Vireani79:


U don too watch American movies

We don't do alimony in nigeria

And yes many women use children living with them to milk men
Responsible for feeding them.
Won't this man also eat from the food paid for by the wealthy man

Look it's simple
The kids dont have to be with her since she and her husband are struggling
Let the wealthy man have his kids
He won't feed her and her husband through the lie of paying for his kids

Return the kids
And have peace

johhnnie:



With due respect to your person.

I think you have never experienced how manipulative such women can be.

Most especially, when it is perceived that the ex spouse is wealthy.

It is not an experience any responsible man should go through.

Oftentimes, it is the responsible men that go through these ordeals.

Romanoff:


Let the man pay fees and basic health care while she takes care of feeding and housing.

Like I said, they should get lawyers and work on co parenting and child support.

Nweike190:

. ...its not weather... As rain go fall weather wan change... It's whether...

Dododawa01:


God bless this man that wrote all this. From few I have read here. Pls take this advice and its a good advice. Mother of d kids shd not return d kids if she does, she's not a good mother in d future, cos thats what d man family will tell their kids in future that their mother follow man and abandon them.

Romanoff:
To those telling him to let the father take his kids, if you were one of those kids, won't you resent your mother for abandoning you?

Wouldn't you ask that "what type of mother will abandon her kids?"

@Op, you knew she had kids when you married her, I know it's not easy, but you both will have to double your hustle. Get other side businesses, cut your coat according to your material.

If you'll need to downgrade their school, do so, if you'll need to move to a cheaper area, do so.

Do all you can to cut cost.

Those kids will never understand or forgive their mum in the future.

Use two side look the matter.

Another thing your wife can do is to take him to court, especially for child support.

Let her get a good lawyer if she wants him to care for his children.

MODIFIED

She can go through FIDA to sort out Co-parenting and child support agreement.

For those coming for me, if you're not capable of talking like a homosapien, don't mention me, cause I no well. I will drag you from here to Timbuktu. So come correct

Vireani79:


He will not pay... is it by force
Have u heard his side of the story
Or the part of this gold digger and his wife who want to milk a wealthy man

They are both incapable of taking care of the kids
Give them to the dad
For me he should not drop a penny cos from this man's story it is clear it's his wealth they are banking on as a source of income

kokaneprodigy:

I’m sure when they told you to avoid single moms cos of complications like this you said not all single moms are like that.
Now you are disturbing us.

Cc JOSH54

Romanoff:
To those telling him to let the father take his kids, if you were one of those kids, won't you resent your mother for abandoning you?

Wouldn't you ask that "what type of mother will abandon her kids?"

@Op, you knew she had kids when you married her, I know it's not easy, but you both will have to double your hustle. Get other side businesses, cut your coat according to your material.

If you'll need to downgrade their school, do so, if you'll need to move to a cheaper area, do so.

Do all you can to cut cost.

Those kids will never understand or forgive their mum in the future.

Use two side look the matter.

Another thing your wife can do is to take him to court, especially for child support.

Let her get a good lawyer if she wants him to care for his children.

MODIFIED

She can go through FIDA to sort out Co-parenting and child support agreement.

For those coming for me, if you're not capable of talking like a homosapien, don't mention me, cause I no well. I will drag you from here to Timbuktu. So come correct

INTEGRITYA1:


Though we do have different ideas on same issues, base on our experiences and opinions

But from the concern you raised in your write up, it show how selfish and self centered you are.

How many woman or even you can agreed to suffer the same fate in your recommendations if were to be other way round (That the man have the children and the woman married as single)?

If the op is your blood brother will you still give the same advice to him.

If the woman so much concern about those points you raised; why did she moved out from that man house in the first place (Who is at fault or what lead to her moving out; we don't know and beyond the scope of the write up).

You said the children will not be happy with their mother in years to come if they should return to their father.

You should also put their father into consideration. If the man put them away and not ready to take care of them is another case.

Agbebakun22:


Na western countries u think dem dey ni, God know if woman no allow me carry my kids, shishi I no go send even if they take me to courts I no go honor the court invitation, the man said he want the kids make kukuma share them 1-1

Romanoff:


I also said they can double their hustle and not complain or take him to court.

It's not fair to call them gold diggers and the story we know is the story that we've been told here, so that's all we have to go with. He doesn't need to pay cash to them.

Co-parenting can still be arranged. But to take the kids far from their mother is evil.

lakefist:


It doesn't work in dis part of the world

Juicewrld27:
better allow the man take his property

Vireani79:


Ohhh it's not fair to call them gold diggers
Based on the story u have here
But it's fair to call the father a deadbeat

The way u ladies change narratives ehhh

Smh

Romanoff:
To those telling him to let the father take his kids, if you were one of those kids, won't you resent your mother for abandoning you?

Wouldn't you ask that "what type of mother will abandon her kids?"

@Op, you knew she had kids when you married her, I know it's not easy, but you both will have to double your hustle. Get other side businesses, cut your coat according to your material.

If you'll need to downgrade their school, do so, if you'll need to move to a cheaper area, do so.

Do all you can to cut cost.

Those kids will never understand or forgive their mum in the future.

Use two side look the matter.

Another thing your wife can do is to take him to court, especially for child support.

Let her get a good lawyer if she wants him to care for his children.

MODIFIED

She can go through FIDA to sort out Co-parenting and child support agreement.

For those coming for me, if you're not capable of talking like a homosapien, don't mention me, cause I no well. I will drag you from here to Timbuktu. So come correct

Romanoff:


The man is blackmailing the woman with the kids. If he loves them, let him provide for their upkeep at least.

Na born them born for each other, why should they be a thorn in each other's flesh?

Andrew87:
I got married to my wife. I love her both with the kids but the biological father of the kids is a bit wealthy and left the whole responsibilities to my wife since last year.

This is not funny because I am part of her although we hustle hard but it's not easy. He insists the kids must be with him if he must take care of them but a member of his family informed my wife that he plans to take them away and she will not see them.

Advice her to file the case to court if they are legally married even if they not..the court will grant her the custody of the kids and father will be responsible for child support

Please friends what's ur take on this? Times are really hard.

perambulator:


The OP is a weak man, period!!!! No young man worth his salt marries a woman with children with the father alive. he has the audacity to come on nairaland to complain the real father is not providing. The foolish Op is talking about love, let him feed the children with the love nah. He will soon find out the woman will ditch him. The divorced woman he married started her previous marriage with "I love you"!

As someone said only old men 50+ marry single mothers for companionship 1) usually they already have their own kids 2)they are financially buoyant.

This same woman will remind him one day when they fight that he wasnt able to provide and it is her exhusband taking care of the kids.

Romanoff:
To those telling him to let the father take his kids, if you were one of those kids, won't you resent your mother for abandoning you?

Wouldn't you ask that "what type of mother will abandon her kids?"

@Op, you knew she had kids when you married her, I know it's not easy, but you both will have to double your hustle. Get other side businesses, cut your coat according to your material.

If you'll need to downgrade their school, do so, if you'll need to move to a cheaper area, do so.

Do all you can to cut cost.

Those kids will never understand or forgive their mum in the future.

Use two side look the matter.

Another thing your wife can do is to take him to court, especially for child support.

Let her get a good lawyer if she wants him to care for his children.

MODIFIED

She can go through FIDA to sort out Co-parenting and child support agreement.

For those coming for me, if you're not capable of talking like a homosapien, don't mention me, cause I no well. I will drag you from here to Timbuktu. So come correct

oldtruth:


If you cease posting on this issue, it will do you good.

So he should provide for their upbringing in another man's house? What will give him the assurance the money sent was judiciously used? Please try to think twice before you write. This act will save you a lot....

Andrew87:
I got married to my wife. I love her both with the kids but the biological father of the kids is a bit wealthy and left the whole responsibilities to my wife since last year.

This is not funny because I am part of her although we hustle hard but it's not easy. He insists the kids must be with him if he must take care of them but a member of his family informed my wife that he plans to take them away and she will not see them.

Please friends what's ur take on this? Times are really hard.

Romanoff:
To those telling him to let the father take his kids, if you were one of those kids, won't you resent your mother for abandoning you?

Wouldn't you ask that "what type of mother will abandon her kids?"

@Op, you knew she had kids when you married her, I know it's not easy, but you both will have to double your hustle. Get other side businesses, cut your coat according to your material.

If you'll need to downgrade their school, do so, if you'll need to move to a cheaper area, do so.

Do all you can to cut cost.

Those kids will never understand or forgive their mum in the future.

Use two side look the matter.

Another thing your wife can do is to take him to court, especially for child support.

Let her get a good lawyer if she wants him to care for his children.

MODIFIED

She can go through FIDA to sort out Co-parenting and child support agreement.

For those coming for me, if you're not capable of talking like a homosapien, don't mention me, cause I no well. I will drag you from here to Timbuktu. So come correct

Romanoff:


One thing about me, I always look at issues from bother sides. I won't let my brother abandon his kids, if he's worried about then taking advantage of his money, I'll help him arrange side support in ways the ex won't get a dime from him.

Pay the fees yourself, choose the school your self, pay for the health insurance, bit their clothes. Let her and her husband handle feeding and accomodation. That's the least they can so.

Let them share custody. Arrange to either live close to each other or he gets them on weekends and holidays.

I don't give advice that I won't take or give to my loved ones.

I am not that way.

Romanoff:


This is the reason I called him a deadbeat.
1. It's not that he's incapable of child support.
2. He's withdrawing child support so he can take the kids away.

If man no get, we go gree say e no get.

But like I also said, they them double their hustle and take care of the kids. Especially the wife.

tunjilana:


They should attend watered down schools, live in watered down neighborhoods and probably miss out on opportunities to have a good headstart in life just so their mother is not resented. Going by your logic, they will not have the best they should have and still end up resenting their father. Soregardless, one parent will be resented. If truly she has their interest at heart and she is sure the man is just a bad husband but a good father, she should better make the sacrifice and let their father give them the best they deserve

INTEGRITYA1:


Very good, can you now see your narrations changes when I challenge your previous write up with quality points.