Everybody here is claiming married or working when we know more than 90% of them are jobless.
When you start working and in marriage for a least 5 yrs, you will be qualified to air your view on this matter.

Transparency on all fronts is a level of intimacy coup les should aspire to.

ibrutex:
To start with , dowt your spouse know how much your salary is at the end of the month..

Would you tell her if their is an increment and how much is added??

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Well! To mt9pte I wouldn't let hewptxptr know if their is increment because I tpu9pcan't let somepone finish the salary for me before I received , last last she will still be the one that take most share...

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Maybe8tptp I acted wrongly , neqtwptpt99ptwptwptwtwed your reasons.

Op it depend on your spouse and how she react to money. As at when i was dating my ex, i can never make that mistake, somebody thats keeps asking me if ive been paid even b4 salary day, so as to demand a share, like we both work for it. But this my present gf knows everything, she helps me plan. I will be getting a piece of land soon, tnx to her. She knows when my next promotion will be. My pastor's wife do receive his salary in her acct.

Frakintayo post=106583171:
Income is one the sensitive issues of life. It should be kept secret more often than not. Whenever you inform someone (your spouse, siblings, friends, mentors, children, lawyer, doctor, pastor) about increment in your earnings. You are exposed already, be ready to manage the effects of such action.

I have Already Screenshot dis ur Comment, Sir!!
Great words of Wisdom!

Even when I won small N3500 in Bet9ja and went to announce it on FB, I felt some Envy from pple..

Strangers living together.

Couples must plan their finances together.

My wife will know and we will decide that that increment is better off in a savings or investing account.

Build together.

ibrutex:
To start with , do your spouse know how much your salary is at the end of the month..

Would you tell her if their is an increment and how much is added??

Well! To me I wouldn't let her know if their is increment because I can't let someone finish the salary for me before I received , last last she will still be the one that take most share...

Maybe I acted wrongly , need your reasons.

Psoul:


We have to be sincere here.
I have read some people saying if it is where love and peace is, that telling her will not be a problem.
Well, this is not a matter of bn in love or not. Once a woman knows that there are still more, they will keep asking

Let me tell u my strategy. Fortunately, I have a very wonderful wife that is very hard working and very much financial disciplined even more than me.
When I got my Employment Letter. I edited it and put the amount I want her to believe to be my salary.
When salary comes, I give her what is her monthly allowance and for domestic upkeep.
I save from what is remaining plus the extra she did not know about.
That money should not be used for frivolous things. (If you are keeping this extra money don't use it for silly things).
From that time I gave her that money, she will find it difficult to ask me for big money cos she beliv that the little that remains for me will not even be enough for me after taking care of major family bills. She go even dey pity me how I am coping.

Sometime, I will ask her, Babe, lets go for outing. She will be like, Abeg, from which money do u expect us to pay for what we will take if you go for outing. Is it from the money for upkeep or that little that is remaining for you. Abeg, if you feel like taking alcohol, let me go and buy for you and we will sit down here in the house and enjoy it. I go just dey laf inside me.

Then, wen emergency comes, she will be like, Honey, how are we going to handle this issue now. There is no money here now. I will just tell her to calm down that God has never disappointed us for once. Let me rally round and see what I can do. That will be the time I will dip hand into that extra money I did not tell her about my salary and solve the problem. This always make have have strong respect for me cos she will beliv that I am not bn wasteful with my money.

If I get 2 promotions, I will tell her about one. Use the other one as back up.

So for me, don't tell your wife all the money you earn, but make sure you don't spend the money on useless things. Use it to better your family.

Badt guy. You go to lenghts editing a letter just to hide your take-home from madam. This Your own strong o.

That's a smart one though but with too much lies.

When Nigerian government increase your salary especially under Buhari, it is increase = tax. Only the shame of the 419 will not allow you to tell your spouse. If you doubt it verify from the staff of any federal university around you.

We don't hide such things at all. I just told him mine. I know his financial strength. I know what and when he spends his money and vice versa.

Yes

Home where there is love and trust it is no issue

Dshocker:


You guys are trying,i can't leave on a salary or work for someone

Like buhari, governors, ministers etal doesn't work for Nigerians abi

BigDawsNet:
Let me give you my scope

Sample

I earn Official job $4,000/per
Extra over time job $1,800/per

My wife should believe I earn $2,800/per and $700 respectively


If I got increments I will inform her! But with not the right figure...


I'm doing this not to punish her or I because I don't trust her...

But I believe in emergency saving...I will drop this funds into the account

Who asked you to mention your salary on a public forum, who are you trying to intimidate here?

Bola146:
Sure! I don't pray I should marry liability or enemy of progress,. He MUST know, we are no more two but one. After God na him

God bless you.

Yes

I won't make that mistake no matter how nice she is.


I can love my wife but nothing will make me trust her 100%

I think it depends on your spouse, you know whom you married so the decision is on you.

You will do that at Your own risk.

It depends on how you run your finances. We both know what we earn since pay day is constant. We agree on what to pay ourselves personally and the remaining is used jointly to finance the home and other savings/investments. So an increase will first be known by one another.

ibrutex:
To start with , do your spouse know how much your salary is at the end of the month..

Would you tell her if their is an increment and how much is added??

Well! To me I wouldn't let her know if their is increment because I can't let someone finish the salary for me before I received , last last she will still be the one that take most share...

Maybe I acted wrongly , need your reasons.

I don't agree with this. If you're hesitating to tell your spouse that you got an increase in your salary, then you have bigger problems, OP.

ibrutex:
To start with , do your spouse know how much your salary is at the end of the month..

Would you tell her if their is an increment and how much is added??

Well! To me I wouldn't let her know if their is increment because I can't let someone finish the salary for me before I received , last last she will still be the one that take most share...

Maybe I acted wrongly , need your reasons.

Telling her would make her respect dor youe increase.

This is wowen psychology.

Are are exposing to us how your marriage is built on deceit.

No

I still feel guilty of not telling my wife that I got a raise of 40% this past month.

Yeah guilty cos she's the "let's invest" type, we build a house before getting a vehicle type, but I'll still end up telling her sha.

Bola146:
Sure! I don't pray I should marry liability or enemy of progress,. He MUST know, we are no more two but one. After God na him

After reading your comment I rushed to see your DP maybe I'll see your face , but I was dissapointed

tell who?! teller nunnn!!

Teletubies

Not at all i

She knows the salary I earn.

As for the increment, she will definitely know as well.

Not letting your spouse know your financial capacity creates more problem than it solves.

If you think she will finish the money if she knows your financial worth, then you are not only in charge of the relationship but lack command and control on what happens.

MufasaLion:


It's nobody's business.

it's ur spouse's business in Jesus name.

Dshocker:


You guys are trying,i can't leave on a salary or work for someone

That doesn't mean you earn or have more peace of mind than those who work for someone.

Whichever way, at least you work for your customers. And you are more responsible for your customers than those working for someone.

Bola146:
Sure! I don't pray I should marry liability or enemy of progress,. He MUST know, we are no more two but one. After God na him

See trap