Hello everyone, please I need urgent advise cos my relationship might be crumbling and it will be entirely my fault.

My fiancée spent the night at my place and caught me maturating. I was so engrossed in the act that I didn't know she's been watching until she made some sounds as if turning on the bed. I quickly stopped and put on my boxers properly hoping she didn't see it, and just continued pressing my phone as if I was surfing the net while she was just staring at me like a ghost. I even kept pointing my phone's screen to her face for like 3 intervals to see if she has gone back to sleep but in all the times her eyes were wide opened staring at me. I finally dropped the phone and went to sleep till the next morning.

We woke up normally the next day and acted all cool with each other throughout the day until she confronted me last night asking me what I was doing and why, cos according to her she would have gladly obliged me if I wanted sex. She even alleged that she noticed I always don't want to be intimate with her at night but instead prefer to sleep alone. I tried denying with a silly excuse (I know it sounds stupid but that was the only thing my brain could conjure at that moment) that I wasn't maturating, rather I was doing a routine penis enlargement procedure I was watching online, but she insisted saying she has been noticing it some other nights but she's was not always sure if it's real or just her mind playing pranks with her. However this time, she has caught me red handed.

I finally resorted to shouting at her angrily, it was at that point she stopped talking and started crying. Later on she started muttering something to herself as if praying and she kept doing that while I slept on in silence. I didn't even know how or when I finally slept off.

My challenge now is how I should handle the issue, cos she has still been acting all cool as if nothing happened even when I left home without saying a word to her, or even letting her know I when I was leaving, but she has called me twice today and spoken normal as if she is not angry or bothered about what transpired last night.

Please I need just your advice, no insults.

Thank you.

Hahaha, wahala be like soapy, e no dey stop

You getting angry shows that you are not ready to admit that you have a problem, u have to admit it has become an addiction and a problem before u can get help. She might be one of the few people that can help you. Free ur mind from the shackles!

It's not a big deal, don't act like it is by denying it. Why you sef come dey shout for her. Do you know is if she also masturbates?

It's better you admitted you were self servicing than trying to grow your dick. Why? The former would make her a little insecure about her attractiveness to you, and she would up her game in pleasing you. The latter would make her feel you are insecure about your D size and she'll loose attraction for you, she may begin to question if she made a right choice for a partner.

Just give her what she wants

Damnnn niggar
Maybe she is not sexually attractive

But masturbating is not a problem..masturbating is very good

The only bad thing here is that you were not supposed to do it when she is around you...

asoebi:

She is, just that I have been masturbating even before we met and haven't been able to stop.

Just apologise...and next time do it only when she is not around....because doing it when she is around means you are saying she is not sexually attractive
And if you want to stop or limit it...then have this mentality of not seeing Masturbation as a bad thing...
You know one funny thing about Masturbation...when you stop seeing it as a bad thing then you will start to limit it without you knowing

The baby girl below my comment just dey shake table way men sit down put....Isoright

czarr:
It's not a big deal, don't act like it is by denying it.

Thanks.

I just don't know if it's really isn't. Even if it's not, should I just go back to her and tell her it's true and then what next?

If your fiance is like me, then it's over between us.
You have someone willing beside you and you opted for masturbation, definitely there's something wrong and you need help.

Hmmm...

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar

Maybe she is not sexually attractive

But masturbating is not a problem..masturbating is very good

The only bad thing here is that you were not supposed to do it when she is around you

She is, just that I have been masturbating even before we met and haven't been able to stop.

Ok

Magnoliaa:
You're clearly not fit for marriage yet.

Why did you conclude so, cos I'm masturbating?

na wao ,ya fiancee suppose Know say some guys they masturbate ,this suppose no ause issue,but it seems she ain't cool with it ,so I don know masturbate exclusively

Ask Naira Marley for help

asoebi:
Hello everyone, please I need urgent advise cos my relationship might be crumbling and it will be entirely my fault.

My fiancée spent the night at my place and caught me maturating. I was so engrossed in the act that I didn't know she's been watching until she made some sounds as if turning on the bed. I quickly stopped and put on my boxers properly hoping she didn't see it, and just continued pressing my phone as if I was surfing the net while she was just staring at me like a ghost. I even kept pointing my phone's screen to her face for like 3 intervals to see if she has gone back to sleep but in all the times her eyes were wide opened staring at me. I finally dropped the phone and went to sleep till the next morning.

A woman was right beside you yet you preferred touching yourself over having sex with her.... no be symptom of problem be that?

I really hope that gal stumbles on this post on nairaland. She better escape before she makes a big mistake.

Gambit1:
If your fiance is like me, then it's over between us.
You have someone willing beside you and you opted for masturbation, definitely there's something wrong and you need help.

Maybe there's something really wrong with me, and you're right I definitely need help starting from how to handle this present situation, saving my relationship and ultimately overcoming my weakness.

But you mean you'll really just end a 4 years old relationship like that?

It’s either you’re gay or her poosie ain’t sweet enough. Either ways it’s better you guys break up.

I can’t imagine a guy laying close to a sweet poosie and masturbating? Bro that pussy is f*cked up

asoebi:
Maybe there's something really wrong with me, and you're right I definitely need help starting from how to handle this present situation, saving my relationship and ultimately overcoming my weakness.

But you mean you'll really just end a 4 years old relationship like that?

Saving what relationship? You seem to be in a relationship with yourself instead and I hope that gal has figured that out right about now.

You definitely need help in the self discipline department.

Gambit1:
If your fiance is like me, then it's over between us.
You have someone willing beside you and you opted for masturbation, definitely there's something wrong and you need help.

enya go rest , ya p man fit dey soapy, almost all guys touch themselves , you better come in terms with this reality.

Wotoporiously speaking

“Lies and secrets, Op, they are like a cancer in the soul. They eat away what is good and leave only destruction behind.”

You was caught in the act, now man up and own your shit, this is not the time to start acting smart because as long as she don facebook you for the act it's a wrap bro, I suggest you have a deep one on one with her about your situation.

Wetin she know she don know and she no fit un-know am weda you choose to accept it or not.

Man up bro, las las what will be will be.

lecowas:
Hahaha, wahala be like soapy, e no dey stop

You getting angry shows that you are not ready to admit that you have a problem, u have to admit it has become an addiction and a problem before u can get help. She might be one of the few people that can help you. Free ur mind from the shackles!

you deserve a cold beer

Ballzproblemm:
na wao ,ya fiancee suppose Know say some guys they masturbate ,this suppose no ause issue,but it seems she ain't cool with it ,so I don know masturbate exclusively

You're saying this isn't a "me alone issue" and can anyone, I mean a lady who intends to marry you be cool with this?

asoebi:


You're saying this isn't a "me alone issue" and can anyone, I mean a lady who intends to marry you be cool with this?

see me see problem o,is it affecting your sexual performance?, is it affecting your productivity?, are you addicted to itif no ,then why you come they stress person ,I don't know the advice you seek ,but if it bothers you that much then stop. to me is not a big issue if your partner ain't cool with it is either you be more careful or you stop entirely

lecowas:
Hahaha, wahala be like soapy, e no dey stop

You getting angry shows that you are not ready to admit that you have a problem, u have to admit it has become an addiction and a problem before u can get help. She might be one of the few people that can help you. Free ur mind from the shackles!

Thanks. I fully admit it's a problem, my shouting then was just an involuntary defense so as not to appear weak. I'll try and discuss it with her and see how to get help. Infact how to face her or go about it is why I brought it here.

czarr:
It's not a big deal, don't act like it is by denying it. Why you sef come dey shout for her. Do you know is if she also masturbates?

It's better you admitted you were self servicing than trying to grow your dick. Why? The former would make her a little insecure about her attractiveness to you, and she would up her game in pleasing you. The latter would make her feel you are insecure about your D size and she'll loose attraction for you, she may begin to question if she made a right choice for a partner.

Thanks so much. I have also come to realize that lying was so silly of me, I hope I get a chance to right my wrong.

I know deep down that she's a lovely woman and sure does not deserve this, I also cannot afford to lose her.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Maybe she is not sexually attractive

But masturbating is not a problem..masturbating is very good

The only bad thing here is that you were not supposed to do it when she is around you...

Just apologise...and next time do it only when she is not around....because doing it when she is around means you are saying she is not sexually attractive
And if you want to stop or limit it...then have this mentality of not seeing Masturbation as a bad thing...
You know one funny thing about Masturbation...when you stop seeing it as a bad thing then you will start to limit it without you knowing

Your advise seems practical, thank you.

The problem is you admitting that you have issue, that's number one

If you accept you have issue with yourself and constant masturbation then the solution starts coming, this is a ft you do frequently that you even do it when you have a good sexy lady laying with you.

Secondly, you don't have to shout or try to be a yeye man when you are caught, nothing wrong in saying sorry, men do say sorry.

Thirdly, do have conversation with your lady in all aspect.

Thank you

Magnoliaa:
You're clearly not ready for marriage yet. In all ramifications. And I'm not surprised it's how it is with y'all young men of nowadays.

You are going to be sexually insatiable, definitely because you've had your fair share of copious pussíes to the point of being sexually addicted and daresay say I, abnormal.

This is why I advise young ladies of my gender. See the kind of wahala this son of Adam wants to bring into an innocent lady's life. Pornography and masturbation palava. I won't be surprised if you've been doing an*m*ls, too, because no normal man will not get aroused by the body of a woman. But because you've seen and done everything, penetrative sex is not satisfying to you men again and you're instead making use of your hands. Also endangering your health by rubbing all manners of nonsense on your priiks that in turn affect your fertility and sperm quality. If using hand no do you, you go definitely graduate to other sèx tòys. And subject an innocent, real babe to a life of competition with inanimate objects. You better leave her and go and nurse a lonely life like your fellow redpillers.

I spit on your gender as all y'all be doing is bringing troubles to womankind.

Madam you harsh o!

Anyways, rants received with thanks sha, I'll pick what can be picked.

Kobojunkie:
Saving what relationship? You seem to be in a relationship with yourself instead and I hope that gal has figured that out right about now.

You definitely need help in the self discipline department.

"Help in self discipline" Noted, I'll work on that too. Thank you.

Well apologize and move on

Ballzproblemm:
enya go rest , ya p man fit dey soapy, almost all guys touch themselves , you better come in terms with this reality.

This cracked me up really. Let's just leave her pal out in respect for our elders