Advocator:

She is traumatized, wants to be assured what had happened to her previously won't happen again. Use your psychological scantiness, calm her down, love her, ease her the pain she's carrying, slow sex her, be overly romantic until she leaves the dark room she is in. she is your woman now, and her painful past is your past. The pain she is in won't be forever. You are getting tested dude, so bare with her and all will be well.


 

Advocator:

She is traumatized, wants to be assured what had happened to her previously won't happen again. Use your psychological scantiness, calm her down, love her, ease her the pain she's carrying, slow sex her, be overly romantic until she leaves the dark room she is in. she is your woman now, and her painful past is your past. The pain she is in won't be forever. You are getting tested dude, so bare with her and all will be well.

sheun@iye:

Nairalanders i'm in a fix and seriously need help.

In a serious relationship with a wonderful woman, one you can define (to the altar). We've been dating for a couple of years and we're planning on getting married later this year but i seem kinda trapped now. We seem perfect on the outside but we're struggling on the inside. Her troubled childhood and bad relationships seem to be what I'm paying for at the moment. I accepted her for who she was when we started out and thought being loving and 100% sincerity was the antidote to whatever issue she must have had but it really isn't working i must confess. My being loving and attentive seems to make her feel uncomfortable, she says no man can ever be as good as i am except that i have something up my sleeves, when i try withdrawing a lil bit she says didn't she tell me i'll change. She's so good at everything else, if we have small issues no1 seems to listen to my part, they say it must be my fault etc. Family members being around has started making her uncomfy too, she says she we need our space (buh i had a family b4 i met her, one that actually raised me). To worsen it all, i can't even complain about anything she does now without her turning it all over and making me the culprit for something i complained about. I really want us to work out but i cant afford to manage a married life,  I'll appreciate any and all suggestion(s). I've asked the Audience now, the last lifeline for me is to walk away, 

Advocator:

She is traumatized, wants to be assured what had happened to her previously won't happen again. Use your psychological scantiness, calm her down, love her, ease her the pain she's carrying, slow sex her, be overly romantic until she leaves the dark room she is in. she is your woman now, and her painful past is your past. The pain she is in won't be forever. You are getting tested dude, so bare with her and all will be well.


 
]!!!!! Wooow! Advocator, you also have impressed me with your response!

talina:


]!!!!! Wooow! Advocator, you also have impressed me with your response!

Advocator:

My My My! This is the 1st time I'm seeing a fellow Canadian. Do you reside in tdot?
Hello, no Im in Edmonton Alberta area.

talina:

Hello, no Im in Edmonton Alberta area.

talina:

Well, its a beautiful city in the summertime at least!

Advocator:

Ah summer, when hot babes are half unclothed. I went to caribana 2010 and I was blinded with sexiness.

By the way, Nice meeting you talina.

Yup, half unclothed people everywhere
Nice to meet you too.

Breeze5000:

Before saying anything I would advice you both seek proffessional help. And my own advice to you is take her out or do the thing you know she loves best and when both of you are in a real good mood, sit her down and pour out your heart. I mean tell her what you just told us, how you cant talk anymore without her turning it into something else. Communication is the key to a good relationship but unfortunately lots of people confuse talking for commnunicating. Finally you have to make her believe that your relationship cant work if you dont resolve this vital part of it and you should not be afraid to do this because your future happiness depends on how you handle this. Success