pedestal82:

Yes I am married and I use condoms.
We use calendar method for contraception.
When ever she is on ovulation we use condoms, or state clear of sex.
My last child will be 3 on April 7th.

JonOfAustrlia:
oh that would be so crazy. Do some really do that ?

JonOfAustrlia:
My wife got pregnant again even with an IUD. We werent planning for it. As these babies are so small and require so much care already.

Its not like raising them in the village. We live abroad and we dont get help. It means we always have to be with them if not for daycare but then we are working. We are already so tired.


I dont know if I am venting or asking for advice. We are grateful but we are so tired already... what to do...?

Niiade:


You are a wise man, I dont understand how the OP had to depend on one means of contraceptive.
Considering you are meant to be very concerned about your sexual health as much as hers, what happened to checking up her circle and safe periods, condoms and spermicide. You cant just be having sex as much as you want it because you are married haba when its not like teenagers that are just meeting for the first and you know the stress and toll its taking on both of you and you guys continue without considering using as many safe options as possible.


Married men use condoms and others means to ensure they stick to the plan they have for their famiies, you are endangering your wife's health please take good of your wife and your kids very well and you cant complain about the stress and more stress coming because you made the decision and here are the consequences.

Lets say your wife is emotional and wants sex, you should be logical to know how to protect yourself extensively from getting her pregnant, you are already expecting please wise up before its baby number 4 next year. Enjoy i am sure you have the finance already thats why its not bothering you much, you go dey alright las las.

JonOfAustrlia:
My wife got pregnant again even with an IUD. We werent planning for it. As these babies are so small and require so much care already.

Its not like raising them in the village. We live abroad and we dont get help. It means we always have to be with them if not for daycare but then we are working. We are already so tired.

You shd have opted for abstainence a little to give her time.




I dont know if I am venting or asking for advice. We are grateful but we are so tired already... what to do...?

JonOfAustrlia:
wow!! This is smart. So only condoms during ovulation right?

SoapQueen:


So, it's okay for women to be loading their bodies with IUDs and birth control pills?

Wow.

JonOfAustrlia:
My wife got pregnant again even with an IUD. We werent planning for it. As these babies are so small and require so much care already.

Its not like raising them in the village. We live abroad and we dont get help. It means we always have to be with them if not for daycare but then we are working. We are already so tired.


I dont know if I am venting or asking for advice. We are grateful but we are so tired already... what to do...?

sync:
Go for vasectomy

JonOfAustrlia:
what? Ur statistics are off or I miss understood

Munzy14:

I hate this...Condom or withdrawal...

Vasectomy is somehow.

JonOfAustrlia:
My wife got pregnant again even with an IUD. We werent planning for it. As these babies are so small and require so much care already.

Its not like raising them in the village. We live abroad and we dont get help. It means we always have to be with them if not for daycare but then we are working. We are already so tired.


I dont know if I am venting or asking for advice. We are grateful but we are so tired already... what to do...?

bepositive11:
Are condoms as effective as vasectomy? Your comments says so

JonOfAustrlia:
My wife got pregnant again even with an IUD. We werent planning for it. As these babies are so small and require so much care already.

Its not like raising them in the village. We live abroad and we dont get help. It means we always have to be with them if not for daycare but then we are working. We are already so tired.


I dont know if I am venting or asking for advice. We are grateful but we are so tired already... what to do...?

Kemetals:
My Brother don't get tired! as far as there is life there is always a way out. Kids are blessing. Don't regret a bit. A lot are praying to be on your condition. I understood the problem involves especially in abroad. I'd been in your shoe. I lived in abroad for almost 11 years i.e. both in Sweden and Scotland. In Sweden and Norway and most of the European countries your wife is entitled for a minimum of up to 6 months maternity leave with pay. as a husband you are entitle for paternity leave too. if this leave not enough then consider either you or your wife quitting from your job for a while to take care of the kids.. You can as well invite your mum or relative to come over to assist since paying for a nanny in abroad involves a lot of money. Thank God there are some stipends been paid for kids in most of the developed nation as far as you are staying legally.
i hope this advise could help

Ishilove:
The space between your kids are 9 months

Itamprince89:
Enjoy the moment brother

tsmith:


I totally feel you with 2 soon becoming 3 kids young age kids abroad. Had 2 kids under 20months and know the hell 8t can be �, but there comes a time when it'd be worth it.

How many kids did you guys plan to have? If more than 2 then keep the pregnancy.

If just 2 or you desperately need some respite then abort the baby. It's legal, safe etc

If you keep it, then you'd need to realise you can't eat your cake and still keep it. One of you (the one with lower income) may need to resign and look after the kids full time until they're all in school. The one working should know that the earning isn't one persons, it's for both and the family. Never undermine the non working parents contributions and seek to still help out at home.

In the very near future when the kids are lil grown, share similar interests etc plus passing clothes, books etc down makes economic sense for you. (Unless you're unlucky like me when younger one is as big as elder brother, so no savings there�)

Ultimately, you'd be glad you saw through the stress. Good thing too is as the kids grow, both parents can then get to prioritise themselves again, get their bodies, careers, romance etc back.

JonOfAustrlia:
My wife got pregnant again even with an IUD. We werent planning for it. As these babies are so small and require so much care already.

Its not like raising them in the village. We live abroad and we dont get help. It means we always have to be with them if not for daycare but then we are working. We are already so tired.


I dont know if I am venting or asking for advice. We are grateful but we are so tired already... what to do...?

JonOfAustrlia:
My wife got pregnant again even with an IUD. We werent planning for it. As these babies are so small and require so much care already.

Its not like raising them in the village. We live abroad and we dont get help. It means we always have to be with them if not for daycare but then we are working. We are already so tired.


I dont know if I am venting or asking for advice. We are grateful but we are so tired already... what to do...?