obainojazz: so...that is how you are treating the love i have for you abi..nairaland must hear this

love Its not possible to love someone u knw noting about,love is a strong word.it sounds funny

joywendy: love Its not possible to love someone u knw noting about,love is a strong word.it sounds funny

lolz...u gat me there....oya...lets not call it love then...

obainojazz: lolz...u gat me there....oya...lets not call it love then...

lolz obainojazz gosh u make me laugh....

joywendy: lolz obainojazz gosh u make me laugh....

if i can make you laf everyday....hmmm..i will cherish that

obainojazz: if i can make you laf everyday....hmmm..i will cherish that

joywendy:

nairaland dont have kiss smiley...

obainojazz: nairaland dont have kiss smiley...

hahaha omg! Obainojazz oh

joywendy: hahaha omg! Obainojazz oh

hope am save

obainojazz: hope am save

of course u are

joywendy: of course u are

you just dodge me na..

Matthew briggs: Quite very useful tips. Moreover adding to the op's tips on building confidence. There are 3 core steps to gaining self confidence. I will use my life experiences to relay them.

1. Build your intellect, Increase your knowledge base - I was once a shy person an extreme introvert, in fact my mum told me when I was little when visitors came around I always ran and hid my self. Lack of self confidence plagued me during my early years.

Until at a very young age I got to stay with a lecturer and everything changed, I had access to this amazing library and an awesome collection of books. I was hungry for knowledge and I therefore read ferociously, My knowledge and intelligence grew tremendously. It boosted my confidence I felt more sure of my self and abilities, I knew I was not empty but carried something very few carried. Till today the hunger for knowledge has never died.

Knowledge is the ultimate self confidence boaster. It helps you stand tall in front of your peers because you know what they don't. I got to understand that every one of us have our insecurities, fears, weakness and imperfections, we are all afraid of something no matter how beautiful, handsome or strong we look. Moreover I learnt that knowledge and intellect is not enough.

2. Look and Act confident :- Been brilliant and knowledgeable is not enough, you've got to let the world know you have strong belief in your self and capabilities. The catch is that I think 70% of human communication is non verbal meaning, people access you based on how you carry your self.

The way you walk, talk, sit and stand . With this new found knowledge, I refined the way I walked, I walk like someone that's on a mission no dragging of my feet or walking like someone who has all the time in the world. I sit like an executive that's in a board meeting, I talk assertively, clearly and intelligently, I look at you in the eyes when I have too. I stand uprightly in firm postures. To pull this off you've got to imagine your self as the CEO of a fortune 500 company or have a role model you look up to. Mine was Apple' s late Steve jobs, Oracle's Larry elision and Obama.

3. Build a track record of achievements, gather some bragging rights - The most surest way to build your confidence is putting yourself out there and doing something that you can look back and pat yourself in the back saying "I did this sh*t". That's nothing that more self assuring than looking back at your achievement it might academical, physical, financial etc. and there they stand speaking for you.

In my case I dared to do stuff others were afraid of, taught my self software's people were scared of and went on to do projects that when I look back during my darkest hours I smile and say to my self " dude you did this".

Self confidence is not a destination but a journey. It a process, a state of mind affected by what you feed your mind with.

I have not achieved hundred percent confidence as I write this, I still have my heart beating fast when am about to make a speech, but I have surely come a long way. I have this unwavering belief in my self and ability to deliver.

Finally if you can't act confident, fake it.

#Matthew Briggs

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obainojazz: you just dodge me na..

lol haba hw do u mean?

joywendy: lol haba hw do u mean?

just saying

obainojazz: just saying

alright no p.