Women, what would you do if you found out your husband has a child outside wedlock? men please contirbute as some women have kids before getting married and did not tell their spouse

a very tricky question! depends on a lot of things:

when he had the child

how he had the child(circumstances surrounding his/her birth)

reason/reasons why i did not know, about it till the truth came out!

<sub>if its simply cos he was cheating on me after our marriage and he had the child?

am kicking him to the kerb! shikena!</sub>

I would be naturally upset but after i've gotten over it, i'll ask him to bring the child to the house thats if the mother agrees and raise him/her as mine. Why i said this is cos i know of a family that the dad had a child out of wedlock and the girl grew up abused and all but she still looked for her dad and siblings. The child is innocent of its parents sins so it shouldn't be punished for something they had no choice over.

i'll accept my faith and accept the child, anything for love.

The solutions are many. It is not the 8th wonder of the world so any of the possiblities available would be explored. Every problem has a solution.

But till then sha.

@Minniepo

What would i do ??

Pack mmy things and leave that son of a B*tch.