Bedtec:
then go and make money , she have made her choice

Bedtec:
It's simple , move ahead you don't know what the man has done for her and the family and what the family promised the man ... Women can't be trusted if she's saying the truth then she should not attend the wedding ... But if they get married then get ready to be getting free sex from a married woman

gentleman82:
You are the confused one here, you have the option to refund the old man his money. Then convince the lady to cut off the old man and move in with you,

gentleman82:

The mothers sister has given you that option , accept to refund the money to the old man through your girlfriend , let her take the money to him or you both go together, you may involve someone else if things may get violent, but he sure the lady really loves you .

AmgMakanaki:
If actually she truly loves you, she can turn any damn request coming her way. The choice is her’s don’t force her to turn down request, just speak to her heart and not her eyes.... if truly she’s not into the man money or so, she would definitely stand with you

Jackdean111:
wait. do you even have the money to pay the man back?

gentleman82:

As you may decide to send money to refund her father. Be certain they are not trying to con you of your money. People can be funny at times , be wise not to be a victim of thieves.

Romanblackjezzy:
I'm not stupid... I believe the girl and the old man is capable of doing it.. loosing that type of calm girl is never a choice.

Romanblackjezzy:
most of the comments here are too aggressive... please I need comment of hope ���

Romanoff:
Hmmm. It's obvious she's broke a poor background and her parents sees that old man as their Lord and savior.

If you intend to marry her, go and refund the money they collected from that man and use the opportunity to do traditional marriage.

But note this, what they are looking for is a saviour from poverty, hope you're willing to fill in the shoe of a saviour?

Romanblackjezzy:
Sorry for my bad English

I'm going crazy right now, I meant this girl's February 2021, I ask her out, At first she was affriad to go out with me, because she didn't trust young guys, I managed to confused her, She later accepted..

Our first date was wonderful, She fall in love completely, One day She decided to open up to me, That she do stay with an old man, She was having accomodations problem years back, her ex young boyfriend betrayed her, She slept in the street for months, The old man seen to be her sugar daddy then, She contacted The old man about her situation, finally the old man decided to offer her accomodations, food n clothes.

Funny Part the old man is old enough to be her father, She's told me that she want to leave the man and countinue with me, because I'm different from other young guys she has meant, I should help her, I couldn't believe it, She beg me not to end the relationship, I promise her I will not betray her.

We started working towards her documentation, work and accomodations, I told her I will do my best, God finally bless her with 5 years document 3 weeks ago, few days later she got a good job, I was so happy for her for the rapid success, definitely she's going to the government project with free accomodation and Free education no need for me to stress myself.

3 days ago She called me that something happens, that she told the old man she's leaving for the government project, The man feel bad but accepted, to her biggest concern her father in Nigeria called her that the old man has send them money for traditional marriage.

She confronted the old man, Why will you send my family money to prepare for traditional marriage without my concern, Why do you want to marry me now that I have job and document? The man told her, he wanted to surprise her bla bla,

She told me that She want to run away, She later involved her Mother elder sister, because she lost her mother when she was age 4... The mother sister called me to confirm if I truly love her the way she does, and i told her I do, I also involved my mother, The mother sister told me, if I can refund the money to the man, rent a house for the girl within her work place, I gave them assurance.

Getting accomodations within her working place is a bit difficult, The old man house serve as a help to her, She cannot stay in my place and be going to the work because I leave far from the work place.. She need the work more than anything. Getting job here is like impossible.

I have been down since 3 days... Funny enough the old man fix the traditional marriage on August 1, The old man is trying to use the weeding to hold the girl down, I really feel bad because the girl told me few months ago to do the introduction for her, I told her to wait till September.

I feel I'm the one losing here, She's coming this weekend to visit me, Her father keep pushing her to marry the old man, I don't know what to do, these is the second girl I'm losing dis year... I don't wanna loose this girl. I also need her for a Permanent Stay in this country

I Seek an advised, Help a brother in Depression.

Romanblackjezzy:
I understand, I'm not that rich

Gadafii:
No follow man when get money compete for woman

But OP, I just checked your thread and I saw you have created a story before about how your girl friend who is a baby mama always humiliate you, here is the thread

https://www.nairaland.com/6355652/need-girlfriend-keep-humiliating-me

So who are you trying to deceive, us or ur village people