Zchi1052:

OP so sorry about the lost .I know how it hurts
But where are you from?
And where is the girl from?
Cos it's so necessary to settle what needs to be settled and ur conscience will be at peace as well

we are both from South South Nigeria (Bayelsa)

boxer022:
I will say that you are indeed very lucky, that you have good in laws. What you did was very risky and not advisable for any man to try such a thing. Since you had the intention of making her your wife, why did you not go to your family to inform them on your decision and they accompany you to her family. At least even though you were not financially ready, you would have done even though it is introduction. After which you try your best to get money to pay at least part of her bride price, promising to complete it soonest. Back to your question, the punishment is paying for her bride price, it may be double, fulfilling all marital rights and also marry her.

so,there 're tribes that accept bride price in bits

Omuneizzy6:
I lost the both

May God comfort you and all she left behind.

I'm sorry for your loss OP, the woman's family said you should move on, so you have to move on. There is no spiritual implications whatsoever, it was just a sad incident and you cannot blame yourself for it.

You should have done what was right, at the right time.......

Can you continually cruise uber, without payment?........

There is no spiritual implications what so ever,but traditionally what this implies is the said lady isnt your wife as such you cnt claim ownership of the child.

So the family doesnt sent you to claim that child later .


Where I come from a man who is not traditionally married to a lady (as in paying a dime on her) has no right over the child that was born in such a relationship.

There is no price on a human being. Nigerians stop being backward in the name of tradition.

My son, as a chieftain, I can categorically tell you that are so many implications traditionally and spiritually but let's simply talk as it relates to you now. As it stands now, you and the deceased lady proved beyond every reasonable doubt to your families that you love each other and were heading to the altar before the tragedy struck. You are lucky to have an understanding family ( the lady's family). Assist in giving her a decent burial and try to maintain a cordial relationship with her family even long after you've remarried. Should I remind you to take a proper care of the child, NO; I know you will fare well in that department.

May God be with you.

No try am with ikwerre people

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[quote author=Lexusgs430 post=90546167]You should have done what was right, at the right time.......

Can you continually cruise uber, without payment?........ [/quotte]

Lexus where and when can I meet you

Bleep the dead body for family present and some do give the birth water to any of them to drink while some tribe do real wedding between them after the death with 2wice of what you should have spent if he/she was alive

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Social Long Distancing.........

Bush people

Why should he be penalized?

Was she in a cohabitation with him against her will or did he force her to get pregnant?

Amotolongbo:
Dowry is being paid by women, not men.

Bride Prize is being paid by men.

@Dear OP, sorry for the loss.
It depends on the tribe and cultural values and norms.

In some parts of Igbo land, the man has to settle all the bride prize and probably have a conjugal bliss with the corpse before they can allow the corpse being buried.

In major part of yoruba land where I come from, no much serious implication.

The major and utmost thing is that, try to know the in-depth of the cultural norms and values of the land which you are marrying from. Clear all the bills, settle everyone you are meant to settle before taking the bride or groom.
Every culture is meant to be observed and respected. If you find their culture so “barbaric”, don’t marry from there, it isn’t mandatory

You just spoke like a Sociologist. Many tend to confuse those two terms.

"Dowry is being paid by women, not men.

Bride Prize is being paid by men."

Just like tribes (savagery) and ethnic groups.

Thanks

In igboland, you will marry her before they bury her.

Omuneizzy6:
I lost the both

Sorry about that. They are a simple and nice family. Child bearing mortality is so painful. Lost my sister during child birth too

Chamber2000:
Shut up. No part of Igboland will ask for a conjugal bliss with the corpse.


You are rather expected to pay twice the amount for marriage rites so that others can learn lessons about the importance of doing proper marital rites with a lady instead of living together as unmarried couples

Original Igbo man spotted there. They start off by talking down their direct audience. Raining insults and tongue-lashing the weak by flaunting their superior advantage ostentatiously.

Well-done onye nna. You're doing well. ooooin!


Modified.

You have a counter argument, bring it up in a subtle manner without causing harm to the personality of the person you're addressing....

GODPUNISHUNA:


If that's you on your dp then I like what I see. My perfect kind of shape. Make sure you don't grow fat like these other Nigerian ladies that don't know how to take care of themselves and feel being built like a whale is the idea of African beauty

Lol thanks

Lovelyn451:
The way some so called Igbo's comment is so annoying and makes me cringe aswear...which one is marry her in death, have conjugal bliss with the corpse when the only thing there is to pay her bride price b4 she's laid to rest and thats it...
Abeg abeg u guys should learn to construct your comment properly b4 posting....kai

But u r igbo too

You can personally support the family by making contributions to their upkeep especially if she was a support to them. But nothing forced. Do it willingly and be blessed easily

Amotolongbo:
Dowry is being paid by women, not men.


and probably have a conjugal bliss with the corpse before they can allow the corpse being buried.

In major part of yoruba land where I come from, no much serious implication.

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Where una dey hear this nonsense(bold) from?

You're not Igbo yet you know everything about Igbos.
Who gave you guys all the rights to talk about Igbos as you so please? Bunch of nonsense

Amotolongbo:
Go and tell your mother to shut up for failing to teach you manner!
Children roaming nairaland with their diapers

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.pmnewsnigeria.com/2016/02/22/man-marries-wifes-corpse-in-anambra/amp/

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.informationng.com/2018/04/young-nigerian-man-forced-to-marry-corpse-of-woman-he-impregnated-without-paying-her-bride-price.html/amp

https://www.google.com/amp/s/dailypost.ng/2016/02/14/my-late-wifes-family-wants-me-to-marry-her-corpse-man-laments/

You are an Idiot. A big idiot.

Marrying a corpse means paying the marital rites and not having conjugal acts


When u left school, your dad was still doing hippie and rapping Bones Thugs n Harmony on the streets

Omuneizzy6:
I lost the both

my condolences. This is just sad.

Ghenisean:
Here in Isoko,Delta State. If the dowry isn't paid before death shifts in,you'll surely osy before yiu bury her ooo,na the dead body them go wear the beads put,escort am come meet you.
Then maybe the following day or week you bury your wife in peace,unless the family just pity you agree say make them bury her like that if not,you done enter one chance be that ooo

if the woman is from isoko,the man should just run for his dear life,they don't hv conscience.they treat their inlaws like slaves.

timekeeper1:


But u r igbo too

ehe??

Lovelyn451:
ehe??

Why insulting ur fellow igbo

Onyi22:

What hell?

my dear plenty hell o.you can ask any akwaibom person especially the annan people.they can tell you more about it.if a man can deal with his daughter to any extent for geting pregnant outside wedlock,how much you(the guy) that is a total stranger to him.connect the dots yourself and you will understand more.

Just Pray you don't get entangled in that mess, so culture will force you to marry her before she can be buried


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It's time we start getting rid of these cultures. What if he ran away and never showed up.