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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by osuofia2(m): 10:53am On Dec 10, 2021
chigomiced:



emmaodet:


Lol

My wife started trying this bullshit with me early this year. Our sex life dropped to the lowest low.
It became very boring, predictable, same old missionary style, unromantic.
Tried spicing things up but it seems the more I try, the lesser she became interested.
It was now looking as if she is using the sex thing to manipulate me.
Asked her why she is not always in the mood despite my romance and efforts to spice things up and it is now looking as if I am the one that likes sex too much. She quickly placed the pressure more on me by saying it is my duty to try as much as possible to bring her into the mood. Can you imagine? Despite all my efforts, it is still my fault.
I know a lot of Hot simps will say I no dey do am we’ll say another man go knack my wife take her to cloud 9.
I kuku ma drop everything thing. Lost interest in her. She became a turn off to me.
I traveled for 2 months, came back home and will still travel another 3 months after staying 1 month at home yet you are not sexually excited seeing me and still getting turn off.
From January this year to may, we only touched ourselves just 4 boring times. When I came back hom July, didn’t even noticed her. I don’t even get romanced or my thing getting raised seeing her.
She became worried that it seems am seeing someone outside. En en and so?
Tbh, I was seeing a lady who was doing all her best to have me. Mind blowing sex while my wife they do like log of wood for house.
Na person wey no get option woman fit dey manipulate with sex.
After some time, she started crying that I don’t love her again blah blah blah. Asked what is the problem and I told her point blank I have lost interest in her that I don’t find her romantic anymore.
She knew the house is on fire. Started praying midnight that holy ghost should destroy every woman that wants to destroy her home, distracting her hubby attention blah blah blah.
To cut long story short, our sex life changed after then, became highly erotic with different innovations and then deep down me, I started thinking if this is the same woman who had been acting soooo Boring months ago?


Oboy this your format make sense o.....

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Kingjames(m): 10:57am On Dec 10, 2021
dowry i mean

i was just fed up with issues about that snake language translator

i have my own bitter experience of sex in marriage . Cant withstand it and i called it a quit
RodgersAkpafu:

You paid her diary ?
Is she a cow or what ?
Na wa
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 10:57am On Dec 10, 2021
IJEYdiamond:
These days is as if Married men are now d chronic masturbators..... Is as if UNA eyes no open well...

Mentally Emotionally Intimately it will tell on you... along d line.. you fit kolo look older than your age.... Erection issues may follow..

Some people leave with it and have issues in d later years... Some who cant cope.. opto out and get a girlfriend while some leave the marriage... Some leave d marriage when their body don turn vegetable and regretting in their life why they didn't satisfy themselves during their youth... .

If you dont know yourselves before marriage and u get married due pressure .. or other reasons.... and in your case your have high libido.....

..... Ur Case is pitiful... because e get wen you go reach you no go fit bear am again...!!


Its Well..


This Sex matter is really really becoming... in Marriages!!!
Well....to me, I'll say if most people didn't just marry merely for sex (top of their list) then they won't see this deprivation of sex as a big of a deal. What happened to slow, sensual kisses?? Role-playing?? Massages? Laughs and cuddling?
What happened to tickling her, communicating as you're doing so? Be spontaneous. Let her and him see that sex is not that big of a deal for you, then watch how they soon try to give it to you alot just to make it feel like it needs to be a big of a deal. The fear of if you're getting it outside will make her start to adjust.

See, Nigerian men need to become spontaneous oh. Think deep and learn what you can do to make her feel so excited while you both lay in bed. It could be as simple as both sleeping naked, staring at the ceiling and pointing at it as you both playfully count the number of shadows of people, or cars that reflect as a result of cars passing by outside. Play games...use your brain. You have it and it is limitless.

Crack jokes before you fall asleep. Play the right kind of music as you both lay in bed with the curtains partially open. Don't just shut everywhere and make the room pitch black. The Feng Shui of the room matters....These little things can arouse the woman and the man and make the feel like little kids in love all over again. It innocently excites both parties. Setting the mood for a sensual, romantic session.

If you like don't experiment, don't be spontaneous and creative. You will be going to bed angry and unfulfilled. You both should lay in each other's arms even if no sex happens. The warmth of each other, the closeness, the feeling will make you both feel so good that you'll naturally want to start kissing and making out immediately.

Too much porn has ruined people's minds and their abilities to be creative, child-like sweet (which is what we all used to be at some point)
Don't just be the couple who gets into bed, you give her your D and she gives you a BJ, you give her a lick too, and you proceed to have rough sex and doing the stuff you mostly see in porn.
Make you own type of romance. Try new things. See what works. Most women like a creative man in the bedroom. Be sweet, speak slowly ( almost whispering) chuckle, tease her, complement her body even if you've been seeing it for the past 12 months.Keep it real..Say what you like about it (that's why it's always good to first go for the kind of body you desire in a wife).That way, you don't have to make lies up. But even if she falls slightly shot of being as hot as you'd like, still tell her how you like her curves, he ass, her thighs...and so on. People love words that raise their self-confidence.

..Be child-like in bed, but still macho and capable when the banging starts. It makes them see different shades of you, and it turns them on.
I remember when I was in year one, I'd be having sensual lovemaking with my then girl and I'll pause (still inside of her)occasionally to feed her juice from a glass , or water or whatever...The I'll kiss her and suck the taste of the juice from her lips..then I'll compliment her on how wild , but yet innocently sweet and sexy she is looking at the moment...Then put down the glass and continue dicking her down... It makes her drift away into la la land. Cloud 9. And I was just 19-20 yrs then oh. So, get creative and save your sexual life.

But don't forget, it doesn't always have to lead and end in sex..some nights just play and fall asleep in each other's arms. Solidify your friendship (yes, frienship) then send sensual text messages to each other's phones before coming home. Or even while she is in the kitchen and you are in the bathroom...make it look childish but creative and funny. She'll laugh.. she'll blush and she'll hurry to meet you over in the bedroom. Join her sometimes and cook at the kitchen...Wash dishes together (one person washing, the other wiping the dishes dry) it helps to foster more bonding and care. Play music you both mutually like while in the kitchen together. You'll be surprised the things all these and more can do for the two of you..
If you don't know how to be creative with words and expressions, then learn it anyway you can. Never let your marriage feel void of fun and tenderness. It's not just about providing all the financial needs...and also not about hard banging for one hour plus. You need to make love. Tickle her fantasy...know her love languages. Even invent new ones for her...

My wife will be so glad in me...I can't even begin to imagine all our moments. We'll be so playful and foolish inside the house, but when we come outside, we'll be as serious as every other couple you see. Always wanting to get done with whatever and head back home to each other....Just to bond and play. It can result in sex or not. We will however still be satisfied. Cuz we have each other around.

Try new things. Be less conventional, but if that works for your wife as a guy, then carry on. If it's not working, then try methods as I've said in more ways than none.

Omo, real love is sweet. Know who you a marrying before you marry them oh! It's harder to change them once you're already married. But there is still hope for those of you who already married that person. If communication fails you, then use you creative mind and make her feel you're irresistible. Even though you annoy her or she annoys you outside the house, when you are both alone, make the atmosphere comfortable and welcoming. You'll be less tempted to cheat outside.
Marry who you can be yourself with! And who is fluid. It cuts all these problems by half.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by BABANGBALI: 10:58am On Dec 10, 2021
Discuss with her and let her know the implications, tell her that if anything happens, she is the causer


Mynd44 how far now?
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Donbayor: 10:59am On Dec 10, 2021
MacANDIES:


Bro be scared, marriage is highly overrated. Sometimes I wish I wasn't married.
Huh? Is it really up to that? But Some say it's a beautiful thing
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Mitishi: 11:05am On Dec 10, 2021
Preshieben:
let me be ya side chick..
I make my own money,so keep yours
I just like it with people's husband grin



Drop your number
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by lereinter(m): 11:09am On Dec 10, 2021
Gaggii:


She was not like that before marriage

Wetin come happen

Maybe she get money more than you

If a godless woman start making money, she turn herself to kinkong

Begin to deny husband his rights

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Lorayne(m): 11:12am On Dec 10, 2021
ahnie:
What of me that hasn't had sex close to a year?
wow.... How do you cope? Is it that you re no longer attracted to your spouse?
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by tpapi: 11:13am On Dec 10, 2021
Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping
cal this lady 0703 767 2306, she sells gorontula syrup for couples, if she can agree to take the syrup and you also take the syrup, you wil see the difference in the sex life of your marriage
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by lereinter(m): 11:15am On Dec 10, 2021
franchasng:
If your wife starves you of sex, as a married man myself, I can boldly tell you that she is either not so attracted to you or she doesn't love you that much.


My own wife is hot, classy and too busy, yet she chases me around with it. I am even the one that tries to convince her that we dont need to make it a too frequent stuff so we both don't get tired of it with time, and to also give me time to concentrate on my numerous other engagements.



Any married man that his wife is starving of sex should know that three things are involved;

1) she is not so attracted to you the husband

2) she is falling out of love with you for some underlying reasons you need to find out.


3) she is seeing someone else or planning to


I concur with you

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by ahnie: 11:20am On Dec 10, 2021
Lorayne:
wow.... How do you cope? Is it that you re no longer attracted to your spouse?
Team sex is meant for procreation grin

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by mkpologwu(m): 11:21am On Dec 10, 2021
Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

@bolded, your greatest worry should be STIs and STDs. Financial commitment shouldn't be an issue because sex is very cheap these days.

The best option is to assume you're not married, and she owes you nothing. Just leave like she doesn't exist.
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by dahme147(m): 11:23am On Dec 10, 2021
delzbaba:
Its because u are always trying to do it at night, try her early in the morning around 4 am


Coming from a pro.....i hail oooo grin

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Jfkitchen123(m): 11:24am On Dec 10, 2021
Loreettaa:

If you expect your wife to be and do all these, the least you can do is to help out in whichever way, except its not a wife you married, but a house maid.
Funny enough we are self employed and do everything together always together... even to house chores and taking care of our baby we do everything together
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Lorayne(m): 11:24am On Dec 10, 2021
ahnie:

Team sex is meant for procreation grin

Lol.... Be deceiving yourself

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Jfkitchen123(m): 11:25am On Dec 10, 2021
In my case 1 round in a whole week!
Sometimes 2 weeks!
Sirsesan:
First, nothing is wrong with masturbation. You need discipline. You cant separate the discipline needed for masturbation from discipline needed in other areas of your life. Don't let religion define your happiness. accept yourself.
Secondly, how do u define sex starvation. How many times does she give u in a week. If she can give u twice, i don't think you're starving. You just need discipline and adjustment
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Kingjames(m): 11:26am On Dec 10, 2021
my method even with girlfriends

snake language translator with chicken brain
chigomiced:



emmaodet:


Lol

My wife started trying this bullshit with me early this year. Our sex life dropped to the lowest low.
It became very boring, predictable, same old missionary style, unromantic.
Tried spicing things up but it seems the more I try, the lesser she became interested.
It was now looking as if she is using the sex thing to manipulate me.
Asked her why she is not always in the mood despite my romance and efforts to spice things up and it is now looking as if I am the one that likes sex too much. She quickly placed the pressure more on me by saying it is my duty to try as much as possible to bring her into the mood. Can you imagine? Despite all my efforts, it is still my fault.
I know a lot of Hot simps will say I no dey do am we’ll say another man go knack my wife take her to cloud 9.
I kuku ma drop everything thing. Lost interest in her. She became a turn off to me.
I traveled for 2 months, came back home and will still travel another 3 months after staying 1 month at home yet you are not sexually excited seeing me and still getting turn off.
From January this year to may, we only touched ourselves just 4 boring times. When I came back hom July, didn’t even noticed her. I don’t even get romanced or my thing getting raised seeing her.
She became worried that it seems am seeing someone outside. En en and so?
Tbh, I was seeing a lady who was doing all her best to have me. Mind blowing sex while my wife they do like log of wood for house.
Na person wey no get option woman fit dey manipulate with sex.
After some time, she started crying that I don’t love her again blah blah blah. Asked what is the problem and I told her point blank I have lost interest in her that I don’t find her romantic anymore.
She knew the house is on fire. Started praying midnight that holy ghost should destroy every woman that wants to destroy her home, distracting her hubby attention blah blah blah.
To cut long story short, our sex life changed after then, became highly erotic with different innovations and then deep down me, I started thinking if this is the same woman who had been acting soooo Boring months ago?


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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by ahnie: 11:26am On Dec 10, 2021
Hey I m not joking.
Lorayne:


Lol.... Be deceiving yourself
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 11:28am On Dec 10, 2021
franchasng:
If your wife starves you of sex, as a married man myself, I can boldly tell you that she is either not so attracted to you or she doesn't love you that much.


My own wife is hot, classy and too busy, yet she chases me around with it. I am even the one that tries to convince her that we dont need to make it a too frequent stuff so we both don't get tired of it with time, and to also give me time to concentrate on my numerous other engagements.



Any married man that his wife is starving of sex should know that three things are involved;

1) she is not so attracted to you the husband

2) she is falling out of love with you for some underlying reasons you need to find out.


3) she is seeing someone else or planning to

Facts only.
Every married man should read this post.
Reason 2 is the most popular cos women are turned on emotionally, not physically. If they're pissed off wt U about something, they could fake smiles wt U to keep the peace, but they can't fake a sexual attraction.

Now the problem is getting to the root of what U did or what Ur family member or friend did dt might be upsetting her. Women pretend a lot.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by samonak(m): 11:29am On Dec 10, 2021
Preshieben:
Ehn

What kind of deliverance? cheesy
Physical and spiritual, especially this:

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Lorayne(m): 11:29am On Dec 10, 2021
ahnie:
Hey I m not joking.
Seriously? ...... Were you always not that interested in sex or it was after your marriage? And do you bother if your husband is getting it elsewhere?
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Jfkitchen123(m): 11:33am On Dec 10, 2021
4am that she will wake 5am to get the kids ready for school ?
dahme147:



Coming from a pro.....i hail oooo grin
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Snakedoctor1: 11:34am On Dec 10, 2021
Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

I have really been praying for God to help us; the worst us that they don't realize how often a man needs this. May God help us remain resilient. Me I just need to maintain my relationship with God.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by dinomcjohn: 11:38am On Dec 10, 2021
Never masturbate. Never! And to think that you are doing it while married?!!!! What? Grossly unacceptable. Some things should never happen. This is one of them. Pls stop it right away. Talk to your wife and tell her this will not happen again. Why would a wife deny her husband sex? Be a man. Have sex, good sec. Never masturbate!

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Snakedoctor1: 11:39am On Dec 10, 2021
Leaforever:


Facts only.
Every married man should read this post.
Reason 2 is the most popular cos women are turned on emotionally, not physically. If they're pissed off wt U about something, they could fake smiles wt U to keep the peace, but they can't fake a sexual attraction.

Now the problem is getting to the root of what U did or what Ur family member or friend did dt might be upsetting her. Women pretend a lot.
That post is economical with truth. Read various literature and do more research. What about the waning of libido as a woman age and make more kids? What about stress, physical and emotional. People just spew what they know little about. There are so many other factors that affect that.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by dinomcjohn: 11:39am On Dec 10, 2021
Never masturbate. Never! And to think that you are doing it while married?!!!! What? Grossly unacceptable. Some things should never happen. This is one of them. Pls stop it right away. Talk to your wife and tell her this will not happen again. Why would a wife deny her husband sex? Be a man. Have sex, good sex. Never masturbate!
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by seunmsg(m): 11:42am On Dec 10, 2021
Richashell:
We go outside. Mine is 4 years no sex. I have tried everything to make it work but she says no.

4 years no sex and you are still married? Are you very sure she is not getting it somewhere outside? Omo, things they happen o.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by ahnie: 11:45am On Dec 10, 2021
See how una carry Bleep matter for head.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by sylve11: 11:46am On Dec 10, 2021
Havesomesense:


Till you marry first.

Na small piken him be. sad cool

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by ahnie: 11:48am On Dec 10, 2021
seunmsg:


4 years no sex and you are still married? Are you very sure she is not getting it somewhere outside? Omo, things they happen o.
Not every woman is getting it outside.i planned staying 10 more years with having sex.mind you I m a very attractive woman.almst 1 year have not had sex,and m not bothered.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by clems88(m): 11:48am On Dec 10, 2021
Preshieben:
let me be ya side chick..
I make my own money,so keep yours
I just like it with people's husband grin
Op your case is settled o. See cheerful giver grin . You would spend a dime o. grin
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by OvertheTop(m): 11:49am On Dec 10, 2021
Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

ONE of the Biggest MYTH of Marriage is:

Just get Married and GET ALL THE SEX YOU WANT . ANY TIME YOU WANT IT!

its a BIG Lie....it could get look rosy in the First Few months....
but Gradually She will start to give you excuse for No sex (I'm Tired, Not Now, May be later, Na Free?, Buy me Something First, I'm Not in the Mood, Apologize to for ('something Not existent'), I'm Angry with you, so No sex)

Its Used as a Bargaining tool and Used as Punishments.

it dwindles from: Once a week....Once a Month....Once in 2 Months ….Once in 6 Months...etc..

its Worst after Children are Born.!

The Starvation is second to Non.

The Only Solution is: to Have Options (mostly not Accepted by the public) but the only way to solve the problem

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