Pweety4me:

Yea fair enuff, but u see he mentioned how he approached women, and that him being a 'MAN' he doesn't bark @ women, but speaks to them politly, he doesn't think women should be all up in their heads just because they ave been passed @ a lot of times, i actually believe that there is nothing wrong in appreciating a 'decent' complement!

Mrs.Chima:

I showed this to my other half and he said he agreed that some women do get in their head that they are all that especially if they are been told all the time they are beautiful and such. There are some stuck up women who think that every guy wants them and is not nice enough to give a harmless compliment.

I agree with my husband on that part because I do know some women who are up in the air about guys following them and doesn't realize not every guy would want her. But some guys have to learn to approach women instead of barking at them. It is a turn off. My husband approached me in a sensible way and because I am to involved in my real life I didn't really think about it and he did not "curse" me out like some boys would when women do not pay them any attention instead he handled it like a man and said have a good day which left a good impression by the way.

Sometimes positive reactions can make or break a man's attempt to get to know the woman and women are paranoid these days because of despoiling and kidnapping in some areas. The right approach and timing is the key. It seem though the guy sucks at both and trying to justify by creating a youtube video teaching other rejects.

Inked_Nerd:

Real talk, some dudes approach girls and when you don't talk to them, all hell breaks loose--especially in the summer time. I don't care if its an African guy, Caribbean, etc. No offense to my brothas but some of them take it a step further when you reply when they say hello. If you say hello just to be polite then they wanna keep following you even when you have mad it clear that you're not interests. If you ignore them, then they pelt you with insults. And like I said, no offense but I have yet to encounter such behavior from men who aren't of color. Man, the dude needs to just shut his mouth. Like Mrs. Chima said, he's probably been rejected.

By the way, was I the only person that heard the trains in the background noise?

Pweety4me:

Hmmm yea totally, Do NOT bark but approach politly!

Leave d guy na, or u know am b4?

justwise:

Watching that clip i was thinking. .hey!. . .it could be your attitude towards women is the prob here, yes there are women who may not take compliments from random men especially in a particular area of the city. . sometimes returning or accepting the compliment may send a wrong message to the guy. .thinking. .yea she is up for it

 Inked_Nerd i have to agree with u here. .sometimes. .some of us blackmen get the wrong end of the stick when sisters trying to 'associate' with us politely, i don't know if its a cultura thing that gave some pple the impression that women are programmed to say yes to every dog that barks,
A child who grew up from a violent family. .see ddady hit mum and disrespect her may grow up with little or no respect for women, i don't agree with the guy when he said that 99% of men thinks women are bla bla when they saw a well dressed sister, its his opinion and i respect that.

Mrs.Chima:

African men are black men?  

justwise:

Far majority are, apart from pple from most North African countries like  Egypt, Tunisia. .etc

Inked_Nerd:


Yupp, co-sign

Personally for me, I like to make the effort to talk to someone if the person interests me or isn't coming across as a skeezo. I'm not gonna lie though some ladies to walk around like their doing you a favor by letting you even look at them. Its a weirs and twist cycle of "abuse" within the black community I suppose. The men given attitude and the women dish it back in return.

Mrs.Chima:

I know. Just kidding. I asked my husband the same thing he just looked at me like are you serious?

Black is beautiful.

Inked_Nerd:


Please don't get me wrong, I would never say that such attitudes justify insults. I was only pointing out the attitude of how some women act. Believe me, I've seen it all and its terrible. Some men here in New York can just be down right nasty towards women, especially in the summertime

biolabee:

the guy is foolish, so a chic shd say hi to a potential stalker because she's s'posed to be nice

she has her own dough and/or self respect
leave her alone

meet her up in the park,dog walk, community club or plain old youth programs

Inked_Nerd:


It's horrible both ways. Guy talks to girl, girl gets attitude, another guy approaches girl, girl is still upset about first guy so she projects her attitude on two guy number two. Guy number two becomes upset and projects his attitude on girl number two. Its a perpetuating cucle

Mrs.Chima:

I am in love with an ex stripper!    

Oh! Wrong thread and section.  

justwise:

I will be ringing Mr Chima now

Mrs.Chima:

[size=22pt]SNITCH![/size]
[size=3pt]Mr.Chima is the ex stripper. [/size]

Inked_Nerd:


It's horrible both ways. Guy talks to girl, girl gets attitude, another guy approaches girl, girl is still upset about first guy so she projects her attitude on two guy number two. Guy number two becomes upset and projects his attitude on girl number two. Its a perpetuating cucle

Pweety4me:

Well she doesn't need to be rude, or give unnecessary attitude either!