Magnoliaa:


This is too generic and sweeping and just: this is only how it is and only how it can ever be.

I'm not in a situation like that, so I can't really speak from experience and for people like that, but I'll bet there are women who actually considers that to be a very good value. Asin. According to their core principles, and strong values, being in a marriage to a man who is married to another is what perfectly fits into their agenda bad what works for them. For whatever reasons they are getting from it.

Excluding the lies, and pain, and double dating (in the cases where the first wife isn't aware) ... I see no problem with it.

And keep in mind, even monogamous relationships can be devastating and distressing and just stormy.

So are those relationships issue because of the fact that we're with one person or two persons? Or it's kind of people involved?

Polygamous homes can be as turbulent as monogamous homes. I don't think I'll say one supersedes the other...or is an automatic gateway to happiness. Because hypocrites can be in monogamous marriages. Fking other women other of their wives... and the openly polygamous do the same thing BUT with everyone on board. That is, you know what you're getting into with a polygamous man.

Sha I'm trying to see this here from every angle.

And although, polygamy tend to be used a a disparaging and shaming and patriarchal talking points by most men, which had made it unattractive and distasteful. It's been used an an avenue for disrespect and all sorts against women. But how about in some societies like in the past, untainted by western and patriarchal ideals, that wholly practice such kind of polygamies? In and of themselves.

IF you CAN do RIGHT by your partners - thenn I'll say goodluck.

Well, it's all about choice, as long as nobody feels cheated.
I am of the opinion that if you as a man are ever interested in polygamy, make it known from the start so that the first woman who agrees to marry you knows what she's signing up for in future.
Give her the chance to choose. Don't force her into a situation she didn't bargain for.
To me, it's about the first wife first, because she will be the most affected.

Mariangeles:


Then, she's selfish person who can't think beyond herself that she might be hurting another person. The wife.

Unless they're Muslims sha.

Okay, and if the wife is open to that, too? Like genuinely, really open and the unbothered type? No. I ain't talking about the sneaky, snaky, hypocritical, poisoning type. But imagine if the two women are all vibes and good feelings. LMAO. Or maybe I'm just being idealistic with picturing two wives like this. And with a man. Yunno. I want to think there are some that have that much autonomy and self-awareness.

I explained further in another comment sha. Why polygamy generally is distasteful and would be seen as such. And that doesn't mean monogamy is automatically better, just because it is monogamy oh, in my view.

Yup. Being Muslims too is one reason.

Candidlady:


what is bad in becoming a second husband

Nothing. Absolutely nothing. Nothing wrong with that, too. Or should be wrong with it. If women can be second wives, men can be second husbands. It's only hypocritical men that'll support the former and not the latter. And I suspect they'll soon arrive here. If this topic was created for them now, all of their objectivity will fly out the window and you'll start hearing, 'men cannot be XYZ and igbadakodo.'

SmellySperm:
Nothing bad tho. Most women hate being glued to a man and being the only one available for sex.

I read a story where a woman said she hates too much attention and sex from her hubby. She just wanna live her life and be free

Ehen. This is an example.

Because there are more women in the world than men

Cerebellum:


I'm very sure you'll soon deactivate your account when depression sets in and my daughter won't use her youthful days doing.... Upandana

Check ur family u will see ladies that ripe not yet married, perhaps they too are retired oloshos.


Foolish guys too many on Faceless forum

Candidlady:
Please I need a reason why any lady would agree to be a second wife?

Woman too plenty ,even you OP na second wife you go be

It's a mystery

A lady will accept because husband scarce Regina Daniel accept to be 7th wife u think say she be mumu

What's the value in a man being exclusively yours?

Is he a kitchen utensil?

Mariangeles:


Everything!

The man was never and can never be yours.

Commot here before I keep my dagger for your neck

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Mariangeles:


Then, she's selfish person who can't think beyond herself that she might be hurting another person. The wife.

Unless they're Muslims sha.

so Muslim women get a pass? .


What happens to traditionalists that their religion permit it too? .

And I wonder why the woman is the one being blamed here to begin with, your husband used his money to marry another wife but God forbid you call him out. So the husband is not selfish for hurting his first wife?

Candidlady:
Please I need a reason why any lady would agree to be a second wife?

The reason concern you?

Candidlady:
Please I need a reason why any lady would agree to be a second wife?

From an African perspective, what's wrong with it?

MJBOLT:

what is bad about becoming a second wife??

Competition?

The wives will never love each other as sisters. And it's just going to cause tension.

The worst thing that can happen to a man, you can die from heart attack related ailment, create eternal enmity between children of both wives, hmmm I pity young men who still practice this

Scarcity of cassava

Candidlady:


what is bad in becoming a second husband

Gladly we go gree... but na you go collect all the ploughing so na

Their life
Their problem

Women as we all know were created to please men

Putting it right, they're a man's plaything

A mere intimacy gadget


They have no choice most especially when the man is overflowing with money

Mariangeles:
Only ladies who don't value themselves agree to be second wives.

It is rather ironic that the very same women who say stuff like "ladies who don't value themselves agree to be second wives" are actually side chicks to married men. Which is more devaluing to a woman?


if you waste your youth, you may find no viable option for marriage but to be a 3rd wife! Women dont become second wives because they want to, they do because many have wasted their opportunities and youth and no one will marry them as the only wife and many of the women looking down on second wives now will jump at the chance to be a 4th wife one day.

a woman has a window 20-30 to get married, after that for 90% of women, your options start to diminish VERY rapidly and being a 2nd. 3rd, 4th wife is probably your only viable option if you want to be married.

Candidlady:


asin eh
ihad always thought it was charm!



he tells you he is married but he wanna make you a second wife. Men get mind sha!

What do you have to say about the lady that agreed to marry the married man.

Hmmm another stabbing things coming oo
May God help the husband

I don't mind being a 10th wife to Dangote o. Wetin concern me? All the ones wey we be first wife and main chick to them, their head still no dey house.

NB; His money must be long like Dangote's own or something close for me to consider polygamy.

Look at Regina nah. Baby girl is balling. Abegii.

Let me even shock you. I just found love in a 70-year-old man. I can't wait to meet him when he comes to Nigeria on Christmas day.

Mariangeles:


Everything!

The man was never and can never be yours.

. Did God create men for women to own?

To each his or her own.


I don't think we have a right to condemn anyone for their choices.


Desperation? I don't think so.

Candidlady:
Please I need a reason why any lady would agree to be a second wife?

Bc the man is rich (or at least comfortable n the lady is poor)

Ask Regina Daniels

She can even be 10th to a man of 70

All most women need is money