Acidosis:



May ignorance not destroy this generation. May be you should visit a teaching hospital to see and observe patients with the condition and confirm whether the situation is anything close to your imagination. We have people like Aiyefele yet you choose to remain ignorant. Dude even dance on Wheels.

In this age of telecommuting and digitisation where people make so much working from home, some of you still believe the man is completely useless? It is well with you.

It's already 2 years and the husband can't go to work not to talk of bringing money . He can't perform on bed and she has been the one doing the cleaning of all his mess .

miniziter:
It's already 2 years and the husband can't go to work not to talk of bringing money. He can't perform on bed and she has been the one doing the cleaning of all his mess.

The most annoying thing is that the family members of the husband despite being okay financially failed to help the family. Now she planning to either stay with the man and have a cuncubine outside or leave the man outrightly.

Which do you advise?

NB: They just gave to a child and she's still young. On the way, if she leaves the man, he may not see someone that will take care of him like she used to do.

Acidosis:


Know yourself, as in? I should tell you that I'm a dog that jumps from skirt to skirt or a sex addict? If I don't know myself based on my personal experiences, so what then do I know?

Where is the idea of frigid coming from? Is she a tree?

I have had more than 5 hrs conversations with a woman in this condition and her experiences are completely different from your imagination.

Blackmiserable:


No man or woman, all creatures, Christian or pagan, born again or not, really knows what they can or can't do in certain situations and you are certainly not an exception. Period.

I said what I said because I believe the spine affects sexual function. Or just asking contextually, what would you do if your wife cannot perform her marital role in the sexual way. Like another poster said, it is easier said than done. Or let me be a bit lewd, what would you do if your wife's bosom and sexual canal had to be removed at once as a result of cancer? How long would you continue with non-penetrative sex?

Acidosis:


So why do you make vows on your wedding day knowing that you could run away one week after your honeymoon?

soonest:
She should discuss with her husband and have a concubine outside. God forgive me

BiggyB242:
If she was a white woman we wouldn't be having this discussion, she wouldn't go anywhere but most of our Nigerian women only lookout for what they can benefit no true love.

Blackmiserable:


Why do you ask God's forgiveness knowing full well that you'd still sin?

I am, of course, not going to pat her in the back for seeking sexual gratification outside marriage, but one of the chief reasons, if not the chief reason for marriage is sexual gratification. It has been permanently cut off here.

Despite Paul's somewhat celibate stance, he still makes it clear that people should get married to fulfil sexual lust. So marriage and sex are like tube and tyre. One is more or less redundant without the other. Sex is not one of the many aspects of marriage bro, it is the main thing. That is how mortal man replenishes the earth.

Saintmary:

If the table were turned, would he have stayed?
Would you?

Juliusmomoh:
Penis no de pain her husband na.... Na back de pain am..... So she can use another sex style to get what she want........

missjo:
She never truly loved him, and this is a major problem with our generation - people are ultimately looking out for what they'll gain from their partners but masking all that selfish desire with claims of being in love.

Gosh so many of us would fail this test if we were to find ourselves in the same situation, so while I'm critical of her, I'm also critical of myself because I don't know if I'll be any better.

Acidosis:


Companionship, not sex, is the main thing. It is not good for a man to be alone (this was the statement that inspired the creation of the woman). If sex was the main and only thing, God would have created women without necessarily instituting marriage. Like dogs and goats, we would be programmed to sleep with anything we come across on the street.

Based on my interpretation of that statement, the woman is the only cure for man's loneliness.

Let's just say I would not agree with cheating under any condition. Whether one spouse travels out of the country for 5 years or another is bedridden. I would, however, agree to divorce if certain conditions remain unbearable. That being said, I would not show or give an iota of respect for one that files for divorce under conditions such as sickness or accident. This is just a personal opinion which a Magistrate may choose to discard or support.

It's a free world but certain things don't align with my belief. The same way some childless couples choose to remain together out of love, while others decide to go "out there" in the guise of replenishing the earth as 'cited' in the Bible.

Acidosis:
Poor man. Wish he had a grown up. A grown child is more reliable than the useless woman he called a wife. At least, the child can take him in and care for him. This is why people, both men and women alike, put their kids first and do almost anything to make them happy. Even a bastard, in most instances, is more reliable than the regular and typical selfish partner.

Liliantalks:
very correct , the Mum of a friend of mine had mental issues recently , her husband just took her back to the village saying she was cheating blah blah blah, didn’t even take her to the hospital, he only took her to native doctors ,, last last the woman’s senior sister came around and took her to the hospital, she’s doing better n back with her husband. Just imagine reverse was the case.

The same happened to a relative of mine ,, u know that mental illness that comes with child birth , she was returned to the family. Till she got better and returned to her husband . No financial help , nothing .. madam still went back o

miniziter:
It's already 2 years and the husband can't go to work not to talk of bringing money. He can't perform on bed and she has been the one doing the cleaning of all his mess.

The most annoying thing is that the family members of the husband despite being okay financially failed to help the family. Now she planning to either stay with the man and have a cuncubine outside or leave the man outrightly.

Which do you advise?

NB: They just gave to a child and she's still young. On the way, if she leaves the man, he may not see someone that will take care of him like she used to do.

miniziter:
It's already 2 years and the husband can't go to work not to talk of bringing money. He can't perform on bed and she has been the one doing the cleaning of all his mess.

The most annoying thing is that the family members of the husband despite being okay financially failed to help the family. Now she planning to either stay with the man and have a cuncubine outside or leave the man outrightly.

Which do you advise?

NB: They just gave to a child and she's still young. On the way, if she leaves the man, he may not see someone that will take care of him like she used to do.

Juliusmomoh:

What does penis has to do with spinal cord ....

Kenplay:
Why cant she climb the husband and insert his penis on her wet pussy then ride it.
Just my opinion

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miniziter:
It's already 2 years and the husband can't go to work not to talk of bringing money. He can't perform on bed and she has been the one doing the cleaning of all his mess.

The most annoying thing is that the family members of the husband despite being okay financially failed to help the family. Now she planning to either stay with the man and have a cuncubine outside or leave the man outrightly.

Which do you advise?

NB: They just gave to a child and she's still young. On the way, if she leaves the man, he may not see someone that will take care of him like she used to do.

Juliusmomoh:

What does penis has to do with spinal cord ....

missjo:
She never truly loved him, and this is a major problem with our generation - people are ultimately looking out for what they'll gain from their partners but masking all that selfish desire with claims of being in love.

Gosh so many of us would fail this test if we were to find ourselves in the same situation, so while I'm critical of her, I'm also critical of myself because I don't know if I'll be any better.

Saintmary:

Oh yes, I am biased. Why?
I am biased because people remember for better or worse when women are in situations like this, but if it were the other way around, they will pat the man in the back.

https://www.nairaland.com/3959073/divorce-journal

Uniquedee:




My dad had desame issue from 2010 and later dies in 2017..

My mum stayed all through.. So many times she was tempted to leave and go continue her life..the daily frustrations of what to eat and how to train us in school..was.much... But she pulled through... Today we're all university graduates and are now taking care of her..

Its really not easy..and not all women can endure and stay without sex like my mum..

Kingzeez10:

But Yinka Ayefele gave birth to triplets recently na

meetme01:


I am not correcting your English. The terms used in the PwDs parlance is what I pointed out.

For a better society, there is need to use these with PwDs and treat them with empathy because we are all prone to it.

You don't need to bring religion in any conversation like this. It's a free world and we shouldn't let our own religion over shadow our thoughts or dwell it on others.

To any layman, the moment you use the word affliction and sympathize, I think you know the meaning. The choice of words in any situation go along way in resolving issues and getting close to people who are facing one challenge or the order.

To your first question, yes, I am. 15yrs on wheels, married, with a kid and a Social Worker.

Hope that helps

LadySarah:
Leaving because he's bedridden?Anything can happen to anyone at anytime.I'm not trying to judge you cos you've shown you are strong woman for 2 yrs already.
99% of Nigerian men will not remain. Even their wives that had CS feels useless to them ofoziekwa bedridden wife. It is then they will bundle you back to your ppl.

For a sexually active woman ,the lack of sex can be disturbing.

What I think you should do.
1.choose to be happy.
2.If his penis still works do the riding. If no. Have a talk with him if you can get a Love Machine or a man friend or he can explore you with his hands. Theres no shame in that. Righteous ppl should ignore my post.

3.pls don't stop believing in miracles.

Modified. Those wereys telling me white women will stay should go and marry them.
Last 2 yrs a Benue guy brought back his Obinze, Imo wife to her parents cos of complications after childbirth. Pelvis problems or so. I remember the ladies burial Poster was on frontpage here.
Let her do her wish. Even Apostle Paul knows it isn't easy.