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Re: Matured married folks, pls come to my aid. by Nobody: 10:15am On Sep 26, 2020 |
Darkandbrown: This is one of the reason why I don't give advice, because I feel there is a lot not being said. I might end up giving a one-sided advice that could cause more harm than good. Did you discuss with him what he tried to do when he was drunk? |
Re: Matured married folks, pls come to my aid. by Nobody: 10:31am On Sep 26, 2020 |
Nooil:Yes, he would be sober and just keep apologising, give him a week or two and we are back to the same thing |
Re: Matured married folks, pls come to my aid. by Nobody: 10:56am On Sep 26, 2020 |
Darkandbrown: Ok, I'm not sure you will be able to achieve much since you're far away from him. So, I suggest you wait until you get back. When you get back, you need to have a serious discussion. Not about him hanging out with his friends or coming home at midnight, but the "person" he becomes after such outing. Let him know that you're not comfortable with the stranger he becomes after drinking, and you won't be comfortable raising your children in such an environment. You don't want a man coming home drunk to beat or scare the children. This is not about him coming home at midnight. Heck, he could get drunk before midnight, so you're not addressing the real issue here. He can't handle alcohol or he doesn't know his limit is the big problem here which could cause a whole lot of issues if not addressed soon enough. Does he even get driving tickets for DUI? He might even try to rape a woman who is not you under such influence. Let him know the main reason for your discomfort rather than making it all about hanging out with friends until midnight. But again, it's all about you. What do you want? Do you want to work things out or do you want to opt out? |
Re: Matured married folks, pls come to my aid. by Nobody: 11:05am On Sep 26, 2020 |
Nooil:I want to work things out |
Re: Matured married folks, pls come to my aid. by Nobody: 11:12am On Sep 26, 2020 |
Darkandbrown: Then give him space. Use this period you are away from him to focus on taking care of yourself. Rest. Eat good food. Keep your mind busy. It would help not to monitor his midnight outings. Talk about other things when calling or chatting. When you get back, have that discussion. But focus on the main issue. |
Re: Matured married folks, pls come to my aid. by Nobody: 11:42am On Sep 26, 2020 |
Nooil:Ok , thanks alot |
Re: Matured married folks, pls come to my aid. by frozen70(f): 12:00am On Sep 27, 2020 |
Darkandbrown: Men can lie for Africa to cover their tracks, if you want to be happy, just be happy and stop monitoring him You can't change him until he is satisfied with his ways |
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