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Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by thinksquad(m): 9:04pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Breathe in and out ,and let go of any emotions that might harm you (anger, frustration) and knowing that with constant experiences and conditions of life people change . Peace man |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by Truvelisback(m): 9:55pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Leetika:U aren't welcomed by him, so think twice. |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by Leetika: 10:21pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
posty56: I don comot this night, I no get choice. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by Blackmiserable(m): 10:35pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Leetika: I could help you if you live in my city, Kaduna. I had a similar experience yesterday and I got the message clearly even though mine is different - I didn't know him from Adam but I just approached the guy to sit in his shop for the first time. It's painful, but then never again, I repeat, never have expectations of humans. It's baseless and tactless for the very fact that we very often disappoint even ourselves. |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by Leetika: 10:53pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Blackmiserable: Thanks A lot bro I am in I.B though lol , The matter go pass. heading to Lag nextweek sha that’s why I needed to stay at his to cut many financial cost of hotel bills.. Sure I had expectations because of our uni days, So we close well well. Only guy that drives my car in school then.people even thought he owned it. He is doing well for himself by God grace but Now wey water don pass garri for me now, few days assist E shock me. Lol but I guess he changed . Cos he is someone I could swear got my back.Only pained because of the expectation I had. At least I have saved small for the few days I stayed. No bad blood lesson learnt no more expectations. |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by Magnoliaa(f): 10:53pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Nazgul: Okayy. So I should wait for you as per what? Should you not be congratulating me? |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by aktolly54(m): 10:56pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Obaxxx:your blood sister ? And your mom raise you with love and passion , HOW TO CARE FOR EACH OTHER WITH LOVE? charity begin at home. But if my own blood relative did such a thing with me, I WILL MAKE SUCH RELATIVE BLEED, TO THOSE IDIO.T THAT WILL CALL ME BAD PERSON ,YOU MUST BE STUPI.D BECAUSE YOU CAN DO SUCH A THING TOO. people with good heart has a anger issue because when people do what we cant do to others to us, it really pain us. PS: nobody should quote FORGIVENESS BULLSHI.T please , rather quote and preach people should have a good heart |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by aktolly54(m): 11:04pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Leetika:which state you dey? Or city ? You might be lucky to see cheap motel Luke 3k or 4k per night. Try and survive but don't forget what that idio.t called friend did to you. |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by Nazgul: 11:08pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Magnoliaa:Congratulate you unto wetin na. Patience is a virtue...it's in your Bible. Even bubu waited for 12 years before getting the keys to the aso Rock mansion he's enjoying now, and I didn't say you should wait for 12 years sef, |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by Styluss: 11:11pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Leetika:your guy no try at all....!!!! Let it slide.. But do not forget... Revenge is always an option |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by Blackmiserable(m): 11:11pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Leetika: Eyah, sorry, pele.. My brother lives in IB but unfortunately I can't ask him to let you stay with him, sadly. There's no bad blood between us at all but I am sorry, I can't. I hope you understand. If I weren't staying alone sef, I wouldn't offer to help. Having expectations, trusting humans and the likes is a recipe for failure. A disaster brewing to occur. That's life for you, move on. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by Leetika: 11:19pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
aktolly54: I got some 5k own finally this night in I.B. Probably check for a cheaper one tomorrow. We will rough it. I go forgive am Sha ,I no go forget. Lol Moral of the story money stops nonsense. |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by aktolly54(m): 12:08am On Oct 08, 2021 |
Leetika:which area in Ibadan? I can link you with place you can stay around challenge for 3k |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by Leetika: 12:49am On Oct 08, 2021 |
aktolly54:That will be nice sir. More economical for me |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by pansophist(m): 2:17am On Oct 08, 2021 |
Nazgul: I've experienced more than worse, of what you experienced. And helping people as time goes by becomes progressively unattractive to do. From experienced, I've observed that some of the vilest people are those that needs help. They have a kind of a sensor that detects benevolent folks, to milk and exploit them to the maximum. There are some help I've also ruled out doing, such as lodging someone in my house. I'll rather pay for somewhere cheap for you to stay, and let the hotel, bear which ever unforseen circumstances that may arose. Also, the friendship may not be jeopardised, and bitter emotions erupted in me. Lots of folks are in mess right now just for helping. The world is not a good place for helpers. Evil lurks everywhere. Also there is the situation of envy people hardly talk about. Helping someone in many cases simply means the helper is in a better position, and as most people are not the best they should be, vices such as envy may take over. . As a natural empath, I can feel people's pain. Infact i can even articulate someone's pain more than how they understand it themselves. And malevolent people can sense this and use it to mess up a helper. As an hypothesis, a physically challenged man can see that you have unhindered mobility, but you're oblivious to your mobility because the pain of being cripple is not your reality. Because life as a cripple comes with so much pain, either deserved or undeserved, the probability that they (the cripple) are angry against the world is very high, and pouring their anger on you just to feel better is an expression of it. Doesn't matter if you're you're helper. In the biblical story of Cain and Abel, I don't think Cain will be able to kill Abel if Abel was able to see the world through Cain's eye. We are all dealt with a different card on earth, and true anger and bitterness reside in the heart of many people. I still do help, but I'll do it from a distance, not bringing one closer. 7 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by linearity: 2:27am On Oct 08, 2021 |
OP, in your write-up you did not even appreciate him for giving a place to stay for the past days. You went straight to the negates and also make sure to let us know you buy your own food to eat. Stop looking at the glass half empty, focus your attentions on the half full portion of the glass, thank him for his hospitality and move on. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by femi4: 6:31am On Oct 08, 2021 |
Leetika:Life lesson: 20 children cannot be friends for 20yrs. People do change especially our friends as we drift apart. Blessed are those that are not expectant cos they ll not be disappointed |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by aktolly54(m): 9:00am On Oct 08, 2021 |
Leetika:opp GENESIS SUITE at challenge, there is an hotel call RAINBOW HOTEL, its 3500 but they won't ON generator for you but you can negotiate with them if you are staying there for like 3 days or week. You can also ask for IMB GUEST HOUSE, beside super K hotel at challenge. Its also cheap like 3k or so |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by budaatum: 10:30am On Oct 08, 2021 |
Magnoliaa: Did spambot spambot you in your own diary? Lol |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by begoniaa: 3:25pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
budaatum: Asinnn. Imagine. Mtcheeewww. I emailed a mod, I was unbanned. I tried to post again, it banned me again. Nonsense. |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by budaatum: 4:18pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
begoniaa: Very annoying thing, Lol. You carefully craft a post and spambot decides to thrash it and ban you for all your effort. Hardly a place for ones best work, pity. |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by dhensity: 11:27pm On Oct 08, 2021 |
Leetika: Since he wasnt saying anything .At least u could have asked to stay in the house since he will not be around to hear from his mouth his response before you think of hotel |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by iRepNaija1: 3:04am On Oct 09, 2021 |
Miracood2: You're not listening. This guy isn't your friend, or he's not as close a friend as you think he is. Otherwise, why the heck are you so surprised by his behavior? When you say, "friends are supposed to..." that's you putting your expectations on that person. When they don't meet up, you come running to NL to complain. You've been told. Be guided. Edit: I thought this person was the OP but my point still stands. Friends will continue to disappoint you if you expect too much from them. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by numericalguy(m): 6:09am On Oct 09, 2021 |
DaddyRochie1642: He is not even being tolerated. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by Leetika: 8:38am On Oct 09, 2021 |
dhensity: Wanted to tell him I will stay back in his house , but he didn’t suggest it. He clearly said ‘how I go do am? nd I said I will look for hotel hopin he says I stay back. Told him the cheapest I saw was 5k baba said that amount is not bad for hotel . better I protect the small ego wey remain for my body..didn’t need to push it. And he didn’t need to say it clearly. Him suggesting hotels I can go to was enough message. I am over it I believe. The hotel came through 4 more days and I am out of the city |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by UltimateStarman: 9:21am On Oct 09, 2021 |
Leetika:Current human nature leave him leave the house go and look for accomodation elsewhere you are blessed |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by Leetika: 9:38am On Oct 09, 2021 |
UltimateStarman: Did that. Amen thanks |
Re: Should I Be Angry With My Friend Or I Am Inconsiderate. by Magnoliaa(f): 9:32pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
budaatum: What I do before posting a long post anywhere is to to copy them many times for as I write and then paste in different places (notebook, email drafts, personal WhatsaApp chat, Wattpad, etc) before hitting 'send', so if the original post got deleted any way, I'll just copy and paste it back from those places I've pasted it to. It's easier that way. |
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