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Is It So Impossible To Forgive A Girlfriend That Cheated? / She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her / Reasons Why He Will Not Forgive You When You Are Caught In The Act (2) (3) (4)
. by Nobody: 9:07am On Mar 30, 2020 |
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Re: . by Nobody: 9:25am On Mar 30, 2020 |
LOL maybe she is petty like me...we enjoy keeping and settling scores. I believe in the Bible. I try to practise both the old and new testaments. 'An Eye for an Eye'. I don't cherry pick on the Bible. Ehen! If I were in your shoes, I won't feel comfortable in the relationship. In short, Quit! |
Re: . by rikithor(m): 9:27am On Mar 30, 2020 |
Get busy, use your time wisely, learn how to drive,add value to your life,any who keeps grudges is at his/her own risk,cardiovascular disease is still active(for unbelievers) Call or WhatsApp us with contacts below |
Re: . by Zayttoven: 9:27am On Mar 30, 2020 |
Even if she eventually forgives, she won't forget. If eventually you decide to breakup, work on your anger management issues before you date someone again. If you don't it'll just be a long list of unforgiving exes. 1 Like |
Re: . by Nobody: 9:30am On Mar 30, 2020 |
rikithor:LOL 'learn how to drive'. Pls are you looking for a driver? |
Re: . by coolestofall(m): 10:16am On Mar 30, 2020 |
She don dey find reason to offload you before, you come Bleep up. |
Re: . by baralatie(m): 10:39am On Mar 30, 2020 |
Kenplay:huh! you are withholding facts that govern this your case |
Re: . by baralatie(m): 10:41am On Mar 30, 2020 |
what do you mean by you both wrong each other? the worst statement is when you said you don't hold grudges! eeeeeeeehhhn after giving the person the meanest words or actions maximum anger missile drop off 1 Like |
Re: . by Leezah(f): 10:42am On Mar 30, 2020 |
See, the thing here… is forgiveness doesn't come by request. You need to be truly sorry for what you've done. Not sorry that you got caught. Not sorry that she's upset with you. But sorry for your action… Meaning, you are remorseful and carry zero intention of repeating said mistake. This was a lesson hard learned, and you've learned it. If she isn't seeing this…. She isn't forgiving you. For instance: you cheated. (Just an example) … if you apologize (doesn't matter how or how many times), if you still have a wandering eye and expect instant trust…. Well, you lost. You will not regain her trust… and forgiveness, is something that she's doing for herself. … not for you. It's time to let ger go. If it's something like: you got angry and maybe pushed her a little. (Again, just an example) …. Again, your actions and attitude are going to matter a very lot! You can apologize… but, it's likely that if you continue to show her aggression of any kind. Like, yell at her, lose your temper around her, act in passive aggressive ways with her, so on .. she isn't going to trust you much and you're apology seems thin, at best. I mean, there's a theme. … Your Actions need to be sorry. .. not your words. If you can't follow up… let her go. Find your lesson and do better next time Best wishes! |
Re: . by baralatie(m): 10:50am On Mar 30, 2020 |
my advice is to the lady.the earlier she let's you go the better for her mental health.I don't see a remorse problem on your side .on your side is are serious issues that are fuelling your highly developed anger defense system. and the best person I can call is @adexpa. the lady Berra run |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:05am On Mar 30, 2020 |
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Re: . by adexpa(m): 12:45pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
baralatie: Lol. Did you call me out base on my previous post on self esteem? He has anger problem which is a product of low self esteem which probably originated from his upbringing or environment. The anger problem is a weakness he needs to sit down and deal with cus that will still generate another issue in the nearest future. My advice for him is to allow the lady heal from the harsh words he said to her by letting her be for now instead of disturbing her with unnecessary plead, letting her be will give her room to think and decide if she will carry on with the relationship rather than forcing her with plead . He will also do himself good by taking it off his mind and face some other things since he has apologize and free his mind. One of our biggest responsibilities is to take time to identify our weaknesses in order to manage them to a bearable level. There can never be harmonious relationship with terrible behaviours. @baralatie, we can not continue advising people to leave at every provocation, because the next person he/she will meet is not going to be jesus, so the person will have his/her weakness too. We only have to be sensitive of unbearable situations. |
Re: . by Nobody: 1:20pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
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Re: . by Bennysam: 1:36pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Please I want to create I thread for someyhing important that I need an advise but I don't know how to do it , can someone help me with that |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:03pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
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Re: . by baralatie(m): 2:08am On Mar 31, 2020 |
Kenplay:and you said you worked on yourself! the advice was let her be to heal rather it was about all you want to hear and do |
Re: . by Nobody: 7:36am On Mar 31, 2020 |
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Re: . by Bigdre31: 7:45am On Mar 31, 2020 |
Kenplay:Even God forgives us for every wrong we do , who's she acting like a god, please avoid her , it's probably the heavens showing u a good sign |
Re: . by Nobody: 8:31am On Mar 31, 2020 |
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Re: . by Bigdre31: 9:32am On Mar 31, 2020 |
Kenplay:you don't need to be abusive , i know how you feeling , after all pleadings falls on deaf ears , Just let her go her own way , there's something better for u ahead, that am sure of 1 Like |
Re: . by MRosario(m): 9:37am On Mar 31, 2020 |
Kenplay:Good decision, now the ball is in her court to choose. |
Re: . by Nobody: 10:01am On Mar 31, 2020 |
Bigdre31:Thanks… |
Re: . by baralatie(m): 10:18am On Mar 31, 2020 |
Kenplay:I can smell the rage and anger issues.likewise the effect it plays on your decision making in this relationship of yours. action and reaction are equal you brought anger issues to the relationship the reaction she ends up bitter( you still don't get it energy is not destroyed but it is transformed from state to another you put defense mechanism for your inability to deal with the effects of anger issues with this relationship by putting all kinds of tags(she is not the type of girl I should marry,Oooo I exist before she existed,is she the only one,she can bleep off etc) like I said you only wanted to hear what you wanted to hear |
Re: . by Nobody: 10:24am On Mar 31, 2020 |
If you're sure you're sorry for your wrongs, pleaded for her forgiveness and she still not letting go, forget about her and move on cos such people are toxic and if you get back together again, you won't be able to operate freely in the relationship as she'll now give you a pyramid of conditions which you might not be able to meet. A little mistake and its back to square one. So, just let it go. |
Re: . by Nobody: 10:26am On Mar 31, 2020 |
Jewessgratitudd:Thanks… 1 Like |
Re: . by Nobody: 10:27am On Mar 31, 2020 |
Kenplay: You're welcome. |
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