So many people criticize a relationship between a Nigerian man and an American woman. Why is that? I know that yahoo boys have ruined the image of a lot of honest Nigerian men. But is it impossible to believe that a marriage will last between two people from two different cultures?

It can happen,I know one that has lasted 25 years and counting.

Yea like any other thing in life, there is a great chance of survival. Both parties have to be willing to compromise, endure, have a level of understanding, and ready to adapt Cos obviously there'll be a deal of difference in culture and understanding and have a unite spirit

But like my sister BabyO said, lots have gone, seen and conquered

I do get what you mean by Yahoo boys though and then there are the ones that are just in it for selfish reasons like getting their papers and citizenship, but there are some who go in for dubious reasons, fall in love and live happily ever after

Some go in for the right reasons and end up not so happy . .

Yes its very much possible, its all about luck and destinies, if they're meant to happen, come rain come jupiter they will work, their cultures regardless

I am a african american woman and i have been married to a wonderful nigerian man for 31/2 years, this is my second marriage and i can say that there is nothing like african love. It has been and is a beautiful. He is my joy

Redwoman

redwoman:

I am a african american woman and i have been married to a wonderful nigerian man for 31/2 years, this is my second marriage and i can say that there is nothing like african love. It has been and is a beautiful. He is my joy

Redwoman

wish you many more years of marital bliss.
Our men can be abrupt but they mean well,we have a different culture.
Most of them will give their lives for their family.
I'm happy to be a Nigerian married to a Nigerian

@redwoman that is a good testimony, But it always better to call home your home.

@redwoman  that is a good testimony, But it always better to call home your home.

WELL FROM MY OWN PERCEPTION ITS ALL BOILS DOWN TO THE UNDERSTANDING
LEVEL WHICH EXIST BTW THE 2 PARTIES,EVEN IF THERE IS NO NUT DAT IS TO ADD
TO CRACK,ITS ALL ABOUT DETERMINATION AND PERCIFERANCE,(THIS IS WHAT I WANT
AND NOT STOPING AT NOTHIN UNTILL I GET IT)IF THIS KIND OF ATTITUDE IS FROM THE
WOMAN I BELIEVE THE MAN IS SMALL DEAL,ONE SECREET ABOUT MEN IS THEY COULD
BE LURED 2 FALL IN LOVE WHEN THEY ARE PERSISTENTLY SHOWERED WITH LOVE AFFECTION
FROM A WOMAN(MEN LOVE WOMEN U COULD TOLERATE THEIR MESS)CUZ IN ANY RELATIONSHIP,
A WOMAN IS ALLWAYS THE DETERMINANT(REGARDLESS OF THE CULTURAL DIFFERENCES)
CUZ WHEN A WOMAN IS FED UP IN A RELATIONSHIP THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHIGN U CAN DO.
EVEN IF THE MAN ENTERED THE RELATIONSHIP ON A FRAUDULENT NOTE,THE WOMAN HAS THE
POWER TO CHANGE HIM,BY ACTUALLY STRIKING THE MAN WITH SOME LEVEL OF SUBSTANCE,THAT
DAT HE MIGHT BE MISSING IF HE BREAKS UP THAT UNION(IN OTHER WORDS THE LADIES HV THE POWER
TO CHANGE THEIR MEN DEPENDING ON THE LEVEL OF DETERMINATION)

It's possible but difficult.

Today, the psyche of the typical American woman is not compatible with the traditional "till death do us part" kind of marriage.

Nigerian men are hard wired with the notion of roles in a marriage - the roles of the wife and the roles of the husband. The typical American woman is either unfamiliar with such roles or is familiar with and opposed to the entire notion of roles.

Many American women grew up in broken homes in which the idea "a lifelong happy marriage" has not been nurtured.

Most Nigerian men prefer to marry women in their twenties or early thirties, however, American women in their twenties are too immature for marriage, and so they're ready for marriage in their thirties and early forties. This age-maturity mismatch can be confusing for the typical Nigerian man.

Compared to Nigerian (or African/Caribbean) women, they do not mange stress very well.

Cases of anxiety, personality disorder, mental illness, etc. are more common among American women. This may be as a result of better health services that do a good job in managing these problems, with the unintended consequence of blurring the line between what we consider normal behavior and attitudes that are as a result of some form of mental illness. This ties into the higher propensity to use drugs (methamphetamine, heroine, ecstasy, marijuana, cocaine, etc.), probably as a means of coping with deep personality disorders, or as a path to some form of psychosis.

RichyBlacK:

It's possible but difficult.

Today, the psyche of the typical American woman is not compatible with the traditional "till death do us part" kind of marriage.

Nigerian men are hard wired with the notion of roles in a marriage - the roles of the wife and the roles of the husband. The typical American woman is either unfamiliar with such roles or is familiar with and opposed to the entire notion of roles.

Many American women grew up in broken homes in which the idea "a lifelong happy marriage" has not been nurtured.

Most Nigerian men prefer to marry women in their twenties or early thirties, however, American women in their twenties are too immature for marriage, and so they're ready for marriage in their thirties and early forties. This age-maturity mismatch can be confusing for the typical Nigerian man.

Compared to Nigerian (or African/Caribbean) women, they do not mange stress very well.

Cases of anxiety, personality disorder, mental illness, etc. are more common among American women. This may be as a result of better health services that do a good job in managing these problems, with the unintended consequence of blurring the line between what we consider normal behavior and attitudes that are as a result of some form of mental illness. This ties into the higher propensity to use drugs (methamphetamine, heroine, ecstasy, marijuana, cocaine, etc.), probably as a means of coping with deep personality disorders, or as a path to some form of psychosis.

Good analysis.

abeg the thing no dey work. One girl say she sabi one couple. Only one couple out of the several thousands what a statistic!

I believe in a lifelong marraige between humans, making a marriage work as got nothing to do with one's nationality, "u aint trippin stil u been screwed up, "

eh no it is not possible in my opinion speaking from my experience unless you have the patience of a saint!

Leilah:

eh no it is not possible in my opinion speaking from my experience unless you have the patience of a saint!

rotflmao

Nothing is impossible but the thing no easy and there are extremely few success stories from such marriages, when one compares to the numbers that get married

If both parties do their due diligence to get to know each other, to lay out expectations and are honest about how they feel and what they want then yes it can work.

Nigerian men are not the only men that believe in traditional women and men roles.  I have meet several American males and females that feel the same way.  I was raised in a two parent home and my parents very much believe in roles and understanding your place in the family.

If a marriage is entered into carefully, prayerfully and with complete open and honest communication there is no reason it can not work. 

But if one party or both are deceiving the other then it is done from the start.  Marriage is serious and should be entered into carefully, unless of course it is an arrangement, but that is not what we are talking about here.  Here we are talking about two people from different cultures falling in love and living out their gray years together.

It is definitely posible. My uncle has been married over 16 years to an african american. I could not have asked for a better wife at school. I also have freinds I grew up with in Nigeria that have one american parent. All of them are still together. In some ways it simplifies things and in some ways it complicates things but that is life

I'm not saying marriage is not serious I woudl love to remain with myhusband forever but its always better for him to find a wife/slave from back home.

Leilah pls kindly stop posting shits,thanks

@leila,why dont you let this your husband go since you hate him so much.

@leila,is ur man still breathing in that home?let him be the man,don't control him.by the way what part of dublin do u reside.

wbb

@topic

lyk duhh?? its nt lyk is the race or 2 countries in da relationship. its abwt da 2 individuals n if they both have dat connection between them, i dnt see y it shudnt wrk. there are alwayz ups n dwnz in a marriage regardless of da mixture of race n countries

No I don't

It did not work for my mom and dad

But I am sure that it is possible though

Hey poster, there is nothing wrong with yahoo boys[Hustlers]. They are just getting what the White man took from them.

As for a marriage between a Nigerian and a White person I suppose you meant. There is a possiblity it will work but the chance is not encouraging.

marriage btw a nigerian and an american works but it is not easy