There was never a marriage.

Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?

Lordsonn:


Thanks. It is really affecting me. I am a lecturer in a private university, I lectured online yesterday via zoom, all the students and management discovered that something is wrong with me somewhere. I performed far below the way I used to lecture because i was really worried and depressed. I have another lecture by 4 pm today, I will try to look happy. They don't know what i'm passing through... i'm a young man of 33 years. the woman is even older than me, after i discovered her real age

At the end of all, make sure your joy is secured no matter what. The Bible said...Devil is a liar from the beginning. I keep telling people devil is a spirit and u only see him through human actions. God knows, I won't want such a woman to steal my joy. If it's me, I will end the marriage cos it's on a faulty foundation. As per the evil dreams, wake up every midnight and present your case to the realm of the spirit with those deceit as evidences, then you have won them.

You don't seem to know that some people use unclean spirit, eg. Marine spirit, to prophesy and see visions? Could that be the source of your wife's spiritual gifts? You need to find out, at least for futures sake. You married into a demonic family, hmm. First of all make enquiries on the above. I think you should forgive your wife, and take her back, tho you can call for a temporary separation ( for now) to clear your head.

Lordsonn:
Her family members are attacking me spiritually. They are trying to hurt me and even end my life. For two weeks now, any time i sleep, I always fight with some members of her family in the dream

Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?

Please kindly follow what your heart says, you wear the shoe, you alone knows where it affect you .

gamapoy539:

Someone who is desperately in need of sound advice wouldn't have the time to look for not just one picture but multiple pictures to add to his concocted story.

lol! Exactly! The guy sounds like a clown that is at home laughing at all the people that believe his lies.

psucc:
Except you have never committed sin, I will advice you go on with the divorce. But if you have, even for once, try and forgive her. She must have played that game to quit single.

Again, if you can accomidate her, yöu can as well build her into her own dream. Millions are married to illitrates and still build great homes.

Remember, you swore to an oath to love her till the end.

The oath was dead on arrival..Not with all the mistruths she latched herself onto him with.
Anyone who can camouflage like that can do anything vile.

Like you said, most of her prophesies came to pass, so believe you me brother all she told you she had will still come to pass, some already did. She had fibroid and told u it was pregnancy, she never born for u now? She said she has diploma, but now she has WAEC. If she doesn't like carrying book according to u, how come she passed WAEC with 9 credits, not minding some Distinctions among d 9 Subjects? And finally, she will be 27yrs soon, so relax man...... Bros in summary, u no try, how u sef go rush go marry because u see free straff abi u dey desperate too?

DopeDrugDealer:
I really pity Simps, only them go through these mumu situations. Nothing beats being a sharp\jasi guy.

IT is your type that gets to 70 years only to discover all your children were fathered by another Man. Sharp /jasi guy my foot!.

MedicH:
You both are immature and u Mr man u are very silly and a disgrace to manhood.

Why. And how.

Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?

u did not seek the face of God b4 marraige so once carried is always carried

hephedollarpoh:
pardon me but wanna ask you? how come you took your time to write all those things about her?

are you a saint yourself?

I have come to understand that people do things for some reasons. did you ever love her? or was it lust?

you see my brother, true love doesn't see weaknesses nor has time to roll on people's mistake. if truly you want her, send her to school. erase d lies from you head and live a beautiful life


yes It is not easy, I understand. it's not easy at all. but please, for the sake of your child.

I think you should take your child to a trusted relative, den you and wifey should stay at home together and talk it out.

agree and disagree.
fight and reconnect.

but don't go for divorce, it's not d best solution.


my piece here is... the devil you know, is better than the one coming.

Shut up

Another evil spotted

Mr man you are not serious yet

benedima1990:
I can feel ur pain brother, needless to say you're too young to kill yourself now

I tried so much to b fair with my judgement on her but the betrayal, illiteracy and extreme extrovert is something me too cannot withstand ,hence I feel your pain

if u are well to do , get another apartment for her and her child, feed and take care of their expenses, get yourself another suitable wife that will match your standard . if not , one of u will develop hypertension soon .

seconded

gamapoy539:
FAKÈ story and a HÒAX! believe this at your peril.

Fake, imagined or real, my advise is that you give her a printed copy of what you have posted on NL and please be open to discussions with her if she cooperates. Nothing spoil.

benedima1990:
I can feel ur pain brother, needless to say you're too young to kill yourself now

I tried so much to b fair with my judgement on her but the betrayal, illiteracy and extreme extrovert is something me too cannot withstand ,hence I feel your pain

if u are well to do , get another apartment for her and her child, feed and take care of their expenses, get yourself another suitable wife that will match your standard . if not , one of u will develop hypertension soon .

second

1. she said she is a graduate of KD poly with HND
were you in a distance relationship that you can not tried to finds out if that's a true?
2. if you are dating a lady,go through her well to starts any serious relationship, forget that she can speak in tongue that should not be a priority to you, focus on what you want in her.
3.you talks of how expensive she is,how about the relationship period what did you finds out during your relationship or you guys got married within 2 weeks which is a risky job?
4.she loves this she love that,I won't blamed the woman, I will blame you for not Patience enough to check her well before married to her.
5. you have already done what.you are looking for on nairalands which is chasing her out,If you wants more,I will love you talks to yourself.

Guy please depress DIVORCE button one time for the keyboard. That babe see you as confirmed mugu and she packaged you as dem dey package mugu. You better japa from that marriage if you want to stay alive.

Since you know what to do, why telling us to advise you again !

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This is complete betrayal oo. Though looks like you were charmed for my face sef.

Buh alaye are you that desperate to get married too, that you don't even know anything about your so called wife. That's stupidity oo, of highest order sef, dont meant to trash u though buh u need it man. You brought this to yourself now. You met someone within 2 weeks and u just got married like that? Just because she's a prophet in church?, when does that became a criteria for a good woman??

I dey vex for you aswear, buh make I no just yab you sha....

MY ADVICE: Any relationship based on lies can never stand! Even if u try to forgive her, u can't forget.

Go for counseling bro, I won't say you should divorce her, well there's nothing like that in d bible as much as u sound like a church brother sef.

So go for counseling!

Skyscrapper11:
what's the difference between 27 and 33 óga abeg marry your marry ooo

The difference is 6

And that's not the only lie

You have said it all that you are an introvert, in other words you have low self esteem even though you are educated. Because of your low self esteem you find it difficult to handle the issues in your marriage as a man.

Work on your self, forget about are qualifications. From what I deduce in your article, even though she does not have the stated qualifications, but she is smart and bold.

You are now jealous, thinking in your heart that look at this uneducated woman trying to show off by buying expensive clothes etc. Qualifications is not equal to quality.
Up your game and just love her.

70% of what you wrote here happened to me too..but honestly the issue of marriage is a very delicate one. .i really made a mistake just like you too for rushing into the relationship. i did not have patience and did a lot of background checks..But i must say as a christian divorce is not an option and besides most or will i say no marriage is perfect too.if you heard what some homes are going through. it is natural for you to feel very bad after all your findings but please stay away from divorce and commit you home to God's hand if you are a true christian or else this might just be part one of the problem which i dont pray so..then since you now know all her weaknesses try and find out ways to overcome them and move on with your life..note every marriages has its own problem.this might just be your own cross...life is not really fair sometimes just make yourself happy...

Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?

If this story is not concocted, I must say you are your own undoing. You claim to be educated but never acted like one. You know marriage is a life time thing and you opted to hurry in. Now, you want to hurry out! The truth is that you've to bear your own burden until death do you part.

You cannot eat your cake and have it back. It is the bitter truth and it must be said. Did she use charm to coax you into the relationship? Even if her prophesy is always spot-on, the bible says test every spirit (1 John 4: 1) to know which is from God.

The first thing is, before you send a woman out of the house, be completely sure that you will never take her back but you didn't know that before you sent her out.

Now, consider my advice diligently, never allow her to come back. If she prophesies and they come to pass often yet she made a move on premarital sex on you and told these lies, know of a certainty that she is not prophesying by the spirit of the Lord but by another god. In lieu with that, she can go to any length to to put your spirit under control if you allow her to come back.

Its not a curse. No Jupiter can change your circumstance unless you divorce that woman
.

Her little mistakes will always cos an uproar.

One day you will eventually stab each other..

James4bright:


What's so fake about the story? 70% of Nigerian women don't act differently from Op's wife.

They are manipulative and would do anything to get under a successful man.

U are very right. I knw of someone who did same thing

Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?

if true you no go get time post those pictures u added to the write up

Isolation period is not the best time to consider these things.



These are unusual times.

Stress is high, close proximity of individuals and anger is high.


Also a young marriage . So calm down, talk things through and seek resolutions.

Lol, the solution to your problem is as delicious as isi-ewu.
As a lecturer I won't solve it for you until you remember the formula.

Michelle55:
I keep saying it.. Any marriage built on lies and deceit is as good as been dead..
There was never a marriage in the first place talk more of divorce.
Always come clean during courtship as to let your partner know what they are really getting themselves into, if they are cool with your past and flaws, then every other thing is settled.
Op, if you are buoyant enough, get a place for her and your son then co parent.. Its not by force to stay married if you both are unhappy with the union.

Ladies, please keep it real to avoid stories like this.. Always remember that there's a man for every woman and same goes for men too.
There's really no need for the unnecessary drama of trying to keep up with the latest fashion and makeup accessories.

At the end of it all, your happiness and peace of mind is what really matters.. No let marriage wahala send you to an early grave

U no get Sense. # woman supporting woman syndrome