Ope88:


But I'm wondering, what if he refuses to do what the elders say, wetin go happen?

The ghost go dey stay with you
Its too scary

NoIgboSoundTueh:

You are ashamed of your culture?
Even after the girl posted 3 different stories carried by reputable dailies.
You can't hide Igbos are 14th century backward savages.
That's your truth live with it

That savage behavior is also carried out in isoko land, akwa ibom, parts of edo and delta states.
But you are quick to start jumping up and yelling igbos! The savage culture( according to you) was designed to discourage promiscuity and baby mama syndrome
I try not to engage myself in the tribalistic shits that goes on here. Am above that.

NoIgboSoundTueh:

You are ashamed of your culture?
Even after the girl posted 3 different stories carried by reputable dailies.
You can't hide Igbos are 14th century backward savages.
That's your truth live with it

Just shut up
Learn to start reasoning with your brain you're too old for this

If you are reading this and you are cohabiting with a lady from akwa Ibom or Ebonyi state, I beg u, thread carefully cos you will not be as lucky as the op.
It will end in triple tears.

Mtola8:

You call that shit up there sarcasm?

av modified abeg...b4 u go vex bann me...guy easy wit dis foul words na...u no use am pass me o..if i talk my own na dm go ban me bt ur plan no go work

Ghenisean:
Here in Isoko,Delta State. If the dowry isn't paid before death shifts in,you'll surely osy before yiu bury her ooo,na the dead body them go wear the beads put,escort am come meet you.
Then maybe the following day or week you bury your wife in peace,unless the family just pity you agree say make them bury her like that if not,you done enter one chance be that ooo

Where for Isoko be that?

paulolee:

av modified abeg...b4 u go vex bann me...guy easy wit dis foul words na...u no use am pass me o..if i talk my own na dm go ban me bt ur plan no go work

Lol!! Crazy dude. u sef no vex

chikitobabe:
There is no spiritual implications what so ever,but traditionally what this implies is the said lady isnt your wife as such you cnt claim ownership of the child.

So the family doesnt sent you to claim that child later .


Where I come from a man who is not traditionally married to a lady (as in paying a dime on her) has no right over the child that was born in such a relationship.

From the east I guess.

Omuneizzy6:

Hello Nairalanders, its been a while I was in a grieved and depressed mood, trying to gain back my self.

Let's go straight to the topic.
I will really love you guys to help with your good takes on this issue.

Please don't mind my poor grammar.

Sometimes last year, I was in a relationship with this young pretty girl and later she became pregnant for me. Which I had in mind that we will marry in the nearest future but, yet to settle her bride price.
Though, we really loved each other, I devoted 90% of my effort and time for her genuinely.

Even one of her brothers has met me in different occasions asking when I will see the family but I told him, due to my Assignment and duty location once I settle down I will do that unfailingly.

Let me cut the whole story short.

During her delivery period she passed on while giving birth. I wasn't expecting that though I was really mad. May her soul rest in peace

I asked the brother what will be the next move, he said is to take her home and bury her. within me (just like that?) I couldn't control my tears We took her home and buried her few hours later.

On the fourth day of the burial, my parents asked the brothers and sisters both the elders. so what next they said nothing, after the burial everyone can leave. That was their reply.

My parents was like what of the other side? They said see, we don't want to bother your son we know how they were before the girl died, they really loved each other... If we ask you to pay anything. There is no amount of money paid that will bring back our sister's life so forget, what you people need to do, just stay, observe some rites and traditions like to buy drinks take care of the families and friends.. Till after the normal 8days everyone leaves.

Although, had it been it's in some places the family might not take it likely with me..
I must marry their daughter first,buy wrapper, pay her dowry, pay for the death, I must also prove innocence.

Now the question is, What is the punishment given to a man who didn't pay her lady's dowry before she died in your Place?

In Addition to that, is there any spiritual implications attached to it if a man didn't pay a lady's dowry before she died... Because I'm just scared.

Mod. please I need many takes on this. It will help a brother.

If you are the cause of her death then you get to be very worried if not just relax and pray earnestly to God never to allow that again. The parent have said go dont pay any dime bec that does not bring back their daughter,go and thank your God, bec some tradition would have
demanded that you pay for her corpse, and perform all other marriage rituals including white and traditional wedding.

Amotolongbo:
Go and tell your mother to shut up for failing to teach you manner!
Children roaming nairaland with their diapers

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.pmnewsnigeria.com/2016/02/22/man-marries-wifes-corpse-in-anambra/amp/

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.informationng.com/2018/04/young-nigerian-man-forced-to-marry-corpse-of-woman-he-impregnated-without-paying-her-bride-price.html/amp

https://www.google.com/amp/s/dailypost.ng/2016/02/14/my-late-wifes-family-wants-me-to-marry-her-corpse-man-laments/

I thought you're smarter than this smh
So sad

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Seyzi:
Bleep the dead body for family present and some do give the birth water to any of them to drink while some tribe do real wedding between them after the death with 2wice of what you should have spent if he/she was alive

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nams77:

That savage behavior is also carried out in isoko land, akwa ibom, parts of edo and delta states.
But you are quick to start jumping up and yelling igbos! The savage culture( according to you) was designed to discourage promiscuity and baby mama syndrome
I try not to engage myself in the tribalistic shits that goes on here. Am above that.

At least you own up to it.
You dont engage in tribalistic shits unless its Fulani.
Hypocrite

@op did the new baby survive ?sorry for the loss oooo

JeffreyD1:


Mr man say your village not east

I'm from east it's not so in my village in IMO state

Okay. It's good you didn't insult him as others would have done.

Danniedpastor:





I love the way you presented this...
Very matured

Wat about d child

That is the procedure. U must pay the marriage rite before she is buried.

I av a relative with simarly situation. Uptill now the girl corpsed is still at the morgue because it can't meet up with the marriage rite demand.

My advice to you is to do the right thing when demand. Sorry for the loss

bobkezel:
If you are reading this and you are cohabiting with a lady from akwa Ibom or Ebonyi state, I beg u, thread carefully cos you will not be as lucky as the op.
It will end in triple tears.

Watch as they will soon come and attack you here for saying the truth.

Amotolongbo:
Dowry is being paid by women, not men.

Bride Prize is being paid by men.

@Dear OP, sorry for the loss.
It depends on the tribe and cultural values and norms.

In some parts of Igbo land, the man has to settle all the bride prize and probably have a wedding with the corpse before they can allow the corpse being buried.

In major part of yoruba land where I come from, no much serious implication.

The major and utmost thing is that, try to know the in-depth of the cultural norms and values of the land which you are marrying from. Clear all the bills, settle everyone you are meant to settle before taking the bride or groom.
Every culture is meant to be observed and respected. If you find their culture so “barbaric”, don’t marry from there, it isn’t mandatory

"Olowo ori mi" means the man that paid my dowry

Are you sure you are a Yoruba girl

Mtola8:

Lol!! Crazy dude. u sef no vex

no yawa o...enjoy ur day abeg...if na u get this site eeh.. na foul words go full am n if u check d mata, e fit b say u neva enter jand b4 o...abi uself na foreigner??

phemmyfour:
"Olowo ori mi" means the man that paid my dowry bride prize

Are you sure you are a Yoruba girl

That is your own literal translation

Your dictionary is their for confirmation sir

What's the colour of your problem man!.
The girl's family gave you an unusually soft landing, letting you off the hook and you are still wondering what could have happened if they hadn't.
You should rather be thanking God for the mercy.

Amotolongbo:
That is your own literal translation

Your dictionary is their for confirmation sir

Dictionary? You must be a joke.

NoIgboSoundTueh:

At least you own up to it.
You dont engage in tribalistic shits unless its Fulani.
Hypocrite

I really don't have time to waddle in the mud wit you.

Yes, the igbo custom demands that the man pay the bride price. Simple..


Now to the matter of tribaliam/fulani, i can certainly see you are deranged.

Do have a nice day. Dont expect response from me.

paulolee:

no yawa o...enjoy ur day abeg...if na u get this site eeh.. na foul words go full am n if u check d mata, e fit b say u neva enter jand b4 o...abi uself na foreigner??

Foreigner for where. We follow dey this naija dey hustle. Everything go pure for us all

Sorry for the loss of the love of your life. You have good in-laws. Death is inevitable. She could have also die if she was rightly married but it'd have been better if you had followed the traditional pattern which is to fulfill all the traditional rites on her before taking her home so that even if she passes on during child birth, her spirit will be at peace, knowing that her traditional rites were observed.

Professor dowry is not paid but brought by women

Amotolongbo:
Dowry is being paid by women, not men.

Bride Prize is being paid by men.

@Dear OP, sorry for the loss.
It depends on the tribe and cultural values and norms.

In some parts of Igbo land, the man has to settle all the bride prize and probably have a wedding with the corpse before they can allow the corpse being buried.

In major part of yoruba land where I come from, no much serious implication.

The major and utmost thing is that, try to know the in-depth of the cultural norms and values of the land which you are marrying from. Clear all the bills, settle everyone you are meant to settle before taking the bride or groom.
Every culture is meant to be observed and respected. If you find their culture so “barbaric”, don’t marry from there, it isn’t mandatory

donbachi:
1: u go marry the deadbody

2: u go come do the burial,cos na ur wife.

Akwa ibom method and in most cases dey are dey ones dat will kill der own daughter's