BABE!:

I'm marrying an IGBO guy (hopefully) , so I'm ready for all the village BS! 

I can't fix igbo meals, it's only Amala, ewedu, and Co, I can fix! 

Bottom line, I'll be happy to learn! I'm not fetching water for no grandma though

BABE!:

---- ^^ Elaborate pls!

aminalib:

If u are to marry someone outside your tribe, and he insists u go to his village for a month with his grandmother so u can learn how to cook his meals, would you?

Pweety4me:

^^^_{What state are you from}?


@OP What is wrong with his hands?can't he teach me?nonensical!

Well it depends. . .

tpiah!:

If someone isnt comfortable with other ethnicities besides his own, then why is he dating outside his tribe in the first place?

I dont get some relationships of nowadays where the man tries to mold the woman or is it the woman trying to mold herself into an exact replica of somebody's culture simply because she wants to please the man.

Maybe i'm missing something or am old fashioned.

r231:

maybe he doesn't know how to cook

BABE!:

^^^mshewwww-- go away!

Wislet:

SOME REALLY RIDICULOUS REPLIES HERE. The man grew up wit some kind of delicacies & has grown to relish them. Him asking his future wife to go learn how to cook them does not in any way mean he doesn't cherish her the way she is. He's NOT asking her to learn how to sweep de house/fetch water/keep clean, she already knows those! Men love good food, especially the locally prepared. His to-be wife is not from his place, so she doesn't know how to prepare them. He could easily have decided to marry someone from his place who could naturally cook good food for him, but he has found love elsewhere. Igbo men dont play wit good food. So what is de crime in asking his wife-to-be to learn how to cook his best foods, to keep his eyes at home, Instead of always missing mummy's nice dishes? Some ladies really need to get rid of their s.tupid pride dat will get them nowhere.

Wislet:

SOME REALLY RIDICULOUS REPLIES HERE. The man grew up wit some kind of delicacies & has grown to relish them. Him asking his future wife to go learn how to cook them does not in any way mean he doesn't cherish her the way she is. He's NOT asking her to learn how to sweep de house/fetch water/keep clean, she already knows those! Men love good food, especially the locally prepared. His to-be wife is not from his place, so she doesn't know how to prepare them. He could easily have decided to marry someone from his place who could naturally cook good food for him, but he has found love elsewhere. Igbo men dont play wit good food. So what is de crime in asking his wife-to-be to learn how to cook his best foods, to keep his eyes at home, Instead of always missing mummy's nice dishes? Some ladies really need to get rid of their s.tupid pride dat will get them nowhere.

tpiah!:

sweetie, no need to panic.

all i'm telling you is if a man keeps mentioning how much he wishes you were from his ethnic group, then you shouldnt feel obliged to knock yourself senseless trying to copy the same.


someone like that can never be satisfied with a copy of the original when he can easily get the original if that's what he wants.

little story:

my friend's family friend had a brother who was dating this lady who happened to be a great cook, extremely beautiful and all any man would want in a wife. She would prepare delicious dishes that got the whole relatives salivating and eager to see her. Surprisingly [perhaps], the man broke up with her much to the dismay of his food loving family, and eventually got married to someone who could barely boil an egg, or so i heard.  The other lady also married someone else who i assume appreciated her better.


and did i mention the first lady actually wasnt the only girlfriend visiting at the time- she was just the best cook of all of them.

so my point is nigerians are very obliging [unlike me], and they wont refuse should you make a request in the name of trying to outsmart them, or that they dont quite agree with.

However, anyone trying to outwit a nigerian man [especially the ones needing green card or visa]will have to buckle up their trousers and then some, because say for example, you demand you want to go and live with his grandma as a way of holding the man. He can be from say yoruba- what's to prevent him from handing you over to an old woman in bayelsa who he says is his grandma, while he checks out the local babes as you slave away learning his local dishes.

Or if indeed you spend a month or more with his actual grandma, then head back home, and as soon as you leave, the other girlfriends also rotate their own stays with grandma while learning how to cook his favorite nigerian foods.


so, win-win situation for the man, not so sure for the woman, especially considering the mosquito bites and whatnot that will also come with the experience.

We are not talking about players, but responsible men that want to settle down with their chosen wives.