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What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Iamzealousman: 6:39am On Aug 13, 2022
The subject has been heating me up for a long long long time.

Been shy as made me like a sub human.

Been shy as taking a lot of opportunities from me. I have lost jobs, friends, potential relationships etc.

Been shy as made me a regular customer with addictions e.g watching porn and masterbation and sometimes i visit betting shops losing a whole lot of money for no reason oo. Just to ensure I overcome been bored

Been shy as made me unproductive because I dwell most time on the fact that I am shy hating myself for this and not doing the right things at the right time always procrastinating etc.

Been shy as made look like a bad man even tho I have good intentions.

Been shy as taken my relationship with God to the nearest minimum. I feel so distant!

Been shy as made me careless

Been shy as put me into debt

Been shy has made me broke.

Been shy as made me hate myself AND NOT MADE ME LEAVE UP TO MY FULL POTENTIALS

Been shy is BAD.

Been shy really is BAD.

How do I stop been shy and really change my life for good.

Guys please I need help.

I do not have any friends I am most times always on my own.

I have lost good job because of this
Like I said earlier I am in debt as a result of this.

It's really sad and depressing. Sometimes at the edge of this frustration I do silly thing and have the bad thoughts.

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Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Nobody: 6:48am On Aug 13, 2022
Iamzealousman:
The subject has been hearing me up for a long long long time.

Been shy as made like a sub human.

Been shy as taking a lot of opportunities from me. I have lost jobs, friends, potential relationships etc.

Been shy as made me a regular customer with addictions e.g watching porn and masterbation and something visit betting shops losing a whole lot of money

Been shy as made me unproductive because I dwell most time on the fact that I am shy hating myself for this and not doing the right things at the right time always procrastinating etc.

Been shy as made look like a bad man even tho I have good intentions.

Been shy as taken my relationship with God to the nearest minimum. I feel so distant!

Been shy as made me careless

Been shy as put me into debt

Been shy as made me hate myself AND NOT MADE ME LEAVE UP TO MY FULL POTENTIALS

Been shy is BAD.

Been shy really is BAD.

How do I stop been shy and really change my life for good.

Guys please I need help.

I do not have any friends I am most times always on my own.

I have lost good job because of this
Like I said earlier I am in debt as a result of this.

It's really sad and depressing. Sometimes at the edge of this frustration I do silly thing and have the bad thoughts.






I don’t think been shy should make you engage in all you do, maybe you have low self esteem. I’m a very shy person and hardly warm up to strangers , I’m also a social introvert but I don’t engage in dirty acts.So it’s more of low self esteem, try to engage in productive things, excercise, stop your dirty habits and move closer to God and you shall bounce back and will be alright. Maybe you need few friends too since you are a man.

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Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by God1000(m): 6:48am On Aug 13, 2022
You can't change your personality bro, that's who you are.

I'm a bashful type too
Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Blupen(m): 6:54am On Aug 13, 2022
The power to change yourself is in your hands i was a very shy person before and it caused a lot of damages
but i decided to change my life
for starters remove that "shy" in your dictionary and keep telling yourself "i am confident" just start from here first
say it and believe it, you will then see how your energy will change within 30days.....
it's all about what we tell ourselves bro

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Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by jeromestarks: 7:50am On Aug 13, 2022
Get it together and get out if your shell if you want to achieve anything tangible in life.
You can't even serve God if you're shy.
Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by meobizy(f): 8:28am On Aug 13, 2022
Your own better. Being shy made me vote APC into power.
Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Autobot05: 4:47pm On Aug 13, 2022
Iamzealousman:
The subject has been heating me up for a long long long time.

Been shy as made me like a sub human.

Been shy as taking a lot of opportunities from me. I have lost jobs, friends, potential relationships etc.

Been shy as made me a regular customer with addictions e.g watching porn and masterbation and sometimes i visit betting shops losing a whole lot of money for no reason oo. Just to ensure I overcome been bored

Been shy as made me unproductive because I dwell most time on the fact that I am shy hating myself for this and not doing the right things at the right time always procrastinating etc.

Been shy as made look like a bad man even tho I have good intentions.

Been shy as taken my relationship with God to the nearest minimum. I feel so distant!

Been shy as made me careless

Been shy as put me into debt

Been shy has made me broke.

Been shy as made me hate myself AND NOT MADE ME LEAVE UP TO MY FULL POTENTIALS

Been shy is BAD.

Been shy really is BAD.

How do I stop been shy and really change my life for good.

Guys please I need help.

I do not have any friends I am most times always on my own.

I have lost good job because of this
Like I said earlier I am in debt as a result of this.

It's really sad and depressing. Sometimes at the edge of this frustration I do silly thing and have the bad thoughts.









You’re not alone ….. we are all here

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Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Rafiquie: 10:05am On Aug 14, 2022
A wise man once told me, "Our point of view creates our reality. When we are stuck in our beliefs, our reality becomes rigid, stagnant, and oppressive. We become bound to our attachments because we have lost our ability to recognize that we have a choice to be free of them."

What you accept of yourself is what you are, you have a billion other choices.

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Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Nobody: 12:40pm On Aug 14, 2022
Absolutely NOTHING. The sooner you snap out of that terrible state the better for your mental and physical health. Else you would be on the wide path of depression and probably suicide in the end.
Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Adeling(m): 1:23pm On Aug 14, 2022
You're definitely an introvert that's for sure.

The fact that you're shy doesn't give you enough latitude to do the things you do. You need to work on that.

I'm a shy person my self and barely talk to people in real life. There're billionaires who are shy too and would do anything to avoid the crowd.

Turn your shyness to sth positive
Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Streetmovement(m): 1:38pm On Aug 14, 2022
Rafiquie:
A wise man once told me, "Our point of view creates our reality. When we are stuck in our beliefs, our reality becomes rigid, stagnant, and oppressive. We become bound to our attachments because we have lost our ability to recognize that we have a choice to be free of them."

What you accept of yourself is what you are, you have a billion other choices.

Wotoporiously cool speaking

You're on point

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Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Iamzealousman: 6:39pm On Aug 15, 2022
Adeling:
You're definitely an introvert that's for sure.

The fact that you're shy doesn't give you enough latitude to do the things you do. You need to work on that.

I'm a shy person my self and barely talk to people in real life. There're billionaires who are shy too and would do anything to avoid the crowd.

Turn your shyness to sth positive

But I am lost opportunities and relationships due to this
Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Peskid147: 10:31pm On Aug 15, 2022
Iamzealousman:


But I am lost opportunities and relationships due to this
yes we know, those opportunities are not meant for you, better opportunities will locate you if you stop all those bad habits and move close to GOD. I am also an introvert and melancholic by nature. I have only 3 close friends and all of them are not in the same state with me, I stay in Lagos while one is in kogi state the second one in sokoto state and the last one in nasarawa state so you see I don't have friends in Lagos but am a 'very confident with my self. Just be confident and positive I like reading books and it has really helped my self esteem.
Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Nozino: 10:32pm On Aug 15, 2022
Iamzealousman:
The subject has been heating me up for a long long long time.

Been shy as made me like a sub human.

Been shy as taking a lot of opportunities from me. I have lost jobs, friends, potential relationships etc.

Been shy as made me a regular customer with addictions e.g watching porn and masterbation and sometimes i visit betting shops losing a whole lot of money for no reason oo. Just to ensure I overcome been bored

Been shy as made me unproductive because I dwell most time on the fact that I am shy hating myself for this and not doing the right things at the right time always procrastinating etc.

Been shy as made look like a bad man even tho I have good intentions.

Been shy as taken my relationship with God to the nearest minimum. I feel so distant!

Been shy as made me careless

Been shy as put me into debt

Been shy has made me broke.

Been shy as made me hate myself AND NOT MADE ME LEAVE UP TO MY FULL POTENTIALS

Been shy is BAD.

Been shy really is BAD.

How do I stop been shy and really change my life for good.

Guys please I need help.

I do not have any friends I am most times always on my own.

I have lost good job because of this
Like I said earlier I am in debt as a result of this.

It's really sad and depressing. Sometimes at the edge of this frustration I do silly thing and have the bad thoughts.








Try learn when to use “Been” and “Being”
Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Kobojunkie: 11:09pm On Aug 15, 2022
Iamzealousman:
The subject has been heating me up for a long long long time. Been shy as made me like a sub human. Been shy as taking a lot of opportunities from me. I have lost jobs, friends, potential relationships etc. Been shy as made me a regular customer with addictions e.g watching porn and masterbation and sometimes i visit betting shops losing a whole lot of money for no reason oo. Just to ensure I overcome been bored . Been shy as made me unproductive because I dwell most time on the fact that I am shy hating myself for this and not doing the right things at the right time always procrastinating etc. Been shy as made look like a bad man even tho I have good intentions. Been shy as taken my relationship with God to the nearest minimum. I feel so distant! Been shy as made me careless Been shy as put me into debt Been shy has made me broke. Been shy as made me hate myself AND NOT MADE ME LEAVE UP TO MY FULL POTENTIALS

Been shy is BAD. Been shy really is BAD. How do I stop been shy and really change my life for good. Guys please I need help. I do not have any friends I am most times always on my own. I have lost good job because of this Like I said earlier I am in debt as a result of this. It's really sad and depressing. Sometimes at the edge of this frustration I do silly thing and have the bad thoughts.
I have to agree that shyness is not the cause of any of the problems you indicate here. Seems a lot more that you lack motivation and as such have adopted some terrible habits along to way which have in turn helped turn your life in the wrong direction. undecided

Either you go out and get yourself some serious professional mental health counselling to help reorient you as an individual or you go back home and have a heart-to-heart with your parents about your life, how you feel in generation and what it is you are struggling with. I would suggest you maybe head back home to spend some serious time with mom and dad, pouring your heart out to them as their child and maybe allowing them to aide you in parsing and unravelling the knotted strings in your mind. If after a month of continuously doing this with them, nothing changes, then find yourself a professional mental health counselor immediately. undecided

There is nothing wrong with shyness in general. The Facebook guy, Mark something, is known to be famously shy. What you are dealing with is something else. undecided

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Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Iamzealousman: 5:05am On Aug 16, 2022
Nozino:


Try learn when to use “Been” and “Being”

It's kinda intentional. I really want to it to be a past tense and not a part of me
Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Jeromejnr(m): 5:08am On Aug 16, 2022
Iamzealousman:


It's kinda intentional. I really want to it to be a past tense and not a part of me

Then how did you ask a girl out confidently on your earlier thread?
Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Iamzealousman: 5:54am On Aug 16, 2022
Jeromejnr:


Then how did you ask a girl out confidently on your earlier thread?
Lol. It was a mishap. They girl rejected me because I asked her out through text
Re: What Do I Stand To Gain From This Life As A Shy Person by Iamzealousman: 2:33pm On Aug 30, 2022
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