Evamann:


You are the one reading wrong interpretations to it. I mean it is your house and you have the right to decisively correct what you feel not normal.

Never mind the man.. when you complained and no positive response ,best thing to do is to go practical...by doing so severally ,she will understand better

webhead:
you're right.
But, like I said, this is for only weak men–physically and mentally.
Armed with the/my redpill knowledge of how most of them operate, no woman can mentally dominate/use passive aggression against me.

It all starts with having an abundance mindset.
When a man feels like he needs to cling to one woman only, he'll definitely diminish his masculinity and fall for this trap.
But when a man bears in my mind that there are billions of other women in the world, he won't try to water down his role as the head of the relationship.
(like the Op is doing)

Lots of truth in your post, but how many men have the privilege of your knowledge? Was it something you were born with? I'd like to guess no. That's why a large number of men keep scratching their heads when they face issues in relationships with their wives, then come to Naira land to vent...

Wait. Getting it from the kitchen yourself is greedy, but telling her to dish it isn't?
Interesting.

Barrister026:

Smile

That will make me come off as been greedy, don't you think.
What will people think when they hear it.

"If him wife cook, na him dey go devide food from pot"


It's not mature

PlayMaker14:
I believe she's not restraining you from serving your desired portion.... Kindly go and serve yourself if you are not satisfied with her portion.


Na small issue wey you fit coordinate as a MAN.

God bless u 4 this comment

We are to eat as little food as possible for dinner in other not to overwork your system. So I believe your wife is just following healthy living.

Keep listening to what people will say at the expense of your happiness, oga it is your house in as.much as u are not abusing madam or she won't complain if u go to her pot.

Barrister026:

Smile

That will make me come off as been greedy, don't you think.
What will people think when they hear it.

"If him wife cook, na him dey go devide food from pot"


It's not mature

Barrister026:

Smile

That will make me come off as been greedy, don't you think.
What will people think when they hear it.

"If him wife cook, na him dey go devide food from pot"


It's not mature

My wife acts same way too atimes...though, I don't really blame her that much bcus d kids sometimes eat so little whenever she prepares plenty food and I don't like eating frozen rice or other food. As for the protein, any time d meat nor do me, I dey enter kitchen go carry more meat ni o...na me buy am and if e finish, we go buy more !

Get a cook, maybe she is sending you a message she is tired og cooking. Also, engage her furiously in the ''ozer room''.

Barrister026:

You don't know how irritating everytime have to ask her to take it back, and dish it properly.
Her grumblings that comes with it is making me angry, I just can't continue to accept this behavior.

What sort of poverty mentality is this? Grumbling whilst serving your husband? There must be more to this.

I think telling her the amount of meat you want per meal should resolve this.

Rubbiish:


I never knew I was wasting my time on a 21 year old kid! Jeez! I will stop commenting on issues raised on this forum henceforth!

LOL. This story is probably a work of fiction.

I think you should sit her down and talk these things through with her. That's what is expected of a real man

If she dishes food for you the same way again, drive out and get something to eat. Preferably, bring it back home and eat in her presence. If she complains, then you can tell her that since it's obvious that she has refused to understand her husband after all these time, you will do things without her consideration.

ozo13:
smiles.aunty Obanyi

emi yor

First of all, it's not " your food" it's for the family, secondly please escort your wife to the market one of these days, because you have accused her of diverting funds for food, "who nor go nor know"

Barrister026:


Disrespectful you say?

So she starving me of my own food is respectful?


The only reason I don't want to do that, is because I be ashamed if the issue escalated and neighbors gets to hear that we are quarreling because of quantity of meat and fish. It doesn't make sense at all.

oghenetega100:
First of all, it's not " your food" it's for the family, secondly please escort your wife to the market one of these days, because you have accused her of diverting funds for food, "who nor go nor know"

quiet your mouth there!

it's my money, its my food

crownedrookie:

No. Your mother who taught her useless wh.ore of a daughter how to send the provider of the house to the kitchen to serve his own food.

Your father is as good as dead with cretins like you as the women in his life. Beasts

I curse you with the hair on your mother's head.

Next time she serve you food just dey look am for face

enonche85:


Oga he gives her money to buy food, he has the right to tell her what he wants to eat. If he starts rejecting her food or not even giving her enough funds that will turn to another issue...

Op, abi u don't give your wife enough money?.

I get your point.

But sometimes you teach people what you need by showing them how you like it.

Barrister026:

quiet your mouth there!

it's my money, its my food

I don't know why people take small issues very serious. Oga, you do not need to stress yourself repeating the same thing to your wife, go straight to the kitchen and help yourself.
Personally, myself do not wait for my wife to serve me, once the food is ready, I move straight to the kitchen and help myself. people should not take this I am the boss so serious

Barrister026:

quiet your mouth there!

it's my money, its my food

It's your money, it's your food yet you cannot walk to the kitchen and serve yourself. The irony. Abi is it over laziness that is worrying you?

Barrister026:
My wife attitudes towards food she cooked with my money is getting on my nerves.

How can my wife be dishing food to me like she's serving it for our kids.times without number have complained but still no changes.

It's either she makes eba that won't satisfy us ( when they is enough garri available) her defense is that she don't want it to be wasted.

OR

She dished out soup for me with lesser meat like am a kid. Have told her several times when cooking..to buy enough protein in the soup or stew. But to my surprise she always economise the money and divert it into something else.

I even had to start buying suya in the evening when coming back from work, because I know what I be expecting when my food is dished out. ( Recent news we saw of how suya killed some families, made me limiit it)

Have ordered her on several occasions to take it back and put more protein, but must i always do that?

Please This is really getting out of hand, I really don't know how to handle this situation.

Shey nah this kind plate you want abi??

Try add money things don cost for market,

Money you think is enough for foodstuffs, might just not be enough.

Maybe she's finding it difficult to tell you about the hike in price...

Saying she divert monies might be you misfiring..

owunabastard:
I don't know why people take small issues very serious. Oga, you do not need to stress yourself repeating the same thing to your wife, go straight to the kitchen and help yourself.
Personally, myself do not wait for my wife to serve me, once the food is ready, I move straight to the kitchen and help myself. people should not take this I am the boss so serious

it's an abominable act where am from.
i can't reduce my standard to go and dished food when my wife is there to perform her duties.

then why is she here in the first place.

you think you are a man because you go and dished food from the pot yourself.

after coming from work.

i bath.

i make my own garri

warm the soup.

then dished it myself.

take it to the dinning table.


eat..

then take it back to the kitchen.


watch the plates.

then put it back in the train.


that makes you a man right?



I grew up with my parents...never for Once has my Dad gone to dished food himself when my mom is there.... except she's not around

it's either my junior sister does it, or we the boys do it.


mind you my dad is a double chief.

a traditional man.

So you all saying go and dished food yourself, am not going to do it that way.


they are more better mature advise I see here that am going to follow.

not going to dished food from the pot, because I need more meat and fish.


that's reducing my standard.


it's either she learn to change, or she leaves my house.

emmanuelbrown26:

U must be a very bad woman, now I see the type of girl u are

I'm a

BAAAAAADDDD!!

PROOOOOOUD!!!

WOOOOOOOMAN!!!

Unapologetic sweetie!!

Go-getter Queen!!

Temptress Supreme!!

DrFunmisticGlow:
I'm a

BAAAAAADDDD!!

PROOOOOOUD!!!

WOOOOOOOMAN!!!

Unapologetic sweetie!!

Go-getter Queen!!

Temptress Supreme!!

Lolssss, that small simps wey dey deceive u

CSTRR:

Of course na.

You will keep going to the pot Everytime.

So I should be wasting my energy fighting her? I dey drop money for food Wella and God forbid I fail in that responsibility in Jesus name.

PlayMaker14:
I believe she's not restraining you from serving your desired portion.... Kindly go and serve yourself if you are not satisfied with her portion.


Na small issue wey you fit coordinate as a MAN.

No be wuna talk say kitchen na woman's office??

Abi you want start to trespass

[quote author=Mariangeles post=107682172

Unless his wife allows it or is unavailable, that is disrespectful.[/quote]


Disrespectful??
Then let her put him plenty meat na to stop all this quarrel

Mariangeles:


She's probably too stubborn and places so much importance on food.

I bet she won't like it one bit when you go to her pot. Kukuma manage her like that.
You will adjust laslas. The lord is your straingth

He should adjust?? Can't she adjust?? Why should it always be the man who should adjust??

This thing is a very simple matter...
The man gives money for food, put him plenty meat...shikina!!!! All this wahala wouldn't have even existed if she just increased his meat portion...

This is how some women will be causing problems in the home...

Very soon now, resentment will kick in...
He may reduce the amount he gives her for cooking...
He may start eating outside or worse his secretary will start bringing food for him...

All of this can be avoided if she just increases his meat ration!!!!

Mariangeles:


Oga calm down! Na just food.
There are ways to go about these kinds of issues without blowing it out of proportion.

All oga needs to do is to be patient with his wife till she adjusts to the way he wants.

Op, una just marry?

Yes...
It's just food...
Buh like my elders will say, "na small tin dey cause big wahala"...

And I hope you will advice the same patience to the woman, when the man stats acting like a beast??

And besides, nothing is "just" nothing...
A wall may take a punch like it's "just" nothing, but not an egg

Favfables1:


He should adjust?? Can't she adjust?? Why should it always be the man who should adjust??

This thing is a very simple matter...
The man gives money for food, put him plenty meat...shikina!!!! All this wahala wouldn't have even existed if she just increased his meat portion...

This is how some women will be causing problems in the home...

Very soon now, resentment will kick in...
He may reduce the amount he gives her for cooking...
He may start eating outside or worse his secretary will start bringing food for him...

All of this can be avoided if she just increases his meat ration!!!!

Has anyone even bothered to ask why his wife doesn't serve him as much food as he wants? Even after several talks...
What if he's overweight? It didn't even occur to me to ask him that.
I mean, who wants a fat husband?
One can tell that the op loves food a bit too much for his own good.
Even the portion he's complaining about might still be much.
Imagine buying suya with the intention to add it to the food your wife serves you...that is a very very bad eating habit that might be hard to stop if one lacks discipline.

From my observation, I think op likes meat a bit too much for his own good, and his wife is trying to make him cut down on meat/food consumption.
Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial.
We should do things that are mostly beneficial for our health and wellbeing.
Although it is good to eat what you crave for once in a while, don't make it a habit all the time.
We should be responsible with money too.
You can't just eat anything you crave for anyhow, and at anytime just because you can afford to buy it.