There was a couple whose marriage is barely 5 yrs. Before marriage, the wife was a successful businesswoman and all through the marriage, she has been supporting at home front and even her husband dwindling business.


Recently, she planned to pull out a huge amount of money from her business to give her husband to start over again. More like 40% of her working capital (7 figures). She wanted to gift it to him as a surprise birthday present. But she got the shock of her life. Her presumed faithful, over religious husband was having an affair and was all over Facebook flirting and sexting single girls.



Wife trusted him completely that she never snoop on his phone nor pick his calls. His dirts come to light when she discovered that he was been too possessive of his phone, apprehensive when she touches it, hide it stacks of clothes etc. The detective in her kicks in. And she saw things she would never have imagined.




Nairaland married folks, come and table this matter. If you are the wife, what will you do?

Why are people always scared to let people know that they are the ones in the story where they use fictional characters?

To your question, if I was the one, I would withhold the funds, it's for his own good, if not, he is gonna self destruct and lavish it on those girls.

Keep my money to myself. Probably build a house and move in, then divorce the heavy load.

An over religious person cheating?? It can't be.

Maybe his account was hacked.
She should go ahead and give him the money.

Ningen:
An over religious person cheating?? It can't be.

Maybe his account was hacked.
She should go ahead and give him the money.

Hacked? Even WhatsApp and SMS? No, I don't think so. The religious front is a facade.

In situation like this, I won't gift him the money but will rather gift him more responsibilities.



Nah empty hand devil dey use.

Janelle08:
Hacked? Even WhatsApp and SMS? No, I don't think so. The religious front is a facade.

But it's very possible. Especially if he's using the same phone number for his WhatsApp account and Facebook. Is that the case here?

Ningen:


But it's very possible. Especially if he's using the same phone number for his WhatsApp account and Facebook. Is that the case here?

I get your point, but that is not the case here. No account was hacked. Ok, so how do you explain unplugging his phone from charging and hiding it in a stack of clothes before going for sports? How do you explain the call history? And exchanging numbers with women online?

Janelle08:
I get your point, but that is not the case here. No account was hacked. Ok, so how do you explain unplugging his phone from charging and hiding it in a stack of clothes before going for sports? How do you explain the call history? And exchanging numbers with women online?

Now that you've confirmed it's your story, and its genuine, please ignore my previous comments.

Sorry. I was only being sarcastic.

Well, you are right. It's NOT a case of hacking.
Behind all the religious facade is an ugly cheat and the only gift he should be getting is divorce.

Pocket your money deeply and work towards presenting those papers for him to sign on his birthday. It's not worth it giving him a chance.

Ningen:


Now that you've confirmed it's your story, and its genuine, please ignore my previous comments.

Sorry. I was only being sarcastic.

Well, you are right. It's NOT a case of hacking.
Behind all the religious facade is an ugly cheat and the only gift he should be getting is divorce.

Pocket your money deeply and work towards presenting those papers for him to sign on his birthday. It's not worth it giving him a chance.

OP, please ignore the bolded part

You people here just love recommending divorce to every marital issue like it's one grocery you get off the shelf in a supermarket.

SweetCunt97:
Keep my money to myself. Probably build a house and move in, then divorce the heavy load.

Hmm. Iron lady. But you are right. He doesn't deserve the money.

TheCongo2:


OP, please ignore the bolded part

Now she wouldn't miss it.
Thank you for making it embloden!

CsRockefeller:
You people here just love recommending divorce to every marital issue like it's one grocery you get off the shelf in a supermarket.

Life isn't complicated. Divorce is a choice.

Ningen:



Life isn't complicated. Divorce is a choice.

Neither is it the first solution to every marital issue.

CsRockefeller:


Neither is it the first solution to every marital issue.

When it comes to cheating, IT IS.

But what do I know, after all... Some of you have been brainwashed to totally condone cheating.

Ningen:


When it comes to cheating, IT IS.

But what do I know, after all... Some of you have been brainwashed to totally condone cheating.

She divorces him and then what? She stays alone all through her life or probably finds another man who would cheat on her?

Men who wouldn't flirt or cheat in this life while married are very few.

What kind of advise does this wife want

OP, the wife should still help the husband if she can. Issues that prompted the husband to flirt should be addressed. Maybe the husband is flirting out of frustration. Maybe the wife is sex starving him

TheCongo2:
OP, the wife should still help the husband if she can. Issues that prompted the husband to flirt should be addressed. Maybe the husband is flirting out of frustration. Maybe the wife is sex starving him

Hmmmmm.

Hopefully, you are this 'understanding' if it was a cheating wife

Do unto others as you want them to do unto you.

Janelle08:
There was a couple whose marriage is barely 5 yrs. Before marriage, the wife was a successful businesswoman and all through the marriage, she has been supporting at home front and even her husband dwindling business.


Recently, she planned to pull out a huge amount of money from her business to give her husband to start over again. More like 40% of her working capital (7 figures). She wanted to gift it to him as a surprise birthday present. But she got the shock of her life. Her presumed faithful, over religious husband was having an affair and was all over Facebook flirting and sexting single girls.



Wife trusted him completely that she never snoop on his phone nor pick his calls. His dirts come to light when she discovered that he was been too possessive of his phone, apprehensive when she touches it, hide it stacks of clothes etc. The detective in her kicks in. And she saw things she would never have imagined.




Nairaland married folks, come and table this matter. If you are the wife, what will you do?

How far the child he wanted you guys to adopt?

Well,keep your money and invest it.
Decide what you would do with the cheat.

bukatyne:


Hmmmmm.

Hopefully, you are this 'understanding' if it was a cheating wife

Do unto others as you want them to do unto you.

So, what would you suggest? Not to help him?

My sister just talk sey na u we go gather advise u

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TheCongo2:


So, what would you suggest? Not to help him?

Same thing you would suggest if the genders were switched.

bukatyne:


Same thing you would suggest if the genders were switched.

I am not into the gender card game.

bukatyne:


Same thing you would suggest if the genders were switched.

And let us be realistic. There is a huge difference between a men who sleeps around and a lady who does the same. A man can sleep around via the polygamy channel. As for a lady... she can do the same through prostitution. So which one of the 2 is morally acceptable?

It is well oh.

bukatyne:


Same thing you would suggest if the genders were switched.

By the way, what if this was a gay couple?

TheCongo2:


OP, please ignore the bolded part

Why?

TheCongo2:


And let us be realistic. There is a huge difference between a men who sleeps around and a lady who does the same. A man can sleep around via the polygamy channel. As for a lady... she can do the same through prostitution. So which one of the 2 is morally acceptable?

None is morally acceptable irrespective of who commits it. When God decreed 'Thou shall not commit adultery" was He referring to women alone? If you want to marry more than one woman be clear about it, marry the second even third woman put for house they you can sleep around via the polygamy channel which the belief that your faith or none supports it

Reality is that some men today who sleep around do not want to marry many wives because of the heavy responsibilities but they want to have more sexual partners while still maintaining one wife at the home front.