Since august 2009 he departed, I find it difficult to love again.
We were childhood friends till we moved to the university, he was in his final year of study when the tragedy happened then I was in 1st year of study,I love him dat I can never 'shit' on him and I am 100% sure he never did.
Since then is like I lost my destination, I ve not been myself.
I LOVE dis guy so much dat I never wishd dat death will take him away from me,
Now I find it difficult to love again,I cannot settle with a guy as a close/ boifrnd because of my constant remembering of my departed lover.
Anytime I remember him and I'm with a guy I suddenly gets sad dat d guy will even notice,but if I'm alone I cryyyyyyyyy.
Its a painful departure.
On 31st dec. 2010 I promised myself that I will live my live which I tagged 'precious live ur life' Dats my 2011 slogan.
But I notice that I cannot keep d promise 4 myself cos the memory is always fresh in my mind.
Friends I need advise from u ppl cos I want to move on with my life.

Waiting 2 hear from u
thanks 4 ur adviseeeeeee.

My sister true luv are very difficult to let go, we all know how u feel till date.ur guy has gone and gone forever so life must surely go on he can never never come back.

Try and free ur heart from the memory of the dead and find a new happiness in a new relationship which i know will come your way, good luck

u gat to move on, if he was in ur shoes, he will do same.

open ur heart , u will indeed find true lasting love for it exist . . . . ,


i just wish i have a woman who sincerely loves me too

Nelson**:

u gat to move on, if he was in your shoes, he will do same.

open your heart , u will indeed find true lasting love for it exist . . . . ,


i just wish i have a woman who sincerely loves me too

and what about me Hun? Lol

I don't think a guy can ever love me like he did,
People say they ve never experience 50-50 love in a Relatnsip but wit him it is more dan 5050,
I just want to move on wit my life

I don't think a guy can ever love me like he did,
People say they ve never experience 50-50 love in a Relatnsip but wit him it is more dan 5050,
I just want to move on wit my life

@ post i fund my self in ur shoe sum yrs back that almost lead me astary it was so painful that i made up my mind not to love again it is over 15yrs now and am married with kids and the memory still comes ones in a while u have to make up ur mind to move on the issue is u just wast ur tears for noting while the guy catches his fun and have forgtten u long ago pls move on pickup ur heart and love again u can't continue like dis ok life goes on dear,

Why did he live you.Maybe you have done something wrong or you don't understand him.Boys don't live like that there is a reason

Well such is life it happens to different people in life, all you got to do is for you to learn how to forget the past and move forward. You must also learn not to act on your emotions

Ummm poster from what you've written is it that he is dead or what ? if he is not dead , somehow call him and hook up again don't try to deny your heart what is wants . A cousin of mine broke up with her boyfriend , she moved on but it was not the same .Somehow after 7 months they could not help it they came back again , but if he is dead (seems to be what ur talking about) just move on with life , shit happens dearie move over it okay ? Erm , ermmmm me I am available  

I mean he's dead

I mean he's dead

Itz only human to pine and reminiscence. However, to dwell on losses can hurt us more. You do not need to work the world looking to compare guys with wh you had. No two people are the same. It's hard to achieve but your first remit will be to free your mind. Do not hanker after relationships but just make friends wiv mutual interest and take it from there. Find ways of appreciating people for who they are, not what you want them to be. I've seen really hurt people pull by. Itz hard but you can do it. Cheers

I'm so sorry about your loss but you dont have to torture yourself. Please, move on.
Make friends, read wide, have fun and be open minded. It wont be long,things will click for you.

Steadyangel:

I mean he's dead

I can feel you babe, i have a very similar story. I lost my bf by accident after 8years of courtship, he was my first love, and we loved eachother so much, but death took him away. It happened three years back and he still lives in my everythot, especially when my new bfriend maltreats me. I found it so hard to love again, but i later realised i aint getting any younger and i needed to move on with my life, but i never love every man that came my way except the onë i am dating now, but to be candid, my present love is a bitter one, was even thinking of letting go.
I will just advice you not to dwell on past, put it behind and move on babe, try and take your time to study whoever you gonna give your heart to, be sure he loves you so much,  Such is life! We gat no power over death, and believe your dead bf wasn't meant for you, It's so hard to forget tho, but MOVE ON babe,



time heals wound

I get hurt when my room mate in sch is discussing boifrnd issues wit me, now dey don start am again, boifrnd n val, R.I.P. My U.c

^Oww, that could hurt. But do u imagine your U.c would want you to be in the state you are now? Just imagine Uc (uche?) sitting in opulence at Gods table about to tuck in some mouth watering medemede. He looks down this way and sees poor you tucked away in your sad lonely state wiv the weight of the world on your shoulder pining over him. Would he enjoy his food? No. Itz for you two that you must be strong and pick up your life. For you guys still in campus I know how Vals are, with all the effizeez but you've had good Vals and you'll still av better ones. Don't look on your friends and their insensitivity. If yu believe in God, hearken unto him. If you do not have anybody to hang out wiv at val, go back to your family for the day instead of brooding in your room alone. They'll give yu a kind of love and strenght that'll prop yu. I wish yu well

Mr, Cork:

   errrm,  Sweery.  U light skin and u gots Nyansh?

Mr cock, Can you at least pretend to show sympathy?

Sweetie,am referring to the original poster, Please move on.I know it is very hard to do that,but you have to.

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One step at at time

So sad but you have to move on.