SangoOlukosoOba:
Just let her visit a standard hospital with competent doctors.

Since it's her family doing the abortion, you need not worry. Just make them put in paper if possible.


As for you, after the abortion, just run for your life. A girl that needs a big wedding will leave you when Eze Ego come her way.

A lady that got guys to want an abortion can kill you without thinking about it.

Run for your life. This is a warning sign

Standard hospitals don't do abortion....that's one of the reason why it has a high mortality rate.

you too broke to be accepted in their fam. may she die during the abortion amen

KingEzo:
Hello Nairalander,

please I need your advice. I am 31 years and my fiancee is 29 years and we have been dating for the past four years.

She discovered that she's pregnant on new year's eve. We discussed the issue throughout the new year and we agreed to keep the pregnancy that she's going to write her nursing Council exam later. I told her that she should give me some time so that I can go and discuss with my parents and organize introduction then do the engagement in a little way but she said her mom won't be happy with her that she needs to do big wedding because she's the first child of her mom.

She later told me that she's going to inform her parents before taking any step. To my surprise she called me this evening that she is going to terminate the pregnancy because her family has been raining insults on her since she got home.

She said her grandma is even coming to the city with her so that she can terminate the baby. But I told her that I didn't support it that I can't terminate pregnancy, I told her that she can write the council exam after delivery but she insisted.

Sir-Ma should I support this their action?

Nursing council exam is in November
She will give birth to the baby before then
With help from love and family, she will be fine
I wish someone would marry before that exam

ojonugba2014:
let her will be done and end the relationship, failure to end this relationship will later ends in tears for you.
a word is enough for the wise

Gbam

oyoolima:
Engagement Davido style Abi ?

Baby mama tinz ? Engage today,marry in 100 years.

You think it's every family that wants 9 month pregnant belly on wedding day or wedding blessing 10 years after baby drops.

I see you're looking for how to destroy her life ,stop her career and saddle her with a new baby while your own life goes on.

Madam is not ready to bring a baby into a poverty stricken lifestyle that's why she's wanting to pass her exams and start off her career.

Good she is thinking of herself and her future first.If things go bad, and you disappear, she will.have to put her life on hold to raise her child while you move on to the next.

If you were such a sanctimonious guy,you should have resisted sex before marriage but you were kpanshing raw.

Next time,use condoms to avoid stories that touch.

On point. If the relationship goes sour, he'll most likely abandon her with the child. Thereby putting her through more stress and making it more difficult for her to get married in the future.
Guy, if you want that child. Go and borrow money and marry her.

Martinez39:
She is the one that wants to terminate the pregnancy. Forget the excuses of "my mum said...","my father said..." etc. She be small pikin? These are the same useless excuses females use when they want to end things with their boyfriends. If she doesn't want that pregnancy to be terminated, it wouldn't be terminated. If you still plan on staying with her no matter what, then just forget about it because the pregnancy will be terminated. Or better still, tell her that if she terminates the pregnancy you will dump her and stand on it.

U are talking like this because u don't know what ppl in nursing school pass through.
I have seen with my eyes students been expelled because of pregnancy. I mean married ones.
some schools are yet to accept the new rule which is to allow pregnancy in school. The only thing I suggest might be of help is for him to provide evidence that she is wedded in church or mosque. Then both of them will go to the school authority to report that she is pepregnant and hear from her principal.
If the pricprincipal should find out by herself, she will leave the school. I have been there and I know what's up!

Tannhauser:


You are the only one smart enough to deduce the truth here. The girl is no longer interested in the relationship. Simples.

Maybe she suddenly found a higher bidder or some feminist friends are at work.

This issue happen to someone very close to me,
you young man typing, you ar looking for short cut, what stop u from doing all the necessary things before impregnation the girl, is when u saw that the girl is pregnant u ar now ready to settle down or do marriage.

No parent is happy seeing their daughter getting pregnant when they ar not yet married, it pains and it bring disgrace to the family.

The family is trying to cover the disgrace u hv caused the' b trying to abort the pregancy.

Tsongz:
Nursing council exam has got nothing to do with her decision. New Nursing Council rule permits pregnant students to continue with their education

The exam is an excuse. She wants to be lawfully wedded, guy is dragging leg. In a few months it will be risky to abort and she'll be forced to carry it to term. What if he abandons her and the child?
All these hit and run guys here and there. One must be wise.

Martinez39:
Maybe she suddenly found a higher bidder or some feminist friends are at work.

Put your sister or daughter in her position and you won't shine your teeth. That guy dragging leg will mostly japa once she gives birth. Remember he hasn't done even introduction. There's nothing holding him to commit.

She wants to abort it let her but run for ur life, this one mama go use all ur money do big wedding o!

Chi59:

Put your sister or daughter in her position and you won't shine your teeth. That guy dragging leg will mostly japa once she gives birth. Remember he hasn't done even introduction. There's nothing holding him to commit.

Hmmmm
True talk my sister

9ja083:

U are talking like this because u don't know what ppl in nursing school pass through.
I have seen with my eyes students been expelled because of pregnancy. I mean married ones.
some schools are yet to accept the new rule which is to allow pregnancy in school. The only thing I suggest might be of help is for him to provide evidence that she is wedded in church or mosque. Then both of them will go to the school authority to report that she is pepregnant and hear from her principal.
If the pricprincipal should find out by herself, she will leave the school. I have been there and I know what's up!

1) The 29 year old nursing didn't give any school rule as an excuse instead she said "my mum said...", "my dad said...", blah blah blah blah blah blah. She was also clearly aware of the school rule. So your post is out of line.
2) If she had agreed at first, why is she really doing a 180° on her decision? The girl in question is 29 years of age. I repeat, 29 years of age.

The girl does not want to keep it. Think properly before replying me next time.

GermanMelania:
But you are fine with ingoring the outside of sex part of the bible abi, because you yourself participate. Is everyone a christian or must everyone follow your interpretation?

Not sure where you drew you conclusion from, I simple stated that the bible doesn't endorse such and there is no 2 interpretations to it, except you have written another bible

KingEzo:
Hello Nairalander,

please I need your advice. I am 31 years and my fiancee is 29 years and we have been dating for the past four years.

She discovered that she's pregnant on new year's eve. We discussed the issue throughout the new year and we agreed to keep the pregnancy that she's going to write her nursing Council exam later. I told her that she should give me some time so that I can go and discuss with my parents and organize introduction then do the engagement in a little way but she said her mom won't be happy with her that she needs to do big wedding because she's the first child of her mom.

She later told me that she's going to inform her parents before taking any step. To my surprise she called me this evening that she is going to terminate the pregnancy because her family has been raining insults on her since she got home.

She said her grandma is even coming to the city with her so that she can terminate the baby. But I told her that I didn't support it that I can't terminate pregnancy, I told her that she can write the council exam after delivery but she insisted.

Sir-Ma should I support this their action?

Interesting

If she does the abortion, it is her decision, you have to take your decision.

What a sorry case
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Martinez39:


1) The 29 year old nursing didn't give any school rule as an excuse instead she said "my mum said...", "my dad said...", blah blah blah blah blah blah. She was also clearly aware of the school rule. So your post is out of line.
2) If she had agreed at first, why is she really doing a 180° on her decision? The girl in question is 29 years of age. I repeat, 29 years of age.

The girl does not want to keep it. Think properly before replying me next time.

Look, I understand u And we are not fighting.
What I said is what I witnessed 2yrs ago. That's why the school is seen as glorified secondary sch.
it's worst in missionary. If there is no evevidence of wedding the will send her out. Secret wedding is not allowed. Maybe that's what she meant by big wedding.
If the just pay her bride price in a very low key without anyone been invited, the sch won't accept.
They want religious wedding with reception.

TheRealProphet:
Imes, the end of days and beginning of new ones, is coming and he can emerge at any blessed time. he who has ears, let him hear

Imes, we await your coming.

Unless you are an anti Christ. Jesus is coming soon not your mess.

Chi59:

Put your sister or daughter in her position and you won't shine your teeth. That guy dragging leg will mostly japa once she gives birth. Remember he hasn't done even introduction. There's nothing holding him to commit.

I don't have your time, I sure you have, like your fellow feminists, taken to seeing men as cruel deadbeats and source of female oppression; nonexistent sexism against women; and the reason for many women's laziness, misfortune, and inadequacies.

This is a man who could have denied the pregnancy but he insisted on keeping it, how will such a man japa when the baby is born? When his girlfriend wanted to abort it, that was his chance to japa but he didn't and he even came to open a thread on nairaland stressing that he wants to keep the pregnancy, tell me how such a person will japa? Your resentment towards men is your master and you will rot in that resentment. Silly feminist.

fruqy:


As soon as she terminates the pregnancy Oga abeg run for your life (I mean, leave her.)

Since her grandma is the one coming to help her abort it, just lay low and see how it unfolds.
4 years relationship and both of you haven't given each other sense to know who should matter in this. If she terminates the pregnancy and it causes issues and she can't give birth again, or maybe sth else you won't know. Na future go tell am.

Be reasonable and wise.

You said she's 29 and you're 31. I don't see why you need our help. You're both grown up.

They are both grown up but the lady is the one being childish here How will u in anyway support ur parents to terminate the pregnancy pending the relationship is over four years, obviously the lady is just playing him.Some guys are not just smart at all,u are not ready for pregnancy and u can't practice withdrawal method if u can't get a condom.

Na only your child?

Riele:
You were dating her for 4years with no ring on her finger?

And you want to destroy her life when you've not married her ?

Uncle well done .

This girl again?

KingEzo:
Hello Nairalander,

please I need your advice. I am 31 years and my fiancee is 29 years and we have been dating for the past four years.

She discovered that she's pregnant on new year's eve. We discussed the issue throughout the new year and we agreed to keep the pregnancy that she's going to write her nursing Council exam later. I told her that she should give me some time so that I can go and discuss with my parents and organize introduction then do the engagement in a little way but she said her mom won't be happy with her that she needs to do big wedding because she's the first child of her mom.

She later told me that she's going to inform her parents before taking any step. To my surprise she called me this evening that she is going to terminate the pregnancy because her family has been raining insults on her since she got home.

She said her grandma is even coming to the city with her so that she can terminate the baby. But I told her that I didn't support it that I can't terminate pregnancy, I told her that she can write the council exam after delivery but she insisted.

Sir-Ma should I support this their action?

For the fact that she thought about something like that, she is not right for u. Don't say a word to her, if she goes through with it, consider it less bills in ur life but if she keeps it then be ready to work to pay more bills. If the kid comes thou don't forget DNA cus its still might not be urs

Grandma that didn't want to see her great grand children.

Houseofglam7:
Her grandma is taking her to go get an abortion??


What's her mother's name? Jezebel??
Some kinda twisted family that is.

Bros no dey come Nairaland.com dey ask this kind mumu question. Were we there when you were firing left and right, na now pregnant don show you go come dey ask us... Nurse wey no know her Ovulation Period that one na Nurse

9ja083:


Look, I understand u And we are not fighting.
What I said is what I witnessed 2yrs ago. That's why the school is seen as glorified secondary sch.
it's worst in missionary. If there is no evevidence of wedding the will send her out. Secret wedding is not allowed. Maybe that's what she meant by big wedding.
If the just pay her bride price in a very low key without anyone been invited, the sch won't accept.
They want religious wedding with reception.

You are not even sticking to your argument. In trying to debunk my post on her decision to abort the pregnancy, you said the reason for her decision to abort was because nursing school doesn't allow pregnancy for students. In doing that, you left out the fact she knew about the school rules, deliberately got pregnant with the intention of keeping it initially, and didn't use the school rules as an excuse when deciding to abort it and I pointed these out thus invalidating your argument. Also, she could have given birth and written the exams later. The school rules are not my business. All I know is, of her own accord, she wants to terminate the pregnancy.

AwkaetitiBabe:
After childbirth and she didn't make d exam, she'll simply blame d baby and resent you. So just put it in prayers.

No need praying because God will never validate an abortion. However, I'm disappointed with her mother and grandmother who are pushing her to terminate a God-given pregnancy.

peacefulhome:
@op, if at such age your girl can not still make decisions by herself her wonder the kind of lady she is. To make matter worst, the grandma (what a shame) want her grand child to commit abortion.

In all of this it left for you as a man to decide if you want to continue in such a relationship . Because from all indication you do not have a say in this relationship not to talk of when you guys later get marry.

85% of naija Ladies can't make decisions on their own. They need to consult their mother...
For me , it's a pissed up for me. I can't even put together with such ladies..it means my family will be run by a third party from her side....
Impossible!

TheRealProphet:
It's her womb against your sperm..na she go carry Belle for 9months not you..let her do her abortion.. No disturb d babe

Well, imes is coming sha...The end of days. We hope that he'll be coming to clarify the truth about life; the truth of which is hidden to many people.

imes, we await your coming.

I thought Imes is the name of a particular brand of generator set?

Godsonkemz:


No need praying because God will never validate an abortion. However, I'm disappointed with her mother and grandmother who are pushing her to terminate a God-given pregnancy.

Don't blame the lady alone. The guy also.have his own blame.. you.impregnated someone without adequate provision.... that is nonsense.

A lot of guys are just irresponsible and stupid

u better quit b4 its too late. Shame to her parents, even a grandma that didnt have a lavish wedding is ruining her life too. Shame to all of them