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Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by bepositive11: 7:14pm On Sep 22, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Let's just agree to disagree. You have your own opinion and I have my own. The only human that would choose to not look after their parents in old age is one who has no empathy for them Just like how parents are responsible for their babies, children are responsible for their old parents I don't see children as slaves. I see them as people who live on with the values, knowledge and wisdom of the previous generation to continue humanity What I am against is relying on children financially in old age. I believe people should invest and have funds to live off of in old age. But still, we'll all get to a point where we would be too old and weak to do anything for ourselves We just have different values and different views. I used to think like you but a friend challenged my views Btw, I've seen news stories of old people getting mistreated in elderly homes. Even if children aren't directly taking care of their old parents, it's nice to know that they would make sure that their parents are not being mistreated |
Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by Kobojunkie: 7:21pm On Sep 22, 2021 |
bepositive11:I don't believe in agreeing to disagree. ![]() All you continue to do is provide an emotional arguement for your sid, not a rational one can apply to all. ![]() You claim what you are against is people relying on their kids financially in their old age, but you don't see how it it about the same thing as choosing to be a burden on the same kids in their old age? ![]() It remains that the those who have children in order that they can have them as slaves to care for them in their old age do so for selfish reasons and should not be applauded for their wickedness. ![]() Most humans are capable and should plan for a future that doesn't constitute a burden on others , not the other way around. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by bepositive11: 5:26am On Sep 23, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: You keep avoiding this fact: even if you pay, someone else's child will be looking after you If no one should have kids, there would be no younger generation to look after the older generation and eventually, there would be no one to look after the remaining older people Have you considered maybe you're the one being emotional? I'm tired of this back and forth. Do what you want to do |
Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by Kobojunkie: 1:54pm On Sep 23, 2021 |
bepositive11:If no one should have kids? There are probably over 8 billion humans already on this planet today - 8000000000 - yet you think saying that makes sense? ![]() I am not being emotional since I am considering considering facts here where you manipulate emotions in making your point in this. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by MufasaLion: 3:33pm On Sep 23, 2021 |
Iamagoodgirll: You don't need to have children before you got taken care of at old age. There are tons of old people rotting away and they have kids. 1 Like |
Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by MufasaLion: 3:37pm On Sep 23, 2021 |
siofra: The picture you posted, the guy was right. |
Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by bepositive11: 4:08pm On Sep 23, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Wait. You're the same person I'm going back and forth with about the Kenyan lady? You really like prolonging debates ![]() I'm done. Enjoy the rest of your week ![]() |
Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by Kobojunkie: 4:13pm On Sep 23, 2021 |
bepositive11:Oh, I ain't the one prolonging anything. You with your emotional claims do exactly that. I am simply reasserting what I started this conversation with which is that it is illogical and wicked even to have children as slaves for you in old age. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by spirul77: 4:27pm On Sep 23, 2021 |
Iamagoodgirll:"who will take care of me when I'm old" "who will continue with my name when I'm no more" are very selfish reasons to have children, sometimes I think Afrixan mums are very greedy and selfish people, the main crux of almost every Nigerian mothers reason for taking care of their children is "who will take care of me in my old age" so if you don't have the belief they will take care of you when you are old you won't take care of them now? Truth is if kids really want to pay for what their parents did for them they can't really pay, and truth is if not that Nigerian parents see their kids as investment you would have seen the other side of an average Nigerian on the way they threat their own kids. Kids are not meant to take care of you when you are old or something like that, rather they are our responsibility, just the way our parents take care of us without expecting anything from us should also be the way we threat our kids by not expecting anything from them. Shame. |
Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by bepositive11: 4:27pm On Sep 23, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Do you like being there for people you love and care about? I'm guessing the answer is yes? You are not a burden to people who love and care about you. In fact, to them, it's a pleasure to be there for you Stop calling children slaves. There's nothing wrong with wanting your own biological children to be there for you in old age. No one can ever love and care about you as much as family Even if you pay for elderly care, at least they'll make sure that you're treated well when you can no longer fend for yourself |
Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by Kobojunkie: 4:28pm On Sep 23, 2021 |
bepositive11:Yet again with the emotional babbles...You can't help yourself, can you? ![]() |
Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by Kobojunkie: 4:31pm On Sep 23, 2021 |
spirul77:Very selfish and wicked indeed. ![]() |
Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by bepositive11: 4:32pm On Sep 23, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: We have different opinions. No one's wrong or right. Have a good day. |
Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by Kobojunkie: 4:38pm On Sep 23, 2021 |
bepositive11:A difference of opinions would apply in a case where you offer one logical opposing view to mine. That isn't what is taking place here though. You have instead attempted using manipulative emotional arguments to get by here. ![]() |
Re: Don't Want To Have Child/children? by Nobody: 11:34am On Sep 24, 2021 |
I wish people made great use of their thinking faculties when it comes to the decision of having children rather than relying on sentiments or societal expectations. Parenting is a difficult and meticulous life-long task. If more people reframed their minds to view it this way, the world would be a much better place as many people would reconsider the need to reproduce which is a good thing because the world is overpopulated anyways. Too many narcissists and selfish people hide under the guise of parenting and ruin innocent lives as a result which creates a cycle of dysfunction and trauma traversing generations and having far-reaching consequences on society. Undergoing reproduction should be largely selfless which then manifests in the quality of offsprings in all dimensions. |
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