I am 24years old, I have graduated and awaiting service, my boyfriend is a final year 400level student here in Oyo state, I really really love him and would love to marry him but I am so scared if we will work out, we have been dating for over 2years now, he loves me more than I love him but I am worried. I want to serve and work before I get married but people are putting pressure on me to get married but my bf is not ready yet, i keep feeling I am not a child anymore. Please ladies in the house please advise me on what to do, so I have time?��

Have a proper discussion with him..don't be left out..do you guys have plans to get married or you both are just clowning around?

We have plans to get married, I am considering my age, I am just very anxious and super scared

“he loves me more than I love him”
Reason why people always insult Nigerian girls.

Starere:
We have plans to get married, I am considering my age, I am just very anxious and super scared

Don't you know how to quote?
Pls next time kindly quote me directly..
So what you are saying is what exactly?
Why are you scared of your age?what's wrong with it?
Pls quote directly...

everythinggirly:
“he loves me more than I love him”
Reason why people always insult Nigerian girls.

I’m sorry what do you mean by this? I don’t get you

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Don't you know how to quote?
Pls next time kindly quote me directly..
So what you are saying is what exactly?
Why are you scared of your age?what's wrong with it?
Pls quote directly...

Sorry for not quoting you directly, it was a mistake. I mean he kinda has a long way to go considering he’s still in school. Please don’t get me wrong, I’m not breaking up with him, I just need to talk about how I feel, if I’m doing the right thing

Starere:

Sorry for not quoting you directly, it was a mistake. I mean he kinda has a long way to go considering he’s still in school. Please don’t get me wrong, I’m not breaking up with him, I just need to talk about how I feel, if I’m doing the right thing

The biggest mistake you are gonna make is allow pressure from family or people mislead you..you know what you want for yourself right?
Why not go for it?you love him and you guys plan on getting married.. pls and pls this is something you should talk to him about..
Sit him down and discuss things..you should put things into consideration before getting into marriage..get married once both of you deem it fit and understand yourself properly..don't be clueless aiit..

Now if I may..... You are not painting the full picture.

How old is your guy?

You will be going for service, I suppose.

But he is still in the pipeline of schooling, serving and making a living before he will be in a position to marry, this will take a mighty long time and your biological clock is ticking.... So it's obvious why you are having cold feet.

So here is my unbiased advice for you:


Keep your options open.

Women are built to be opportunist.

Men are idealistic.

So keep your options open.

Don't tie yourself down.

I guess you know what I mean.

FERNANDEZISBACK:

The biggest mistake you are gonna make is allow pressure from family or people mislead you..you know what you want for yourself right?
Why not go for it?you love him and you guys plan on getting married.. pls and pls this is something you should talk to him about..
Sit him down and discuss things..you should put things into consideration before getting into marriage..get married once both of you deem it fit and understand yourself properly..don't be clueless aiit..

thank you so much

Godada:

Godada:



Now if I may..... You are not painting the full picture.

How old is your guy?

You will be going for service, I suppose.

But he is still in the pipeline of schooling, serving and making a living before he will be in a position to marry, this will take a mighty long time and your biological clock is ticking.... So it's obvious why you are having cold feet.

So here is my unbiased advice for you:


Keep your options open.

Women are built to be opportunist.

Men are idealistic.

So keep your options open.

Don't tie yourself down.

I guess you know what I mean.

he’s just a year older than I am. Omo, you really understand me, you’ve said everything on my mind, this is exactly my worry. My clock ticks, I’m having serious cold feet because of that. I am so scared. Since I’ve been with him I’ve never given a chance to other guys, I don’t even want to think about being with other guys because it’ll break him and I love him too much to do that to him. I’m just caught in a “God help” situation. I really love this guy, I can’t imagine giving a chance or to be with someone else

Starere:
he’s just a year older than I am. Omo, you really understand me, you’ve said everything on my mind, this is exactly my worry. My clock ticks, I’m having serious cold feet because of that. I am so scared. Since I’ve been with him I’ve never given a chance to other guys, I don’t even want to think about being with other guys because it’ll break him and I love him too much to do that to him. I’m just caught in a “God help” situation. I really love this guy, I can’t imagine giving a chance or to be with someone else

I know.... I know.

But he may not be able to give you what you want.

Time is not his ally based on his relationship with you. It's just not feasible from both economy point of view or even a relationship point of view.

He can't give you what you want Darling.... Take it or leave it.

Better options abound when you are open.

My advice is cold. An advice I will give my daughter.... I see you as one.

Happiness is to be pursued.

All is fair in love and warfare.

Sorry dear, your boyfriend should just grow up.

Ladies who really wish to marry should learn to date a man not a fuckboy.

I have been there my dear. Age is really important for your own sake. Try to make yourself available, you can still see who loves you more or who you love more that is ready.

It is always good to be married earlier and have all your children before your 40th year to avoid gynea stories, if you know you know.

Godada:



I know.... I know.

But he may not be able to give you what you want.

Time is not his ally based on his relationship with you. It's just not feasible from both economy point of view or even a relationship point of view.

He can't give you what you want Darling.... Take it or leave it.

Better options abound when you are open.

My advice is cold. An advice I will give my daughter.... I see you as one.

Happiness is to be pursued.

All is fair in love and warfare.

Sorry dear, your boyfriend should just grow up.

Ladies who really wish to marry should learn to date a man not a fuckboy.

Thank you, this is so so sad, I’m tearing up right now, so so sad, my God

LUGBE:
I have been there my dear. Age is really important for your own sake. Try to make yourself available, you can still see who loves you more or who you love more that is ready.

It is always good to be married earlier and have all your children before your 40th year to avoid gynea stories, if you know you know.

I totally understand you, I really do

Starere:
Thank you, this is so so sad, I’m tearing up right now, so so sad, my God

You will get over it, kiddo.

Growing is pain.

It is what it is

Mr sister you both will support each other if you see a guy that cares stick it him
From the little one he manages with you
If the big one come you both will manage it too
So No one knows tomorrow

Starere:
I am 24years old, I have graduated and awaiting service, my boyfriend is a final year 400level student here in Oyo state, I really really love him and would love to marry him but I am so scared if we will work out, we have been dating for over 2years now, he loves me more than I love him but I am worried. I want to serve and work before I get married but people are putting pressure on me to get married but my bf is not ready yet, i keep feeling I am not a child anymore. Please ladies in the house please advise me on what to do, so I have time?��

Try and talk to him abt that, to know whether he serious and wants to marry u.

Don't put undue pressure on yourself.

Starere:
he’s just a year older than I am. Omo, you really understand me, you’ve said everything on my mind, this is exactly my worry. My clock ticks, I’m having serious cold feet because of that. I am so scared. Since I’ve been with him I’ve never given a chance to other guys, I don’t even want to think about being with other guys because it’ll break him and I love him too much to do that to him. I’m just caught in a “God help” situation. I really love this guy, I can’t imagine giving a chance or to be with someone else

If you genuinely love your boyfriend and you are certain that you guys will get married then you should wait for him. It will take time for you to find a man who you'll get to know and love (another 2 years) unless you marry the first available man (who you won't know or love but because you want to be married)

You're 24 and you're clock is a nowhere near ticking anything. You could give yourself and your relationship 4 years to run it's course. You should find a job and settle into your career path and then when you're 28 you'll be an asset in your relationship.

You should learn from other people's mistakes, here on nl you'll see threads where women got married for the sake of getting married, and after some kids their husband is cheating, and acting up, and they're stuck because they didn't invest in themselves.

You will see these same people who are watching your clock ask you "why didn't you work, why won't you an asset blah blah."

If you want to be with someone else all together and you don't see a future with your current boyfriend, then break it off and go out there and look. Reality is you could be looking for the next 2/3 years if you're looking for love and not just the "Mrs" title.

If you want to play the field and have some freedom and exercise your hoe phase then own it and do that but don't confuse yourself.