Before I got married to my husband we had a kind of perfect relationship. I just thought he was the perfect guy. He always checked on me. I did feel like he was marrying me for ulterior motives and everyone else just thought so too. My brothers warned me that he is not going to treat me right but I just feel drawn to him. I thought he just really cared about me. He seemed different.

I introduced him to my dad and my dad asked if I was sure and yes at that moment I was. Then shortly before the wedding his true colors started to come out. I never checked his phone but then a friend caught her boyfriend cheating so I decided to just check it. Guys I understand people say that if you go looking you will find something but I actually don't really believe that why is there always something that is the main point. I checked his phone and found one boob pic and pics of his old exes. I was SO shocked. Honestly, I never thought I would find anything. He told me that he recently got his phone updated and the pic was a pic of a celebrity. But I was smarter than that I saw that it was actually an "Auntie" that sent the pic so basically one of his contacts. I was so shocked, didn't know what to do. I told my brother he told me to just pray and I did and I felt like he was still the one he apologized and assured me that he was going to change.

Fast forward to a few months later I see a girl's pic in his phone his good friend's girlfriend and he was commenting on her looks very gross-like. I lost it and we fought but he assured me it was just guy talk.

Then again I recently found him talking to his good friend about another girl's boobs and he never tells me he loves me any longer. Never really truly cares. He even brought up divorce if I wanted to do it. So I am just kind of stuck. I do want to get a divorce honestly if my parents and his would not get involved. But we have a child together. I am not sure what to do right now. Why would he do this to me? Why get married if you don't love the person. I understand that people say guys will be guys and locker room talk but if you don't love that person deeply and truly then why marry them and make a vow before God.

Now I don't know what to do. He is always so rude in the way he talks. I can't remember the last time he took me out and even if he did I am sure it would be a dry conversation. I think he really is just worried about what people say and not really losing me any longer. He has this thing where he wants to always look like a nice guy. So my question is if you were in this position how would you leave? Oh he also looks at my friends and claims he never was when it is pretty obvious. He drank a little and then started winking at my friend.

seems your husband loves huge tits

This is why I'm scared of marriage
I'm 25 and I don't think of marrying anybody


Please leave that man ASAP before it's too late

Lets wait for the elders to arrive.

Kemight15:
This is why I'm scared of marriage
I'm 25 and I don't think of marrying anybody


Please leave that man ASAP before it's too late

Why're you scared of marriage?

In his eyes.... you are history. You went digging... how can you say you didn't expect to find dirt?... weren't you digging expecting to find something? Then you transformed to a digger... digging at every opportunity... and overreacting to your findings... no matter how small or innocent. Don't you think you were putting a strain on the relationship?...on the marriage? Some men can't stand drama and you are very dramatic... a drama queen. That's not what he bargained for... so basically... he's out. You seem to be the type who do not consider advice... but do things the way you see fit. Such people learn the hard way. Blame yourself for marrying someone because you were in love with him only. Younspilt the milk.... why be crying? My advice... get a mirror...look into it.

You are scared why not tell him....
Secondly how often do you dress sexy during bed times... Seduce your man with different sexy dresses during bed time don't bore the moment with heat and laczy dress make him desire you.. tell him you love him before you sleep and when his going to work, text him around 12noon.
Do this and have him by 3pm home early to have fun with you .

You felt these things before your marriage and your bros told you he wouldn’t treat you well. You were warned but didn’t listen

Originalsly:
In his eyes.... you are history. You went digging... how can you say you didn't expect to find dirt?... weren't you digging expecting to find something? Then you transformed to a digger... digging at every opportunity... and overreacting to your findings... no matter how small or innocent. Don't you think you were putting a strain on the relationship?...on the marriage? Some men can't stand drama and you are very dramatic... a drama queen. That's not what he bargained for... so basically... he's out. You seem to be the type who do not consider advice... but do things the way you see fit. Such people learn the hard way. Blame yourself for marrying someone because you were in love with him only. Younspilt the milk.... why be crying? My advice... get a mirror...look into it.

Never believe you did wrong by reading your hubby chat... Both of you are one and there is no 2 .
Secondly don't mind this quote up here.
Thirdly all the things you desire him to do for you do it for him with time he will reciprocate it...
Fix a date with him
Cook his favorite.
Play with him... Ask him to please you if not he will not get his phone do it laughing.
Tell him you miss him if he is outside late (call or text).
Tell him you missed those moments you cherished while you where dating.
Secondly dress nice, mannered not like a LovePeddler but in modesty..
Kia he will see you as a mother if you will treat him as your grown up son.
Never take advice from a divorcees or widow ...

Free the man jaare. Is it your eyes he's using? All men look at other women. ALL. No exceptions.

So long as he's not cheating on you, my dear don't think about divorce right now. I love big boobs; I have always been a boobs guy ever since my cousin allowed me to touch hers when I was 5yrs old. But my wife doesn't have big boobs. Do I look at girls with big boobs sometimes? Yes. But I only look and it ends there. I don't look in her presence either. But for what my wife lacks in breast size, she makes up in every other way and I can't imagine myself being married to anyone else.

Be strong, let him know how you feel and work on your marriage.

You're the cause of your problems. Why are you always checking his phone? Leave his phone alone biko

It's very normal. That's how guys do

Blind his eyes nah.... abi why the complain

My sister be more vigilant before he dumps you spiritually

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OP the best advise i could give is, try to seek some counseling with your husband especially since he has mentioned getting a divorce if you wanted. There is limited information in what you shared with us and all we could do is guess. Trust me, a man doesn't just wake up and want to leave his wife. Rather these are some of the things that a men does:

1. He finds that his in-laws still have influence on his family and he's tired of it.
2. He gets bored with the relationship and tries to activate his former bachelorhood life
3. He finds that his wife doesn't give him the admiration or respect as much as he would hope for after getting married
4. He used to treat you special before marriage, do you also treat him special?
5. He went into marriage for the wrong reasons, lying or hiding his true (long term) intentions which may or may not be okay with the woman

In any case, you need to step things up and play cautiously as well. Try one or some of these:

1. Try to find out what he wants and what he's doing. Is he getting influenced by friends, or has he always been like that? Get him to trust you and share his personality and beliefs with you, you'll probably learn more about him.
2. Try to find out if your values both match, for instance, maybe he doesn't really value the sacredness of marriage as much as you do, or maybe he doesn't think being married is a commitment to be faithful to one person.
3. Speak with a specialist on human psychology and behavior and try to understand what drives your husband to do what he does that you don't like. But i bet you may not need to go this route if you can find ways to communicate with your husband and get to know him better.

Listen, the worst that could happen is that your marriage ends, God forbid, but if that's going to happen, you need to be aware and be prepared for the next phase, but if there's anything you could do to save your marriage, then you need to try.

Una wahala too much ooo

You need to sit him down to discuss this issue maturely. Be more attractive, get to know what he sees and love in those woman he looks at and try to impress him.

You can also fight the battle spiritually if you really love your husband..

There is nothing prayer cannot change.



For those who wish to know, no matter what U are going through, there is still hope, don't give up.. YOU are not alone on this journey. Keep pushing you will overcome.

Is life not fair to you? I know someone who can give U everlasting Peace, Joy and rest of mind, his name is Jesus.. Jesus Christ is the answer..

Accept Jesus Christ, surrender to him, rededicate yourself to Him and make Him your personal Lord and Saviour. Accept Him now, for next minute may be too late..
This is the time to rededicate your life to Christ.

Make this confession loudly. Father! Forgive me, I'm sorry, please help me, I love U, I need U, hold me Jesus!!!, my heart, my soul please take control of it right now. Lead me in your ways and teach me your path so I can forever abide in your words. Save me Lord, have mercy on me and forgive my sins in Jesus name. Amen

Thank U for saving me and thank U because U have deliver me from the bondage of sins, I know my sins has been forgiving, I give U all the praise in Jesus name.

If U make this confession with an open heart, your sins have been forgiving and the Lord has removed your name from the book of death to the book of life. He has giving u peace and everlasting joy. Ask continuously with faith any good thing U want the Lord to do for U with believe in Jesus name and he will answer you...

Your husband is a public díck, he's got passion for boobs and big nyanshes, you've approached him to addressed the issue but his dîck is "bizy body"....

My piece of advice, don't wait until he comes home and give you free STD...
And don't think of leaving him for now, look for your ex or find a new man who can chat dirty and send you his dîck pictures (Don't send yours, you can sort)

Intentionally leave your phone for your husband go through, if he saw it... His reaction should let you know your next steps.
Let him feel what you've been feeling too. If he wants divorce, divorce him... Bible support divorce if adultery is involved.

If he lays hands on you, drug him and chop his dîck off....


Thank you...

By the way, who says Messi is not a Goat?

You married someone you knew doesn't love you. Now you're suffering the consequences. For me, free that man and free yourself. Talmabout "boys will always be boys" stupid narratives like that is why y'all let men disrespect you. He brought up divorce means he clearly doesn't want anymore and there's nothing prayers will do. Its not like he is even in love with someone else, he's chasing multiple girls, even his FRIENDS GIRLFRIEND. Na dog you get for house. It will hurt you but you can't stay in that kind of marriage na. Men don finish? Shior

An idiot above said she's a digger, she shouldn't have checked her husband's phone, seriously they should better legalize homosexuality in this fvcked up country cos its obvious male and female marriages isn't working anymore, so that there will be more of gay marriages, at least when we see two men beating the shiit out of each other because one is cheating or the other checks his phone and see irritating photos, they'd really know how it feels, same with women too, balanced equation.

Lol

U married an Assssole

Abomina-aru

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He's a cheat and the eariler you face the truth and confront him the better.
BTW I really don't know why people ignore red flags during courtship truth is a cheat would alway cheat

A woman admirer is not a womanizer