questionanswer:


Yes, I understand. It could have better and easier if my father was able to share the properties but he couldn't.


Now, they are taking over those things now without allowing my father to get involved anymore. I'm not sure it's right too.

I wish it could be shared accordingly

They just want to take over everything as the man is late now. Not sure it's right..

When ur late father took everything, u were sure it right abi?

TheOldGods:
even if they share the money, it can never be 50 50. He lost it when his father didn't share it when he was alive. He has no stronger say than his brothers because the father's brothers are the immediate offspring to their grandfather, and it's the second son now, who has the final say and never the son.

questionanswer:
Hi everyone,

My father happened to be the first son of my grandfather who automatically inherit his lands and other properties.

My father just died and since I'm the first son of my father. Which means I'm automatically inherit and in charge of those inheritance.

Now my uncles are all ganging up against me. These guys not allowing me to do the burial of my father who passed away for a while now.

They keep giving different excuses on why the burial will not hold.

They gang up and cancel the burial i fixed previously and I lost everything. All what I spent for the burial arrangements was wasted.

I really want to charge them for this.

They are using the influence that if they are not in support the burial will not hold.

These uncles has really fustrate me and I keep spending money and wasting my precious time traveling back to the village for series of meetings just to please them.

Yet they're not approving my burying my father. Not like they are giving me any money for the burial. I'm the one handling it yet they no gree.

They said i cannot inherit the grandfather and my father's properties..so I cannot do my father burial. And these are for their own selfish motives.

The Kingsman and the king supports me and has cautious the uncles to desease from such. But yet they still persist.

I have tried to make peace and peace with them as family concern but yet they are all still ganging up. And wow to fustrate me.

Now my patience has ruined out. I'm in mood for actions now.

I want to take matter higher than the community level with them now.

I'm thinking taking them to court now. But I don't know the process.

I'm seeking for the right direction i can take to solve such issue.

Thank you so much �

questionanswer:
Hi everyone,

My father happened to be the first son of my grandfather who automatically inherit his lands and other properties.

My father just died and since I'm the first son of my father. Which means I'm automatically inherit and in charge of those inheritance.

Now my uncles are all ganging up against me. These guys not allowing me to do the burial of my father who passed away for a while now.

They keep giving different excuses on why the burial will not hold.

They gang up and cancel the burial i fixed previously and I lost everything. All what I spent for the burial arrangements was wasted.

I really want to charge them for this.

They are using the influence that if they are not in support the burial will not hold.

These uncles has really fustrate me and I keep spending money and wasting my precious time traveling back to the village for series of meetings just to please them.

Yet they're not approving my burying my father. Not like they are giving me any money for the burial. I'm the one handling it yet they no gree.

They said i cannot inherit the grandfather and my father's properties..so I cannot do my father burial. And these are for their own selfish motives.

The Kingsman and the king supports me and has cautious the uncles to desease from such. But yet they still persist.

I have tried to make peace and peace with them as family concern but yet they are all still ganging up. And wow to fustrate me.

Now my patience has ruined out. I'm in mood for actions now.

I want to take matter higher than the community level with them now.

I'm thinking taking them to court now. But I don't know the process.

I'm seeking for the right direction i can take to solve such issue.

Thank you so much �

questionanswer:
Hi everyone,

My father happened to be the first son of my grandfather who automatically inherit his lands and other properties.

My father just died and since I'm the first son of my father. Which means I'm automatically inherit and in charge of those inheritance.

Now my uncles are all ganging up against me. These guys not allowing me to do the burial of my father who passed away for a while now.

They keep giving different excuses on why the burial will not hold.

They gang up and cancel the burial i fixed previously and I lost everything. All what I spent for the burial arrangements was wasted.

I really want to charge them for this.

They are using the influence that if they are not in support the burial will not hold.

These uncles has really fustrate me and I keep spending money and wasting my precious time traveling back to the village for series of meetings just to please them.

Yet they're not approving my burying my father. Not like they are giving me any money for the burial. I'm the one handling it yet they no gree.

They said i cannot inherit the grandfather and my father's properties..so I cannot do my father burial. And these are for their own selfish motives.

The Kingsman and the king supports me and has cautious the uncles to desease from such. But yet they still persist.

I have tried to make peace and peace with them as family concern but yet they are all still ganging up. And wow to fustrate me.

Now my patience has ruined out. I'm in mood for actions now.

I want to take matter higher than the community level with them now.

I'm thinking taking them to court now. But I don't know the process.

I'm seeking for the right direction i can take to solve such issue.

Thank you so much �

questionanswer:


Yes, I understand. It could have better and easier if my father was able to share the properties but he couldn't.


Now, they are taking over those things now without allowing my father to get involved anymore. I'm not sure it's right too.

I wish it could be shared accordingly

They just want to take over everything as the man is late now. Not sure it's right.

questionanswer:


Yes, I understand. It could have better and easier if my father was able to share the properties but he couldn't.


Now, they are taking over those things now without allowing my father to get involved anymore. I'm not sure it's right too.

I wish it could be shared accordingly

They just want to take over everything as the man is late now. Not sure it's right.

yanabasee:
OP....


You have to understand that the properties must be shared....


And they have their right to decide as well... Before the deceased became your father, he was first and foremost their brothers.... And you can't change that ....


And it's your grandfather's properties which also belongs to them... Your Uncle have right to their father's properties....

You've refused to tell us the content of all the meetings you've had with your uncle's and what their plea is...

Are they asking you to share the properties equally or give them a share of it?

I will say that you share it according to their demands.... The left over ones, you share it with your siblings .. and know where your own properties are.... And everyone will be at peace....

You sound like you're well to do... So why dragging properties with your elders?

You don't know that what killed your father can easily kill you too? Do you even know if your uncles have a hand in it?

frozen70:


You are taking it too far

It still remains that he must share it for his own peace and safety

Which ever way and manner it will be done the formula will come out

questionanswer:
Hi everyone,

My father happened to be the first son of my grandfather who automatically inherit his lands and other properties.

My father just died and since I'm the first son of my father. Which means I'm automatically inherit and in charge of those inheritance.

Now my uncles are all ganging up against me. These guys not allowing me to do the burial of my father who passed away for a while now.

They keep giving different excuses on why the burial will not hold.

They gang up and cancel the burial i fixed previously and I lost everything. All what I spent for the burial arrangements was wasted.

I really want to charge them for this.

They are using the influence that if they are not in support the burial will not hold.

These uncles has really fustrate me and I keep spending money and wasting my precious time traveling back to the village for series of meetings just to please them.

Yet they're not approving my burying my father. Not like they are giving me any money for the burial. I'm the one handling it yet they no gree.

They said i cannot inherit the grandfather and my father's properties..so I cannot do my father burial. And these are for their own selfish motives.

The Kingsman and the king supports me and has cautious the uncles to desease from such. But yet they still persist.

I have tried to make peace and peace with them as family concern but yet they are all still ganging up. And wow to fustrate me.

Now my patience has ruined out. I'm in mood for actions now.

I want to take matter higher than the community level with them now.

I'm thinking taking them to court now. But I don't know the process.

I'm seeking for the right direction i can take to solve such issue.

Thank you so much �

questionanswer:
Hi everyone,

My father happened to be the first son of my grandfather who automatically inherit his lands and other properties.

My father just died and since I'm the first son of my father. Which means I'm automatically inherit and in charge of those inheritance.

Now my uncles are all ganging up against me. These guys not allowing me to do the burial of my father who passed away for a while now.

They keep giving different excuses on why the burial will not hold.

They gang up and cancel the burial i fixed previously and I lost everything. All what I spent for the burial arrangements was wasted.

I really want to charge them for this.

They are using the influence that if they are not in support the burial will not hold.

These uncles has really fustrate me and I keep spending money and wasting my precious time traveling back to the village for series of meetings just to please them.

Yet they're not approving my burying my father. Not like they are giving me any money for the burial. I'm the one handling it yet they no gree.

They said i cannot inherit the grandfather and my father's properties..so I cannot do my father burial. And these are for their own selfish motives.

The Kingsman and the king supports me and has cautious the uncles to desease from such. But yet they still persist.

I have tried to make peace and peace with them as family concern but yet they are all still ganging up. And wow to fustrate me.

Now my patience has ruined out. I'm in mood for actions now.

I want to take matter higher than the community level with them now.

I'm thinking taking them to court now. But I don't know the process.

I'm seeking for the right direction i can take to solve such issue.

Thank you so much �

JONNYSPUTE:
......

If you are taking them to court,then do so on the basis that they are stopping you from burying your late father and let them tell the court their reasons.

questionanswer:
Hi everyone,

My father happened to be the first son of my grandfather who automatically inherit his lands and other properties.

My father just died and since I'm the first son of my father. Which means I'm automatically inherit and in charge of those inheritance.

Now my uncles are all ganging up against me. These guys not allowing me to do the burial of my father who passed away for a while now.

They keep giving different excuses on why the burial will not hold.

They gang up and cancel the burial i fixed previously and I lost everything. All what I spent for the burial arrangements was wasted.

I really want to charge them for this.

They are using the influence that if they are not in support the burial will not hold.

These uncles has really fustrate me and I keep spending money and wasting my precious time traveling back to the village for series of meetings just to please them.

Yet they're not approving my burying my father. Not like they are giving me any money for the burial. I'm the one handling it yet they no gree.

They said i cannot inherit the grandfather and my father's properties..so I cannot do my father burial. And these are for their own selfish motives.

The Kingsman and the king supports me and has cautious the uncles to desease from such. But yet they still persist.

I have tried to make peace and peace with them as family concern but yet they are all still ganging up. And wow to fustrate me.

Now my patience has ruined out. I'm in mood for actions now.

I want to take matter higher than the community level with them now.

I'm thinking taking them to court now. But I don't know the process.

I'm seeking for the right direction i can take to solve such issue.

Thank you so much �

questionanswer:
Hi everyone,

My father happened to be the first son of my grandfather who automatically inherit his lands and other properties.

My father just died and since I'm the first son of my father. Which means I'm automatically inherit and in charge of those inheritance.

here's THE MESSAGE from THE GOD'S
Fix your father mistake why you can... agree for them to share the properties...

Or you will in the opinion of elders be playing with your life.

Now my uncles are all ganging up against me. These guys not allowing me to do the burial of my father who passed away for a while now.

They keep giving different excuses on why the burial will not hold.

They gang up and cancel the burial i fixed previously and I lost everything. All what I spent for the burial arrangements was wasted.

I really want to charge them for this.

They are using the influence that if they are not in support the burial will not hold.

These uncles has really fustrate me and I keep spending money and wasting my precious time traveling back to the village for series of meetings just to please them.

Yet they're not approving my burying my father. Not like they are giving me any money for the burial. I'm the one handling it yet they no gree.

They said i cannot inherit the grandfather and my father's properties..so I cannot do my father burial. And these are for their own selfish motives.

The Kingsman and the king supports me and has cautious the uncles to desease from such. But yet they still persist.

I have tried to make peace and peace with them as family concern but yet they are all still ganging up. And wow to fustrate me.

Now my patience has ruined out. I'm in mood for actions now.

I want to take matter higher than the community level with them now.

I'm thinking taking them to court now. But I don't know the process.

I'm seeking for the right direction i can take to solve such issue.

Thank you so much �

Hychineson:
I was in your shoe. No matter what you are the 1st son of the family. If ur father was a king , who becomes the king after him? Of course it’s you. Be a man, fix ur dad’s burial, make an entry in the police, get security, anybody that stops u should be taken behind bars.

Niom:
If you take them to court, it will delay the burial process as you won't be able to do the burial until court passes judgement.

Since you have the backings of the chief and elders of you village, Ignore your uncles....

Fix a date, and get some Army to secure the compound from vigil till the burial is conducted.

Also, meet the youth leader of your community and make sure they have whatever they need to make the burial a success.

This was exactly what I did when my uncle & his usele$$ son (who has hand in my father's death) vowed I was not going to bury my late father in his own house he built ooo... That he would be buried in the bush.

Yours is even better that your Chief supports you to go ahead with the burial.

In my case, my community Chief objected to my late fathers burial and sent a message to me, that i should come and do some traditional nonsense before i can bury my father else he won't attend and I will face the repercussions.

So the chief, my uncle and his son were against the burial......

I got angry and prepared for them...

I ignored them and later fixed another date for the burial.

I got army, and engaged the community youths who stood solidly by me throughout the burial because my face show for the community...

The youths of my commilunity even passed a message that anyone who misbehaves will be treated accordingly.

This was how o was able to do my father's burial without anyone coughing...

Even my uncle was quiet throughout the burial and his troublesome son didn't come. My community chief didn't attend the burial also and he respected himself not to try any nonsense....

The burial of my late popsman since 2019 in my community in Ika LGA, of Akwa Ibom State, still remains the best till date...

Because of the way everything was organized with army walking round the compound looking for whom to use as scapegoat, youths blazing their weed till down....

If them dey give award for burial, I for collect one....

questionanswer:


Yes, I understand. It could have better and easier if my father was able to share the properties but he couldn't.


Now, they are taking over those things now without allowing my father to get involved anymore. I'm not sure it's right too.

I wish it could be shared accordingly

They just want to take over everything as the man is late now. Not sure it's right.

shantti:


U just cap shit about the inheritance stuff. I assume u are Igbo. Let me educate u.

Ur grandfather's lands and properties belongs to ur father and his siblings. It would be shred equally, ur dad as the first son only gets to inherit the obi to ensure its maintenance.

Now that your father, the head of your grandfather's family is dead, the new head of this family is the second son. This second son automatically owns the obi since your dad did not pass it down to u, I even doubt if his siblings left the obi for him. This second son in now in charge of the lands and properties and not u. Assuming your grandfathers lands and properties have been shared between his sons, them u get to control your father's portion.

stinflame:


A big mistake your Old man did... My old man was about doing that, he claimed they are family. I personally went and warned him to go divide what so ever is left of their grandfather accordingly and let it be on record.
Since the mess have been done, young man no put your hands for watin Elder involve. It doesn't cost them anything to waste you and get you buried close to your dad. Leave everything and let them give you if they feel it's right.
If i am non judgemental all waiting until dey fight for no go pass 200million. Leave it for them ,work and gain more than that.

chatinent:
1. I don't know your tribe but I suspect Igbo.

questionanswer:
Hi everyone,

My father happened to be the first son of my grandfather who automatically inherit his lands and other properties.

questionanswer:
They said i cannot inherit the grandfather and my father's properties..so I cannot do my father burial. And these are for their own selfish motives.

questionanswer:
I want to take matter higher than the community level with them now.

chatinent:
1. I don't know your tribe but I suspect Igbo.

grandstar:
questionanswer
My late dad was polygamous and had 3 wives and my mum was the first wife. They married in a church. The other wives were mistresses who he turned to wives due to "unwanted pregnancies" and wanting to do the right thing.

2 years ago, my dad's house was rented out and we decided to share ₦1.5m among the 3 wives.

Now, I am close to a cousin of the 2nd wife who is Igbo and he said that since my mother was the first wife, our line should get double portion of what the other wives get. He said that was the custom.

When I informed my older sister who is my dad's firstborn, she did not accept it. She said it should be split equally amongst all the wives and that is what was done. I was actually relieved when she came up with that. Though my dad is now deceased, we all live peacefully without rancor.

Now, customs and traditions were made for man and not man for customs and traditions. Even if your uncles are greedy, is it fair that you inherit all your grandfather and "father's" property alone? I wrote "father's" as some of your father's present properties were those inherited from your grandfather. It is better to be fair and not tradition rigid.

I am sure your greedy uncles too have problems and responsibilities to. They are also your grandfather's offsprings. It is better to be fair than stick to a custom that ignores the rights that other children should have.

I could have objected to my sister's suggestion. I have the right to. My stepmother would go ahead with whatever my sister said, whether they like it or not. They may go ahead with it but there'll be resentment which won't be voiced out. The freeness of speech which we all enjoy amongst ourselves today would be gone.

I would advise that you prove your right to be the firstborn of your dad, not by a feeling of entitlement, but rather, by being fair to all.

Property that your father built or acquired through his sweat should be off the table. That's not negotiable but your grandfather's properties should be the issue here.

You also need to be fair to your siblings regarding what your dad left behind. You'd be setting a precedent in the community.