EHoudini:
Dear Nairalanders share in my pain.

I married my wife in 2008 and have three lovely kind hearted kids.

I was away in Kenya that year. I met my wife one and half years prior. Some preliminary steps were taken toward marriage. In the prelim talk, the mother took charge (red flag), even though the father was right there.

When I was away my brother completed all other rites; up to this moment, I do not know how much money he spent. He always tells me, don't worry as he himself cannot remember. Meanwhile, I told my then girlfriend, now wife, to note down everything. But she didnt (red flag)

Preparatory to the wedding she insisted the cake maker must be her sister-in-law and at a very high cost (red flag)

After the wedding, I saw only part of the cake. When I inquired the mother said she shared it into two. that she took half for her family and remaining is for my family! (red flag). I fumed. But calmed down, after all, its just a cake.
That small part that was given to my family, grew fungi and went rancid in a week! Poorly made!

We left after the wedding to my base in Kenya. After 3years we returned, empty handed. She would pressure me to buy worthless and irrelevant things; which we were forced to leave behind: excess luggage

Fast forward, she accused me of sleeping our maid ( one kind hearted well mannered village girl) when our daughter started school and need for a maid was minimal. She unleashed her mother on me. Like a rabid dog, she attacked me with vengeance. That was nine years ago. Later, she said that's was not what she meant.
We stayed without a maid for a while. Eventually one another girl was procured by her mother and brought to live with us. She was in Jss1 then. She lost a year in school because she had baby seat our daughter while the mother (my wife) went to school.
The maid, who I consider my daughter, completed secondary school, wrote waec 2x, with standard results, wrote jamb 3x without success.
I love her like my blood and there's hardly anything I cannot do for her. She's hardworking and never complained.
But my wife would beat and dehumanize her with uncanny impunity and rained all insults and curse on her in the presence of our kids! I told her to take it easy but it is like I added drum petrol to already raging fire. With time I learnt to control myself by keeping quite. And that is another problem. That I was supporting the maid.

At last, my wife did what she knows best; like the unchangeable leopard spot, she once again, sadly, accused me of sleeping with the maid!. Then sent her away. Just like that.

A second life destroyed!

The human heart is unfathomably wicked; can device many evils.

Can forgiving God forgive these, especially that I never once think of such much less execute this demonic act?

Evil is real. I live with one.

This one na curse, no be marriage

#tearsintheeyes

dasparrow:
This is the politics section. Any thread that has nothing to do with politics would be deleted. Relationship related threads should be opened in the FAMILY SECTION of Nairaland. Please do the needful OP.

OssyMalik:
See this one forming moderator. You don’t need to do eye service. The mods will do the needful

dasparrow:


Don't be an idiot this sunday morning. I don't know why some you act like fish brains and so childishly. How old are you again? I don't exchange words with dumb STD infested Nigerian bitches like you . Do not quote me again.

iamDrRhymes:
I feel your pain bruh but do you still love that woman?

Kilohese:
You shouldn't have ignored the multiple Red Flags

At least you should have sat her down and discuss alot of these issues before commiting

Anyway, let's wait for the elders to put mouth (especially the married ones)

thebosstrevor1:
When she was mistreating the maids, what stops you from correcting her?

Aren't you the head of the house?

Maltreatment of househelps is a sign of wickedness.

See, If you can not stand her, seperate from her till she has sense.