Why is it that some men are so quick to call women gold-diggers? The minute you mention certain financial expectations that you have of a partner,they're like oh,she's a gold-digger or oh,she's a lazy,money-grubbing lady. Is true love=Poverty? Must we suffer and eat sand before our love can be said to be true? P.s-i do agree that there are many female gold-diggers out there. However,i don't think that having reasonable financial expectations of a guy makes you one. It is not a must for us to suffer and grow lean before people will know we truly love a person. Love is not equal to poverty/suffering.

Mr, Cork:

Atreides <<<<< Gold diggger

Hehehe. . I knew somebody was gonna go there. . . . If i do start gold-digging,i'll go after guys who actually have money. . Guess that means you're safe. .

olodo!

The whole Gold Digger thing seems greatly exaggerated by men. What's amusing to me is that it is most often the guys with no or very little money that label women gold-diggers"

tim2:

olodo!

tani? @roky,spot on! Those who shout gold-digger up and down are quite possibly poor/broke-a.ss bruthas.

Mr, Cork:

Atreides , ermm, sweeery by the way , r u light skin & do u gots nyansh?

Haha. . You this boy/man ehn. . Why you gat to go there? But wait oh. . Why are you asking?

im not being overconclusive here but some sisters are just outright gold and diamond diggers.asking for money isnt d problem but when u make money a priority in ur relationship then i think u need a job. i jst met a fine full figured sexy sister some 2 days back, she doesnt even know ma surname and now shes asking me for funds for ne stuff or d other, i guess u'd say she loves me

They are, Most of them. Its not their fault

okosodo:

They are, Most of them. Its not their fault

How would you feel if i said most men are poor?

I wonder o,when majority of these so called men dat tag women golddiggers dont even have d gold,moreova,if i dont dig gold,wat shd i dig?sand,or na only d1cK i wan chop

@ OP

you completely missed it.

you dont talk about shit like that when

you knw that ur not married to that guy,

do you really think that we men do know abt womens expectations on the financial part??

to think that ur frm edo, very embarassed for you

moonraker:

@ OP

you completely missed it.

you dont talk about poo like that when

you knw that your not married to that guy,

do you really think that we men do know abt womens expectations on the financial part??

to think that your frm edo, very embarassed for you

What,pray tell,did i completely miss? Is it not true that some guys like shouting gold-digger up and down? That term is being over-used and i was only pointing that out. It's not only when i'm married that i'll have a right to expect certain things from a guy. I'll also have a right to expect things from a boyfriend,though not as much as a husband. And what does my being Bini have to do with anything? Please,for the love of God,please do not bring tribalism into this. You're embarrased for me? Lemme see. . Nah,don't really care.

@Atreides
Give us an idea of wat u feel are reasonable expectations.


While is true dat some folk just label every lady golddigger it doesn't detract from d fact that there are golddiggers out there n dat label is not written on d forehead.


Character is often shown in action. If u make unreasonable financial demands den be prepared to carry the label.

Okay from a boyfriend, credit,the occasional gift(like jewelry or novels),and if we went out on dates he'd foot the bill. If i was extremely broke(which rarely happens anyway) i'd expect him to help me out if he had money. From a husband,rent,feeding,clothing allowance,hair allowance(well that one's optional),fuel(for the house,but if he wants to help me fuel my car that's okay),credit and if we went on outings he'd pay but if we went on a holiday i suppose we could pool funds if he asked. That's about it. Oh and i'd expect gifts from him too.

^^^ based on above, Mr cork Ws right to call u a gold digger. Na ur life alone d guy come? U not fit earn money to take care of yaself too? Go through ur list n c hw petty dey r, n u expect any reasonable man to take it serious? U don't need a man, what I need is a mugu.

Finally, I only think u r joking wt d whole thing?

Atreides:

How would you feel if i said most men are poor?  

It does not change anything, you know i am saying the truth

Atreides:

Hehehe. . I knew somebody was gonna go there. . . . If i do start gold-digging,i'll go after guys who actually have money. . Guess that means you're safe. .

[size=28pt]LMFAO!!! [/size]

@Atreides
Well I tink ur demands are reasonable but lemme ask u wat do u do wit ur money?

homerac7:

^^^ based on above, Mr cork Ws right to call u a gold digger. Na your life alone d guy come? U not fit earn money to take care of yaself too? Go through your list n c hw petty dey r, n u expect any reasonable man to take it serious? U don't need a man, what I need is a mugu.

Finally, I only think u r joking wt d whole thing?

You thin that's being a gold-digger? You haven't seen gold-diggers yet. I don't expect much from a boyfriend,but a husband is supposed to take care of feeding,housing and clothing. Those are the basics,and calling that gold-digging won't change that.

Lord_Reed:

@Atreides
Well I tink your demands are reasonable but lemme ask u wat do u do wit your money?

Did you notice that i did not include clothing or hair allowance in my expectations of a boyfriend? When we're dating my money will be to take care of myself,to pay my rent,to fuel my car and my gen,to send home to my people,to save etc. When we get married,taking care of me becomes his responsibility. Feeding,housing and clothing are his responsibilities. Of course if for some reason he doesn't have then that's a different thing entirely.

When it comes to romance, there is a cold war between guys and ladies, hence the frequent mud-slinging (girls are golddiggers !, men are dogs! ) Most men go into relationships for sex while most women go into it for money. Both genders hate to see it that way, yet they cant do without each other. I think the ultimate aim is to be loved for who we are and not because of sex or money, but we are all selfish beings, how can this be possible. The panacea should be; Guys, bring on the money ~ ladies, get ready for sex. But if u cant stand this heat, get out of the kitchen. The principle is QUOD PRO QUO. Let the game continue.

i.i jst met a fine full figured sexy sister some 2 days back, she doesnt even know ma surname and now shes asking me for funds for ne stuff or d other,

next time, look for an ugly, figureless babe. abi? lol  
someone to match your bank account.

to me, girls go for money in the same vein men go for looks.
so both genders are shallow!

Jenifa_:

next time, look for an ugly, figureless babe. abi? lol  
someone to match your bank account.

to me, girls go for money in the same[b] vein men go for looks[/b].
so both genders are shallow!

Thats not true

I only look for someone with a puccy.

Everything else is secondary!

^ good for you.

^^^^

Do you have one?

And how tight? The tighter the better

its a new year Fstranger . . . be nice mahn

Most guys are d cost of this. . . They'll put money for front with big talks and stuff. . . What'd you expect the girl to do? Then when she ask for small thing you'll say that girl is a gold digger.

@Altreides
So assuming it's fitting and proper that a guy should fix all these numerous needs of yours, As a lady of what benefit are you to the guy, what value do you add to the guy's Life.

I Don't mean to be derogatory or bashful but I often ask myself what use is a woman to a guy especially for guys that don't snack on sex.