I have not been on speaking terms with the mother of my children for many years.
Whenever I try to see my children or speak to them on phone, she would frustrate my efforts.
All she wants is for me to be sending money and I can't do that without seeing my children and knowing what exactly she needs it for.
I decided last month to text her to send me the bill of their school fees in the last 5 years thinking this would make her respond but she did not. I called her phone to see if it going through and it rang.
Since she has always claimed it is because I did not give her money that she keeps them from me, then now that I said I want to pay, why did she not reply?
What do you think is her problem? I dont know any woman that would reject such an offer. She is a civil servant and has a business so I know she can not be a rich to reject the offer. Even if she has a man in her life, can money ever be too much?
Is it that she never wants me to see my children again or an has lied to them that I'm dead?
Is it a man that said she must never pick my call even to speak to my own children?
Is her business so rosy that she thinks she can continue to survive with their expenses? Is it her family giving her money or are my children suffering because she is stubborn and proud? Does she know if I have my own millions now or she thinks I am like before?
I don't understand at all I I would like anyone to help me solve the riddle.
It has been long since I saw them and it is not fair on my part and people would be wondering if I have children at all. She does not even upload their pictures on social media again. I hope nothing bad has happened to them. I can't call anyone in her family because I dont know what she may have told them and they may side with her and ridicule me.

I know she is not dead if you are wondering.

Lemme wait for the elders to speak their mind.

Please I'm sorry to say this, are you a man enough?

You sounded like a lost sheep who has just traced her tracks but was oblivious of the situation. A responsible man does not need permission to check on his children. If you really want meet your children, you have to transform from being a BOY to a MAN. It's only a man that can claim children not boy. Call 'your wife' in a strong term that a father wants to see his children. African women know their roles in children responsibility.

This is one of the reasons I do warn guys here about opting for a baby mama. The op can't do anything because he wasn't legally married to her, he can't sue her cos he'll loose, and he can't involve her family because they don't know him.

My advice? Activate her mumu button. 98% of girls do fall for this old trick.

How is it done? Very simple. Use Okafor's law.

You've once loved each other before. Call her or chat her up, don't make any demands concerning your children, don't beging your harsh accusations of nagging, just sound very broken and tell her that you've missed her all these years that it's impossible to replace her in your heart.

Ask her about her life, herself, remind her how beautiful she is, praise her and call her sweet name. Repeat this process for one week and she'll agree on a date with you. Then beg her to come with the kids. She won't say no.

guy I would advise you to plan and assassinate that biîtch so you can have your children to yourself