Please dear nairalanders, i need your opinion on this situation with a friend. My friend met this guy a while back. They had mutual friends but they never went past pleasentries. She had a nasty break-up with the former boyfriend and this guy came into the picture. He had probably heard from their mutual friends about her break up and the guy too just got dumped by his girlfriend. He went through a hard time trying to convince my friend of his affection and that he was ready to move on with a new person. After a while my friend decided to give him a try. The minute she agreed, the guy seemed happy to the moons. After a couple of weeks, he started acting funny claiming my friend reminds him so much of his ex-girlfriend and he doesnt want to continue with the relationship again to which my friend said it is ok. It was painful as she had developed some likeness for the guy.
The issue now is anytime my friend meets someone new and decides to move on with her life, this guy comes begging with apologies and promises to be a better person. He does all he can to break the new relationship and get my friends attention back to him. Once he gets this, he starts acting funny again saying he has not made up his mind on having a relationship with her. This has happened like 4times over the past 20months and he still saying he has not make up his mind. I really feel for my friend as i know she really likes the guy and i dont know what else to say to her, so please i need your advise.
N.B: serious advise only! thank you.

There is no advise she needs more than she should stop being foolish!

Uncle Reed jst said it all

Lord_Reed:

There is no advise she needs more than she should stop being foolish!

THATS ALL REED JEZ SAID IT ALL,

Thank you very much

ok .well said

no person:

Please dear nairalanders, i need your opinion on this situation with a friend. My friend met this guy a while back. They had mutual friends but they never went past pleasentries. She had a nasty break-up with the former boyfriend and this guy came into the picture. He had probably heard from their mutual friends about her break up and the guy too just got dumped by his girlfriend. He went through a hard time trying to convince my friend of his affection and that he was ready to move on with a new person. After a while my friend decided to give him a try. The minute she agreed, the guy seemed happy to the moons. After a couple of weeks, he started acting funny claiming my friend reminds him so much of his ex-girlfriend and he doesnt want to continue with the relationship again to which my friend said it is ok. It was painful as she had developed some likeness for the guy.
The issue now is anytime my friend meets someone new and decides to move on with her life, this guy comes begging with apologies and promises to be a better person. He does all he can to break the new relationship and get my friends attention back to him. Once he gets this, he starts acting funny again saying he has not made up his mind on having a relationship with her. This has happened like 4times over the past 20months and he still saying he has not make up his mind. I really feel for my friend as i know she really likes the guy and i dont know what else to say to her, so please i need your advise.
N.B: serious advise only! thank you.

QUESTION: Has your friend had se-x with this person?

Richvkunt:


QUESTION: Has your friend had se-x with this person?

She said they had kind of fooled around with touching, smooching and kissing. They tried the sex once but because she was a virgin, it was painful and he could not penetrate, so she asked him to stop. She started to bleed, so i guess he had penetration but they have not tried it again since then.

iice:

Confused people should stay away from each other. Find a not confused person so as to balance the equation. Sometimes sef, if we can actually reach into the head and knock some sense into it

no person:

She said they had kind of fooled around with touching, smooching and kissing. They tried the sex once but because she was a virgin, it was painful and he could not penetrate, so she asked him to stop. She started to bleed, so i guess he had penetration but they have not tried it again since then.

Sorry to keep asking questions,But how old are these two people?

There is no advise she needs more than she should stop being foolish!

Perfect Word.
your friend is a Masochist,don't advise her cuz she prolly knows what decision she's gonna take.let her learn from her own mistakes herself.

Richvkunt:

Sorry to keep asking questions,But how old are these two people?

16 and 15 i guess

This has happened four times and she still needs advise? She does not need it, instead she needs to be flogged

Richvkunt:

Sorry to keep asking questions,But how old are these two people?

She just turned 29, i believe the guy is older than her. She had lived a sheltered life all her life which is why i believe she is having this issue. The guy is matured and i know he is having his fun elsewhere. He knows she is naive and he is using that to his advantage. I had tried talking with the guy but he told me to mind my business

no person:

She said they had kind of fooled around with touching, smooching and kissing. They tried the sex once but because she was a virgin, it was painful and he could not penetrate, so she asked him to stop. She started to bleed, so i guess he had penetration but they have not tried it again since then.

ah!! they have definitely had sex, all this ones na story.

i think my advice will go to you the poster, why do u keep such a very very foolish girl as a friend, dont u think it will make u look stoopid? sorry i think u are also dumb for not having the answer before coming here with this problem

rubish!!

frank3.16:

ah!! they have definitely Were Intimate, all this ones na story.

i think my advice will go to you the poster, why do u keep such a very very foolish girl as a friend, dont u think it will make u look stoopid? sorry i think u are also dumb for not having the answer before coming here with this problem

rubish!!

I think it is past your bedtime, so u need to go and sleep. No one is charging u for your comment and i cant recall offering a reward for comments posted. If you cant give a simple advise without getting abusive, better just read other people's comments and enjoy the rest of your day.

no person:

I think it is past your bedtime, so u need to go and sleep. No one is charging u for your comment and i cant recall offering a reward for comments posted. If you cant give a simple advise without getting abusive, better just read other people's comments and enjoy the rest of your day.

i said it, birds of the same feathers

tellwisdom:

Sorry for this question oo, WAS THE SEX SWEET OR PAINFUL??

@OP

gibberish, childish acts, confused minds