not something special (i saw photos of them on fb) and i know that my guy is into good looking girls. The strange bit is that they know about me (m sure about this as he spoke on them on the phone in front of me and mentioned that he is on my place or sth like this and he has me listed as' in a relationship with' on fb) and i wonder don't they found it strange that they haven't met me? By the these girls are friends with each other and know my bf for around 10 years.

Wish i could get a GF that would love me with her LIFE
like this ( smh ) i would have been the happiest guy on NL
and In the world!! thank God for [size=3pt]MaryKayla[/size]

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Who is MaryKayla?

OP,
I think your man is doing the right thing he sees right . . .You just have to trust him and enjoy!!!

Poster

Just trust him.